Coach.

Why You Aren’t Manifesting Your Big Dreams

Why You Aren't Manifesting Your Big Dreams

I decided life was good.

It was good. It IS good.

And when you get to the place where you have a majority of all your needs met, life is good for most of us.

I was listening or reading, and I can’t even remember where from (because I seem to be reading like 5 books and listening to 2 – so it’s a mumble jumble mess in my brain sometimes! 🙂 ) when I was asked this question:

“Okay, now that you’ve traveled the world 5-star (of course), own 12 dream houses around the world, own 31 fancy cars (one for each day of the month with coordinated designer outfits and shoes – obs), now what?”

In other words, once you have all the money you could possibly ever want, then what? Then what is going to drive you? What is going to inspire you to wake up everyday?

(Another reason I dislike the word retirement because it conjures up visions of me knitting in a rocking chair and complaining at the 5 o’clock news, hitting my fist onto my TV tray or shaking it at the TV…and that depresses me to point where I don’t even care about retirement #truthspoken)

And, yes, I don’t have a car for everyday of the month (but I do have shoes for 6 months of the year if that counts!), but I have great imagination and visualization skills, and I get to this depressing point every time I do any of these stupid manifesting exercises where you have to visualize what you want out of life. (I’ve done this one lots and come out more miserable than before going in half the time!)

I say ‘stupid’ lovingly – but to me, a person who honestly isn’t motivated by money (although loves it!) it’s hard to care about manifesting a ton of sh*t that I’m not really interested in (aka. 12 houses/31 cars when that just seems like a ton of work to boot!) – (On a side note, I’m about 99% sure that I had royalty in a past life – LOL, so none of this over-the-top stuff really excites me at all. I’m a pretty happy camper, even in a tent – as long as there’s coffee and wifi….oh… and a 5-star tent…)

Actually, I know lots of people where money isn’t the true motivator. And when money isn’t your actual deep motivator, you have to go deeper.

WAY DEEPER.

Because…

This always goes back to living out your WHY.

What is it I want to do?

What is it I’m here to do?

What is it I LOVE to do?

What do I want to do even if I have all the money in the world?

What VISION/DREAM/GOAL DO I WANT TO SEE THOUGH TO THE END?

Depression always sets in when you don’t know your why or are not living out the full self-expression of your soul.

It’s probably as simple and as difficult as that.

Finding your why and living in it fully is the best way to get out of a slump and put some pep into your step.

Sometimes easier said than done.

This I know.

And I’m a pretty self-expressed person (ask my girlfriends!) and yet I sometimes get stuck manifesting the BIG DREAMS!

This is why I get stuck – and maybe you too…..

The reason you aren’t manifesting your BIG DREAMS is probably one of two reasons:

  • you don’t really want what you want badly enough and/or
  • you don’t have enough clarity/emotion/feeling/excitement around your vision to carry it out

So I sit here, in my fancy dining room this morning, in my comfy life and think what’s the point?!

What’s the point of messing up my comfort zone?

What’s the point when LIFE IS GOOD, BUT NOT GREAT?

Is this all there is?

YES! This is all there is (at this moment) because this is all you’ve created thus far.

This place you are reading this – LOOK AROUND – you created it.

Your soul knows you are a powerful creator and you can create more.

But I think this is what happens to most of us… we hit the “COMFY LIFE ZONE”.

Once you hit “COMFY LIFE ZONE” (which I would say is most of middle America and hence why Netflix does so well) it takes a lot to step out of that and go PLAY A BIGGER GAME than the one you are currently playing.

And I do know this:

My WHY has to be bigger than my comfy life.

I will say and most people who know me (and if you’ve been following me for the last 145 weeks or so….) you probably know that I do know my why, and I do.

But there are days when I’m happy to take the back seat and let “COMFY LIFE” be the driver. Those are usually fun days.

Brain goes off.

Scandal goes on.

Chocolate goes in.

(Or I do the Olivia Pope diet of Red Wine & Popcorn…)

The problem for me (and when I say me, I mean you are probably going to resonate with this too, ’cause we all the same deep down) –

I haven’t, continually (continually being the key word), reached harmony between me, myself and my WHY.

This is important for anything you want in your life, my loves…. listen up…

You have to create the feelings within yourself first before they can show up in your reality, in your outside world.

Only if harmony is within will you find it outside of you.

Everything you want has to come from you first –

NOTHING COMES FROM OUTSIDE OF YOU.

God planted it in you. There’s nothing to find ‘OUT THERE’!

It’s all ‘IN HERE’!

TAP IN:

  • to your brilliance within
  • to your power within
  • to your flow within
  • to your dreams within
  • to your happiness within
  • to your world within

Once you really get this, and really understand the power of this – you will be able to fully step into whatever reality you choose for yourself.

And if that isn’t the cat’s meow, then I’m at a loss for words…

xx

 

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Coach.

Choosing New Beliefs

Choosing New Beliefs

New Beliefs.

Here are a few of mine from this week!

These ones caught me off guard – in the sense that I’ve never heard them before (or I get to hear them in a new light) and I am now choosing to write them on my soul as new beliefs to hold – after all, we all get to choose our beliefs, right?!

