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Find Your Worth

Find Your Worth

In less than a few weeks, I’m leaving one of the companies I’ve worked with for over 15 years. 

Even though it’s 100% the right decision for me at this point in my life, I still feel like it’s a divorce. I still wonder how I will go on without this relationship in my life. I now have to identify with something new, something different. 

Uncomfortable.

I didn’t realize that I have wrapped up a lot of my identity in who I work for or what I do for a living.  

So much of my worth as a person, my value.

And it gets worse….

I’ve also identified myself and my value with things like my resume, my skills, and if we are being BRUTALLY honest, things like my health, looks, financial stuff, relationships, where I live – ALL GOOD, BAD, or UGLY… doesn’t matter….

DOESN’T matter because – 

We all do it and it’s how we relate to the world, how we find our pecking order, our tribes, our places in this world.

And so I realize that is not going to change and that’s okay because we will never be able to fight the laws of attraction anyways.

Like will always attract like. 

This is where I have got stuck in the past. 

How do I separate myself from my accomplishments, the worldly things, the tribes I associate with (Motherhood, Work, Family, etc.)?

How do I just BE and then while BEING be okay with all that I am presently?

Be okay with the fact that I’m good enough?

That I’m worthy enough?

That I’m valuable enough?

I mean sure we sing songs in Sunday School about the fact that we are unique little unicorns, valuable, blah, blah… great for a 5-year-old.

Different for us older folk who’ve been around a little longer and realize we have to work for a living and work for all the stuff we think we want – not to mention that we are trying to survive and just make it day-to-day.

But how does one actually live like they are worthy of TRUE ABUNDANCE? In all the things, all the areas – the health, wealth & love? 

How do you FIND YOUR WORTH in a broken world?

And then comes the real questions that you are really asking here:  

“Who am I to be worthy of this? Who am I to be worthy of doing this great thing that my heart desires?”

And the answer always whispers from the deepest parts of your soul as it always will when you tune in and listen for it:

“Who are you not to? 

You were made for a moment such as this! For a decision, for a relationship, for a job, for a family, for a love, for a house, for a healthy body, for a purpose, for abundance such as this!”

And whisper grows louder and louder until one day it shouts at you and makes you practically pee your pants while you are walking down the aisle at the grocery store.

Oh ya… that small voice we’ve so kindly pushed aside for so long that just yelled at us – in a loving way of course…

You now can’t deny it. It’s there. It’s real. It’s not going away.

God really dislikes playing second fiddle in your life. Your universe that created you really REALLY dislikes you not LISTENING to the true desires of your heart.

The problem, and I say problem because it’s so hard to wrap your head around this one, is that I can’t do anything to become more valuable than I already am. 

We were born perfect and made perfect and born worthy and born valuable and let’s face it, there’s nothing – 

NOTHING – 

we can do to screw that up. 

Kinda takes all the fun out of life, doesn’t it?

But what am I supposed to strive for? What GOAL am I supposed to work for? Why am I supposed to make millions of dollars and why am I supposed to eat healthy? And why for God’s sake then do I have to get off the couch and turn off Netflix?

What if the secret to this whole thing was that there really was nothing to strive for? 

What if there was:

  • no course you need to take
  • no fancy school you need to graduate from
  • no amount of money you need to make
  • no high-paid job you need to get
  • no hot sexy relationship you had to be in
  • no big family you had to have
  • no hot car you need to drive
  • no fancy clothes, shoes or makeup you need to own
  • no special house you need to live in
  • no elaborate titles you need behind your name
  • no elite famous friends you need to have

What if you actually didn’t need any of that stuff?

What if you actually stopped looking for approval, validation and security outside yourself?

What if you could live in a space, the now, the present where you actually had all the stuff you were seeking?

What if the secret to it all never lied with the world outside of us?

What if all we had to do was listen to our higher self?

What if we stopped listening to the world, all the world – which includes:

partners, kids, parents, brothers, sisters, grandparents, bosses, co-workers, friends that mean well, some chick posting her blog on social media 😉  – 

What if we only listened within, what if we only took direction from our higher self, God, the universe, whatever you call it?

I think it’s like this:

You can do whatever you want in this life. No one is going to force you to follow your destiny, follow your desires. No one is going to force you to step into your destiny and get off the couch.

I also don’t think you have to honour God, your higher self or the universe in anyway shape or form. That’s 100% your choice. Just a decision you get to make. It’s not right or wrong.

However, I do think that there is this BIG MAGIC that happens when you do HONOUR that voice inside you, your God voice and hunker down on those desires.

I think that’s where you get to live in the magic, the adventure, to open up your world to all life has in store for you. 

I don’t think you get to live in that PROMISED LAND until you do honour that small whisper and those deep desires of your soul.

I also think that’s what it means to (and I do use a biblical reference here) “follow God’s will” for your life.

Which, I mean, let’s get real, could be the FUNNEST ADVENTURE of your life.

I’ll be the first to say I’m just a messenger, that my words, my message is just here to spark something that was already within you, for something to be revealed to you…

Your revelation.

Your life.

Remember you and God form a majority in this universe.

You can vote however you want to vote.

Where we fall, where I fall, is always this:

When I look outside of myself for the recognition, the value, worldly perfection, for MY worth. 

It’s not out there.

It never was. 

It never will be.

Do you get it yet?

True Abundance can NEVER be outside of your head, outside of your mind or outside of your soul. Neither is your worth.

Your abundance is not held with another person. No one holds that magic key. 

Your worth is not held with another person. No one holds that magic key.

It’s not with your boss, your company, your job, the lottery, a rich uncle or that sexy Latin lover.

Your abundance sure as HECK is not sitting in the opinions of others. 

(Other people always have their own prejudices, dysfunctions, hurts, fears, insecurities – which is their sh*t – not yours! It’s actually amazing we even listen to anyone anyways! 😉 )

So, craziest thing happens when you don’t need the peanut gallery in your life anymore, when you follow your own soul and find your worth within….

You get to…

LIVE YOUR LEGACY.

xx Lisa

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You Were Made For More

You Were Made For More

You were made for MORE.

You will never get to where you want to be if you keep playing at the same level that you created your current reality at –

Whatever you wish that to be.

You keep creating at the same level – you keep doing things the ‘old school’ way…

Serious Q:

Do you think for 2 seconds that your current way of doing things is going to get you to that next level?

You are an energy match for exactly where you are RIGHT now.

Look around.

All the good things in your life,

the love, the happiness, the deep joy –

AND

All the crap.

That unhealthy relationship you have with work, your kids, your body, your relationships.

Your bad attitude toward certain people.

The friend or ex that pissed you off.

Your