This first one was from a James Altucher blog and then re-stated by Katrina Ruth in one of her blog’s:

“Every action comes from LOVE or FEAR.”  

Boom! Wow, I wrote something similar in my book about the 2 questions you need to ask yourself as you go through life, but this kinda hits home. When you say or do something, what is the real REAL reason for doing so? You know the truth always. And fear can be good or bad fear, so it’s up to you to tune in and figure out what’s true for you. Sometimes you have to face your fears, and doing so is out of love. But let’s be real, most times we act out of fear it’s not in our best interest.

Second thing was from Dr. Joe Vitale, although, I’ve also heard it back 20 years ago from T. Harv Eker.

“Money loves speed.”

Taking fast action on the ideas that come into your head or the opportunities that come into your life – priceless! – especially when it comes to the law of attraction and creating wealth and providence naturally follows. It’s basically following your gut, your intuition and let’s be real again, that sounds kinda zany and most people will look at you like your are crazy, but you’re not here to care what other people think anyways – follow that idea down the path – run with it!

The third thing I read this week that I honestly never heard before, and to be fair, I haven’t even tested this one out, nor have I researched it, but my intuition kind said, “oh that makes sense.”

This one was also from Dr. Joe Vitale.

“You created this moment from what you thought and felt three days ago. What you are thinking and feeling right now will create your next moments.” 

At first, I was like no way – three days is a long time, but then…

Yup.

That’s one of those soul truths that you kinda just get to know deep down on a soul level.

No explanation needed.

Beliefs.

New beliefs.

Being allowed to choose new beliefs.

One of the best gifts given to humanity.

Live Your Legacy!

xx

 

 

 

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Creating Your Money Philosophy

Your Money Philosophy

Money.

This is where it should start:

Thoughtfully & intentionally creating your money philosophy.

But it doesn’t.

Most of us get stuck with some weird distorted hand-me-down version of this from our parents – the same people who, no doubt, also taught us that Happy Meals were an actual food group or that “tails” were totally the bomb hair-style when you were 8.

Somewhere down the road good ol’ mommy & daddy’s money issues became our own, or if we were so smart to out-smart the parents, then we adopted the opposite money philosophy, usually about as deadly to our financial health as the ones our parents actually raised us to believe.

Either way, the most of us are ‘OOOOH’ for 1.

Enter: The Money Philosophy

My mentor, the brilliant Brooke Castillo on her podcast, gave me this idea and I have expanded on it in my own little way.

So I’m going to guide you on getting started and really thinking through your money philosophy and I actually encourage you to write this down.

It’s simple.

Yet, oddly digs deep and uncovers more of those dang money blocks!

AND it gets you to think for yourself and what works for your life.

You can’t really cheat – if you copy your neighbors answers on this one it will leave you miserable and unfulfilled, and this done right will do the opposite for you – uncover your MONEY brilliance!

Your Money Philosophy

Question 1

What are your baseline minimums when it comes to money?

  • What is the minimum you will keep in your bank account at all times?
  • What is the minimum you will earn each month?
  • What is the minimum you will save/invest each month?
  • What is the minimum you will spend each month?
  • What is the minimum you will tip when you go out for services?
  • What is the minimum star-rating hotel you will stay at?
  • What is your minimum quality of life your will have?
  • etc.etc.

Creating a minimum will help you determine the absolute lowest standard you will be able to live with, and then you can go about increasing it as needed.

Minimums give you a standard that you have to live up to and by constantly being in integrity around what is acceptable to you and what is not acceptable to you, and keeping your word to yourself you actually elevate yourself to the next level! You feel proud of yourself for at least accomplishing the minimum.

I encourage you to take baby steps here. Start small.

This is between you and you.

Question 2

What does money mean to you? List 5 words to describe what money means to you.

I got this question from my favorite money badass, Jen Sincero. Look up her books amazing!

For me, money means this:

  • Freedom: Being able to do what I want when I want
  • Fame: Not like being famous fame, but being recognized in your field, getting your message out there & helping more people
  • Fun: For F’s Sake! Everything ought to be fun! People who don’t laugh with me or even at me, I find boring. Loosen up! Lighten up! (when you are stressed out about money, that’s NOT fun!)
  • Flow: Living your life in flow, being able to give yourself what you need to THRIVE (also known as self-care) & high vibe it
  • Fancy: Means exactly that – I can buy fancy stuff – from designer latte’s, drive my baby Q around, go for high tea while holding up my pinky… you know, fancy stuff…

Question 3

This questions comes from Lisa Elle’s financial book, STRUT: How to Kick Financial ASSets in Sexy Shoes (wait, can one quote oneself without sounding narcissistic or ridiculously amazing?!)

What is your why?

This is where the rubber meets the road always.

What are you working toward that is bigger than just you? What are you doing to increase the good vibes on this planet? What makes you feel alive? What makes you feel like you are a 15-year-old in love for the first time or like the time you finally allowed yourself to make love to some carbohydrates after a year in the Keto desert?

What is your why?

Are you tuned into it?

Have you even sat still for 5-minutes to contemplate what this really is and then chosen to live you life by letters of your own law?

I could go on and on about what to include or think about when creating your money philosophy, but this one’s on you.

Create the MoFo out of your Money Philosophy and then make in non-negotiable.

Live by it everyday.

xx

 

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Coach.

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When a closed mind is necessary….You need to read this!

One of my favorite things to do in the whole wide world is Philosophy & Coffee. If I could sit around all day and BS, debate for the sake of debating and have my mind challenged, no agenda – I would love this! (Anyone free this morning?! 🙂 )

This probably comes from my childhood, sitting around the farm table on a Saturday morning with Opa, Oma and a big pot of coffee, talking about everything under the sun. Looking back, this is no doubt where my open mind and curiosity came from.

Something I repeat to myself daily, as part of my life mantra, core belief that I choose to hold, is that ‘I have an open mind‘.

And thus far, I believe it has served me well.

Having and keeping an open mind, I believe offers this:

  • true love
  • understanding of others

And if that short list doesn’t sell you on why you should keep mostly an open mind, then you will choose being ‘right’ over probably having JOY in your life. (<– & that rabbit hole is for another day!)

BUT, I want to share with you today about when it is necessary to have a closed mind.

Because, like most things in life, there isn’t just one way to BE.

There are times that call for closed-mindedness. 

Yesterday, I was driving and listening to one of my fav’s from 1910. Yes, the year 1910. Good ol’ Wallace D. Wattles.

The Science of Getting Rich.

I’ve listened and read it many many times over. Like anything, you always get new and different messages from the same material when you study it.

This was no different.

He brought up really good points on why one would at times need to keep a closed mind.

This really challenged me!

And then I realized this….

I’m keeping a closed mind to having anything but an open mind.

The ultimate in irony. A true paradox.

I feel I have to be RIGHT about having an open mind and that people with closed minds come across….

unkind –

to say the least. I’m sure I can come up with a lot of other words for what I think of true closed-minded people!

Seriously, I personally find it hard to relate to people who have to be right all the time and don’t even entertain new ideas or thoughts or world views.

However, I was really confronted with this whole open/closed mind thing yesterday when Wattles was talking about manifesting your one true desire, accomplishing your BIG goals.

The place where closed-mindedness comes into play is when you are following the deep desires of your heart, and set out big plans or goals. The BIG Vision of what you want to create and bring into the world.

In the beginning, sure, it takes an open heart to be able to figure out your desires, goals and how you want your life to look but once you have that figured out, put on some blinders and ear plugs.

Being closed minded means you need to drown out the NOISE of the world pulling you in different directions with conflicting advice.

Some examples:

  • Diets: Eat this, don’t eat this. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Business: Sell this way, don’t market that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Money: Invest this way, don’t spend your money that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Relationships: Love this way, don’t say that. Do this, don’t do that.

You will get a million different opinions from a million different people. EVERY TIME.

If you are seeking a quorum, or mentally tallying votes on what to do in a certain situation, or figuring out who’s doing what – DON’T.

You may be doing it subconsciously on some level.

(I tally votes in my head on how people choose their diets and exercise… ALL THE TIME! Vegan, Keto, Frenchfrychocolatarian (it’s probably a thing!), Macro-nutrients, intermittent fasting, yoga, Pilates, cross-fit…..)

We all do. Follow the crowd, that is. Want to fit in, that is. Want to be accepted and loved.

When you are in hot pursuit of your goal, that’s when you really want to focus in.

  • Focus in on 1 or 2 mentors.
  • Focus in on 1 or 2 good books.
  • Focus in on what feels right.
  • Focus in on what is placed on your heart.
  • Focus in on the big vision.

This is how all great things have been accomplished.

  • not listening to the crowd
  • not reading contradicting materials
  • not seeking out opinions of others
  • not following 100 different mentors all with different messages

Now, let’s me be truthful here. I’m so bad at this.

I love learning.

If you are a learner and you have natural curiousity, you will most likely have the same problem that I have encountered.

My biggest problem is that I do listen to everyone and what everyone is telling me (aka. gurus, mentors, books (I read a LOT), family, friends, etc.) for the most part ALL contradicts each other.

So I’m left in a MUDDLE of THOUGHTS and no real direction on what is right for me. (And this is fine in the beginning and necessary to learn, but after a while, it gets old!)

I felt that way before I wrote my book STRUT: How to Kick Financial ASSets in Sexy Shoes!

Writing out all my financial beliefs and thoughts on money was one way I clarified to myself what I really believed.

Funny how writing and journaling always seem to bring clarity!

Oh, and with this closed-mindedness, you don’t need to actually be a rude jerk, you can just smile and nod when you are getting advice or just kindly say, “No, that’s not for me right now.” Maybe revisit it in the future.

Something that isn’t for you right now, or for this season in your life, could possibly be something AMAZING for your life later on.

Kinda like how I hated Math and English (barely passed) in high school, and had to beg my English 101 teacher in University to pass me, almost to the point where my professor would have me swear on a Bible that I would never write anything……. and then who became the Financial Planner (by the way, I got an A+ in university math!) and then became a writer a decade later?

Timing.

Tuning In.

Knowing what you want to accomplish.

Being a little picky and closed-mindedness will go a long way in accomplishing that specific vision you have.

Thomas did it.

Albert did it.

Nikola did it.

Every great thing you’ve ever seen was first completed in someone’s mind.

How clear is your vision? What are you setting out to accomplish?

Bottom Line: The clearer your vision, the less open-mindedness you will have – which is what needs to happen for you to bring that vision to reality.

For me, that means:

  • I need to say a few more NO’s.
  • I need to focus on my 2 current mentors for my business.
  • I need to (for the meantime) stop reading conflicting business advice.
  • I need to stop listening to all the advice thrown my way from the loving peanut gallery – ’cause the opinions (on all parts of your life) are readily available every time you pick up the phone.

If you want to keep spinning your wheels, stay in confusion with your vision or your life in general, entertain and follow all the thoughts that enter your mind.

No truer words have been spoken.

xx

 

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Coach.

Life Is Calling…..

Life Is Calling Blog

If I’m honest with you, I’m sitting here this morning with total fear.

‘What ifs’ have got me by the short & curlies. (Can a lady even say that?!?! LOL)

Life is calling me.

And sometimes I hang up on it. I don’t return its emails. And even, heaven forbid, sometimes, I don’t even text back. (GASP!)

I actually got like 6 different downloads pouring out of me this morning (I’m tuned in & dialed in this morning!), but the one I’m choosing is the one I need to hear. (I’ll write the rest this week for you!)

This is the one I’m struggling with.

And no doubt, 99% of the planet…

Living Life to THE FULL.

I’m still not allowing it all in.

You’re still not allowing it all in.

Not allowing yourself to live life to the full….

This means that you have a main block in one of three areas: HEALTH, WEALTH, or LOVE

And here’s the truth…

If you have a blockage in one area, you have a blockage in ALL areas because they are all connected.

They say you can’t have it all – but that’s not a belief I choose to hold. (Don’t forget you get to pick and choose the beliefs you hold!)

To my core, to every last cell in my body, I do believe that I CAN HAVE IT ALL!

The HEALTH of my dreams.

The WEALTH of my dreams.

The RELATIONSHIPS of my dreams (dream friends, dream clients, family, love – it all.)

Where are you DAMNED up?

Seriously, if your life, your blood, your breath moves like a powerful RIVER within you, then where is the damn-dam?

It’s stuck somewhere within.

You know this on a deep level.

Sure, life may seem good.

And it is! No doubt!

However, why is it not GREAT?!

Why haven’t you stepped into your power?

(We talked about this Friday Night on my Facebook Live – you can look it up on my Facebook page…. it did include a GT!)

Then you know that power has to come from within, it’s not something that is external. It’s not something that you can go looking for outside of you, or something you can ever force or force upon another person.

Power must and always comes from within.

When you are dammed up, stuck, stagnant in life, you know that you are certainly not in your power, and you are certainly not living life to the FULL (which by the way is something every one of us is called to!)

We are called to live in total HEALTH, ABUNDANCE & LOVE!

But we can’t have the healthy body, the money, or the love we desire if we don’t allow FLOW in our life.

See what I said there? “ALLOW”

Meaning, it’s already there, it’s just something we need to “LET IN”!

We need to give ourselves PERMISSION.

I think I read Brené Brown would write herself PERMISSION slips to be able to allow her to do great things.

I think it’s the same for most of us.

We are still waiting for some magic fairy, or magic partner, or God outside us to give us permission to be GREAT, to allow perfect FLOW in our lives and to use our power within, and how crazy is that?

God is within us. Meaning all the power is within us, and that you already have all the power, strength, knowledge, tools WITHIN you to live the GREAT LIFE.

So, we live GOOD lives. We established that. Most of us do live a very good life.

But it’s not GREAT.

Good is comfortable.

I was telling a friend how freakin’ comfortable my life is.

And it is….

I have manifested the current life I live – no doubt.

I am a powerful manifestor. (HINT: SO ARE YOU!)

I manifested this life before I was 30. And had everything I ever wanted by 30.

(Read my book STRUT if you want to know more about that!)

But here’s the thing, as it is with goals & life, don’t you really want to live out this life with no regrets and make it GREAT?

There will always be the next level.

Next level HEALTH

Next level WEALTH

Next level LOVE

ALWAYS….

(and for LOVE, I’m talking all your relationships, in case you are curious.. I’m talking about taking all your relationships to that next level of love!)

I’m one of those people who had a big goal and accomplished it.

Actually, I’ve done that a few times.

It’s an amazing high, and then, you typically crash after… I did.

I’ve crashed a lot after reaching goals. I crashed around 33. I crashed after my book launched. I crashed after I launched my company. I always seem to crash after running the half-marathons (Literally!) I probably crashed after every time I completed more letters behind my name. I crash often.

(Especially after losing 5 pounds, I totally reward myself with a new 5 pounds! HA!)

The only reason I crash is because I didn’t believe that I could HAVE IT ALL back then, and when you accomplish something great, it typically disappears or leaves you if you haven’t created the belief system around it to hold the space for your great accomplishments. It’s self sabotage at its best.

So, this is what I want to leave you with today…

Life is CALLING YOU to be GREAT and to LIVE to the FULL. (I’m pretty sure even Jesus says this a few times!)

Do you believe that you can live life to the full and have total HEALTH, WEALTH & LOVE in your life?

What if you let go? What if you allowed the dam to break? What if you stopped holding on so tight?

What if you actually believed that you were allowed to have it all?

After all,

LIFE IS CALLING!

Live YOUR Legacy!!

xx

 

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Create.

Are You Bringing Forth Your Light?

I’m purposely self(ish).

‘ISH’ means just a little, right?

I’m sure there are people that think I’m fully selfish, and others that think I’m selfless – in reality, I think most of us fall somewhere in between.

I love people so much, however, I cherish my alone time, self-care, exercise and writing time even more and for me to be the best me, that typically involves minimum 3-6 hours a DAY of alone time.

“Holy crazy lady!” – is what you are probably thinking right now!

But this is by design.

I seriously changed my entire life this year to honour my soul first & do a self-check-in every day before I go out into the world.

I think that’s a gift to the world! And to be honest, probably the greatest gift I can give the world – The BEST VERSION OF ME!

And mark my words, if I don’t get my “ME TIME”, I’m grouchy. I curmudgeonly go about my day like a light has been blown out or worse….

THE HULK.

Not on purpose.

It just feels like the light is out, because I didn’t fan my flames and keep the light going for the day.

For me this self-care involves, writing, working out, speaking, planning, reading, singing, listening, growing, sharing. Whatever my souls needs to get me to the place where I bring myself to be the light I choose to be in the world.

It comes across as selfish I’m sure to so many. And yes, I realize there will be people who will never understand this.

Some people never will.

Some people “expect” me to do things to fit in with the world.

And when I do follow the crowd, I end up drained. Exhausted. Asleep….

I don’t. I won’t. (Oh, and I refuse to do what the crowd is doing and I refuse to do what I’m told to do – because normal is downright boring to me. Can you relate?)

And I know that I don’t fit into the box of what most people think is normal.

And every day, I’m more and more okay with it.

I actually have no choice but to be okay with it.

If I’m not doing me the way that I want to be doing me, what’s the point of it all anyway?

Do you get it yet?

Do you understand yet why you need to do you, be you, live you?

Why do you need to bring your art into the world? Bring forth your craziest of desires, your dreams and make them a reality?

It’s your responsibility!

Will people laugh at me? Maybe. But people suck sometimes.

Will people support me? Maybe. Some will, many won’t. And that’s okay.

But you can’t quit.

You can’t give up.

You can’t stop.

When you are living your deepest sense of purpose, the right people will show up always. (Belief I CHOOSE to hold.)

I think so many people still know they were born for more.

The ones that gave up, or maybe deep down weren’t born for more, we aren’t friends.

Nothing against them, but it’s just that the natural laws of the laws of attraction wouldn’t even let someone like that to read the first sentence of this post, let alone be a friend on my facebook page ? That’s how the rules work. I don’t make them, I just observe them. (Lots and Lots of observation in this area – the natural laws of attraction don’t fail!)

Are you bringing forth your art? Whatever it is? Are you literally birthing your dreams?

Can I paint a picture of what happens to your soul when you don’t?

It withers.

It dies.

You die.

You become a moving, talking body of emptiness.

Bleak. Obsolete. Dark.

You can always spot a person with the light ON inside them. They are living in a place of full self-expression and they don’t really care what other people think.

They are following what lights them up. I see it all the time, from the women I connect with to daily online to seeing that sparkle inside someone who just created something they are so damn proud of.

Can I tell you a secret?

It doesn’t matter what you do. I mean, it really doesn’t matter.

You could be the best pencil carver in the world, or the best rock collector. You could create the best cake or dance the best jig.

The “WHAT” really doesn’t matter.

Because here is the secret, if you are living in flow, on purpose, in that place that lights you up, you will leave the people around you touch, moved and inspired.

You will light up a part of their soul.

How many times have you seen this? Someone living ‘in spirit’?

And then after you feel like you can do anything? They inspired you so much that even though you know doing what they did isn’t for you, you feel like you want to excel at what you do?

And it’s not just adults, the most inspiring kid I met last summer at camp could do a Rubik’s cube in less than 2 minutes. Watching him absolutely blew my mind!

The problem with watching people who inspire you usually brings about another problem.

The voice that says you will never be that good at anything.

The voice that starts quiet and slowly becomes louder in your head.

And then I buy a Rubik’s cube, and can’t even get one side of colors to match in 10 minutes, even after watching endless YouTube tutorials!

“You suck! You will never be able to do this!”

And it’s true. There’s a good chance you will never do anything your heart isn’t into….

Because here’s a deep truth of mine: I’m really not into Rubik’s cubes.

My soul’s true work will not be to complete a Rubik’s cube in under a minute.

That is another soul’s work, another soul’s calling.

Not mine.

So, you have to do what calls to you. You can’t fake this.

You can fake a lot of things in life. Women are good at this… ?

But you can’t fake the thing that moves you to the core, the thing that leaves others inspired.

You can’t fake your dreams.

You can’t fake inspiration.

So, STOP faking it – cause some of you are just going through the motions.

**NEWSFLASH**

We can always tell when you aren’t living your best, most inspired life. You’ll never be able to hide that from us. You’re drained. You’re tired. You’re out of energy.

Figure this out for your sake mostly, but also for us onlookers of your life.

Start living in the way that inspires you most (yes, even if you think it’s selfish and even if the people around you think it’s selfish – because it’s not), because you WILL create a unique cause and effect on the world that is greater and more powerful than all the elements combined.

Something only your unique beautiful DNA can do.

Something only your soul can bring forth.

Be you.

Mark my words.

And I would preach this from the mountain tops – it’s your responsibility to live from a place of inspiration and bring forth your art!

You have no greater command than to LOVE yourself (which means to live in a place of a happy-fully-self-expressed-pencil-whittler-rock-collector-writer-dancer-lover-musician-carver-painter-designer-speaker-communicator-artist-planner-driver-athlete-creator-you), which also (by default) means you are loving your creator (which was technically the first command), who created you to create for the benefit of yourself and others (which was the part about loving your neighbour as you LOVE yourself).

Are you giving the world the best version of you? Are you bringing it?

xx

 

 

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Leadership.

The Most Important Thing A Leader Needs To Do

The Most Important Thing a Leader Needs To Do

Leaders.

You’re reading this because you are one.

You know it deep in your soul.

Some aren’t and that’s okay.

I’m always amazed at the people I meet who know they aren’t meant to lead. And I admire them.

They have their own important purpose here, and it manifests in the most spectacular ways.

But this message, it’s specifically for the leaders…

The ones who were called.

The ones who know they are meant to lead, and create big changes in the world.

This is for you.

You’re wondering why it isn’t happening yet?

You’re wondering if you are making a difference at all?

You’re out on a limb and in constant flux of wondering if any of this is even what you are called to do – that’s how much self-doubt you’ve had around your calling lately?

You’re starting to think the stars will never align?

You’re wondering if you were just meant to live a small life at the end of day? Cause let’s face it – it’s easy to do that. Shrink. Play small.

I’m there with you.

I see you.

I get you.

And then, there’s that still small voice.

Tiny.

So tiny that it gets drowned out by your day-to-day life, but it’s there constantly, like a little child begging for candy. Consistently. Annoying even…

And then it’s laden with “what ifs”.

You want to change an outcome. You want to create a positive impact.

If your leadership goals are in alignment with the highest good for mankind – it will come to pass. It CAN’T NOT.

A double negative.

Follow me here for a minute.

You have a vision.

Your desires, your vision, your dreams were all placed on your heart for a reason.

A beautiful vision for what you want to create and bring into the world.

That is love.

Love is high vibe. Meaning – it’s energy literally vibrating at the highest level.

If your vision was that of fear, anger, overall negative emotions, they are “low-vibe” and vibrating at a much lower level, it will always be easily overtaken by the high vibration of positive emotions for our highest good – like love, joy, peace, kindness…

Do you get where I’m going with this?

Your vision is a frequency.

The highest frequency will win.

Negative anything can’t win when it’s standing for LOVE.

As a leader, it is your responsibility to hold your vision for the world at the highest level, in the highest regard, above all else. ABOVE ALL ELSE.

You can’t associate, or let in the people who bring down your vision.

You protect your baby. At all costs.

No different than you would your own children.

This is just a spiritual protection. It’s also physical, mental and emotional.

Leadership isn’t an easy calling.
It never is – if it was, then everybody would be doing it and be successful at it.

How do you become a leader?

Simple.

You hear the calling.

You answer it.

You anoint and appoint yourself to bring this vision into the world.

How do you fulfill your calling as a leader?

Simple.

You hold the vision you have for the world in the highest regard and frequency surrounded by so much LOVE.

Always. Consistently.

It will win. Your vision you have for the world, will win.

It has to.

Otherwise, it’s all futile.

In vain.

Meaningless.

Until you put meaning on it. And hold that vision, that vibration for the good of what you are birthing into the world…

AND It is simple, my leaders.

I never said easy.

xx

 

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Create.

My Soul Craved An Adventure Today…

My soul craved an adventure today.

 

So I put on my sexiest panties. And threw off the old, nasty, granny panties and got dressed. Why do I think I’m not even good enough for my new sexy panties???

 

I dropped by my office, left a courier and some files for my assistant, and took off on the open road.

 

Calendar open this morning. By design.

 

Luckily when you live on the edge of a small town, smaller towns are near by and you can get lost in some cute cozy cafe, mismatched chairs, with some farmer and people you’ll never see again.

 

I am getting funny looks.

 

City girl, for lack of a better word, (clearly, my panties are too sexy for this town! Yikes!) with designer purse, in a land where they don’t pull out their devices to blog about their day, they might have a flip phone if lucky. They just have coffee and grey hair, and I’m oddly jealous, just a little.

 

I’m transported to Tennessee. I swear. Jason Aldean in my ears. Fly Over States. Reminds me of the simpler life.

 

So my mind is clear. Happy content.

 

I’m on an adventure.

 

Time stands still.

 

When you choose not to hide yourself, your light, your message – there are consequences.

 

This I am learning.

 

I’ve learned this lesson 5 times this week.

 

What choice does one have when one has a calling? A purpose? Their heart to follow?

 

And it’s hard for a people pleaser like myself to ‘offend others’ or have people not like me. And I know that not everybody will like me, but it still hurts. It always will. These are the human parts of us.

 

I’m at a cozy cafe I’m calling the nest. But in reality it’s a seedy motel in a small town, smelling of greasy coffee and fake plastic flowers on the table…  and again I’m in love.

 

I ordered the ‘sunny’ breakfast. There were 3 choices for breakfast.

 

Somehow, sitting with the farmers across the room, hearing them talk reminds me of my Opa and sitting at the farm table growing up, shooting the shit on everything and anything….  for the sake of it. No agenda. Just coffee in hand.

 

I’m committed to this adventure. To living life on the edge – and I already know it’s not for everyone…. by design… perfect design. But it is for me.

 

So, I don’t hide behind these words I write. I share them as authentically with you as if you are here beside me.

 

You and me.

 

Two souls having coffee out in a small prairie town with all the time in the world.

 

Invest.

What I REALLY Wanted To Say…..

What I Really Want To Say

I did a segment on Global TV morning news a few days ago.

It was FINE, however, I never got a chance to drive home what I really wanted to drive home. I had a lot to say, which didn’t get said. (You’re shocked right?!)

AND I have a platform, as we all do, and so I’m going to share it because I still feel it needs to be said.

So here is what I REALLY wanted to say in my morning interview, colorful language and all…. but that’s at the end of this post (or just scroll to the end!) 😉

#nofilter

A couple Quick RRSP tips & Strategies to Maximize your RRSP (blah, blah)

#1) Save monthly.  Because usually, it’s easier to have smaller chunks leave your bank account than have to come up with a large sum at tax time if you haven’t saved money throughout the year. However, on that note, lots of my clients get bonuses from their employer, usually in February, which they typically put in their RRSP which makes it easy to do, but nonetheless, I think creating a monthly saving habit is key. Plus, if you are investing in the stock market or mutual funds with your RRSP, then you can take advantage of dollar-cost averaging into the market, which means your just buying up new share or units every month and taking advantage of market cycles.

#2) I really want to make a point to say this. People are always so concerned about their Rate of Return on their investments. Which is super important, however, there is usually one BIG thing that I find people don’t talk about until after it’s too late, and that is TAX PLANNING.  Be very aware that withdrawing $60,000 from your RRSP versus your TFSA have very different tax consequences. And I find the cooler talk, or what everyone wants to know about is what the rate of return on your investments is at, but they don’t really ask what after-tax return or what the real numbers are.  $1,000,000 in your RRSP is NOT a million dollars in your hands to spend and I think that is one of the most overlooked aspects when it comes to investing in general. We all want to know what our Marijuana stocks or Bitcoin did because it’s fun and sexy and nothing about taxes is sexy. Let’s just be honest here…

#3) Reinvest your tax refund. If you overpaid your taxes you will be getting a refund. Take your tax refund and reinvest it. Especially if your income is consistent and high, this will help you in savings as well. (But if you feel you need to go on a trip to Europe to blow off some steam, then do that……)

Here are some more things, I planned to say but didn’t.

In regards to the question,

  • SHOULD YOU INVEST IN RRSP or TFSA or Pay down debt or your mortgage?

These were my notes:

First, There is NO right answer here and sorting through that will for most people require some guidance from a financial professional. Hence, why if you are serious about paying the least amount of tax or wanting to grow your ASSets you probably should work with a financial professional.

I have 3 things here to consider as well to help you with this.

1) Canadians need to Start saving.

In 2015 only 65% of Canadians paid into either a TFSA, RRSP or Both. That means 35% of Canadians or basically one 1 out of 3 Canadians are not saving anything. And I think that number is alarming, as is the fact that out of the 65% that are saving, a majority of those people do not have adequate retirement savings and will still need to rely solely on government programs such as CPP and OAS.

Only 6 – 8% of Canadians have maximized their RRSP or TFSAs.

However, I will say every investment tool and strategy has a place and is not for everyone.

Cash is king for the most part – so on that note, so is liquidity or investments you can liquidate quickly if need be for an emergency and I don’t think most people have that – which is one of the foundational things in financial planning.

2) The second thing is this, you can make a plan to get out of debt and if you don’t incur any more debt, your debt is finite, meaning there is an end to it. On the flip side, saving, accumulating, investing, investing in yourself, or businesses that help others – there is unlimited potential there, and that means that your investments do have the possibility to grow, technically they are infinite. I think there is a way to save and pay down debt, anything is possible with a plan, which brings me to my last point…

3) And lastly, my third thing to consider is it’s never too late to start. One of the things I find, and a huge part of my message for Canadians is that it’s never too late to save, however, I find shame and embarrassment, and all the things we “SHOULD HAVE” done but didn’t get in the way of our “getting started”. Then we feel guilty for not doing that and then we panic and fear sets in and we get into overwhelm. A big part of my message is money forgiveness and getting people to forget their past money mistakes, make a financial plan, make a plan to get out of debt and move on. So forgive yourself.  I’ve made huge financial mistakes, and I am 100% certain I will in the future, but it’s about forgiving yourself and making a plan and moving forward so you can live your dreams with clarity, confidence, and courage.

ALL THAT IS GREAT – and would’ve made a GREAT INTERVIEW, however…..

WHAT I REALLY WANTED TO SAY IS…

None of this shit matters. I mean, it does matter, as does anything we humans give meaning to, but we are the ones giving meaning to it.

Is it important to you? If it is, pursue it with your whole heart.

If it’s not, then it’s not for you. It’s not what you are here to do, or what you are called to do. If God didn’t plant that desire in your heart, then let that be someone else’s dream, don’t force something that’s not yours. (I mean this for ALL areas of your life, not just vocation & money goals.)

When it comes to money, and you know deep down in your soul that abundance in ALL areas of life is available to everyone once we decide to choose it and call it into our lives. All your needs will be met, and all your wants are a possibility that you can call into your life experience, then don’t be so focused on that lack side of this equation or the fear side of not having enough money. You can go about making money the hard way, or you can just call it in.

There is no magic formula for wealth. The choice is always yours.

  • Are you living your life in a way that makes you feel self-expressed, full, deep joy, & happiness?
  • Are you shining your light in the way that you know you were meant to?
  • Are you keeping your word with yourself & honoring your HEART, body, mind & SOUL?
  • Are you doing what you said you will do?
  • Are you creating value and making a difference?

or

  • Are you still just doing what you think will please other people?
  • Are you still trying to impress your boss?
  • Are you still trying to follow societies formula for success or wealth?
  • Are you still letting your fear and ego run the show?
  • Are you still not choosing beliefs that will serve you going forward?

The money is always a by-product of your thoughts.

End of story….  almost…

Ready for a run on sentence?

I personally think when you can get to a place where you love yourself, even if you cringe at seeing yourself on TV (I rarely re-read or re-watch any of my content because I find that doesn’t serve me…) and you get to decide what serves you and doesn’t serve you in this life, and you did your best and you know you are living in your purpose and living on purpose, and you know you have the power, knowledge & support of the entire universe at your back, you get to live in that magical place where you don’t give a flying fuck what anyone thinks (yes, she said that), and you can BE LOVE & SHINE LOVE.

This is all that matters.

Take it or leave it.

And I’m good if you leave it.

 

This is the message I need today.

xx

 

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Coach.

Inspire

Inspire Blog

I just deleted the whole page.

It sucked.

You know when you are doing the work and you aren’t feeling it. There’s no inspiration.

And that’s okay – cause I will say 99% of the work we do is just that… work. And that’s okay.

It takes the 99% to get the 1%.

What is the 1%?

It’s when you are living, working, breathing IN SPIRIT. 

Inspiration is wrought with all the markings of BEING IN LOVE – like when your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty – when you can barely catch your breath. (Like watching Virtue & Moir Ice Dance….holy inspiration!)

You know when you are ‘in spirit’ doing work and when you are not.

And like I said, it won’t happen every second, but if you are 100% work and 0% inspiration, then that’s going to cause your heart to fail, literally. It will wreak havoc in your life from not being able to fully express yourself. It will manifest itself as dis-ease within your body.

Why are you hiding from it?

Why are you hiding your work from the world? From me?

What if he didn’t sing your favorite song? What if she didn’t write your favorite book? What if you left the world with your gold still in you – Olympic or otherwise?

I get it.

You are scared.

Cause’ it’s scary. It sucks having to put it all out on the line. Vulnerability.

And half the time you will fail.

You’ll fail in love. You’ll fail in business. Your invention will suck. You’ll make mistakes and trip up.

But then……

There will come a time when you won’t fail. You won’t be the class clown. You won’t be looked upon as a failure.

There will come a time when you SUCCEED – you crush it, you rock it – you damn well have the world on a string.

And it’s not even so much what you get in that moment – cause you will ‘get’ to be proud of yourself (best feeling ever), but even more so, it’s what you end up giving to the WORLD….

You GIVE INSPIRATION!

You BREATHE INSPIRATION!

You BRING FORTH the craziest of feelings, shiniest of lights, the deepest sense of purpose, the greatest joy.

You will have given your gift to the world. You will inspire others at their deepest cellular level, the kind where you know your souls are connected and you can overcome any obstacle.

You will breathe LIFE into another.

Literally.

This then becomes the question to ask yourself in all things:

Are you breathing LIFE into others?

or

Are you taking it from them?

Surround yourself with LIFE breathers.

Distance yourself from the “suckers”.

LIFE breathers are all around you.

They show up in your life to inspire to bring you that second wind when you need it – cause if you are doing anything worthwhile it will turn up the ground of your soul and show up as every emotion under the sun – yes, the dirt and crap will come rising up from the depths of your soul…. that’s the growth part.

That’s why the spirit comes to dwell within – so that you can renew, restore, refresh your soil to grow up & out, and to find that light & share it.

Have you ever noticed when you get inspiration that nothing else matters? That the problems you were facing seem to dissipate? Get the feeling that anything is possible?

Anything is possible!

Sit with that for a min.

Anything is possible! What a gift to live in that space, and you have to protect that energy – protect that vibe – cause the suckers come out of nowhere and blow that light so fast… (and by suckers, I usually mean your negative self-talk – although, there are people that seem to have a knack for that too!)

When you live FULLY in that space of your deepest spirit you leave me touched, moved & full of possibility.

You leave me with my heart racing, sweaty palms, and the energy to continue on.

To those that have laid it all out on the field, the ice, the ground, the sky, the stage, the paper, the body, the canvas, the lab, the heart – thank you for being your spirit self-expressed – you have given me breath.

You have inspired me to do the same.

xx

 

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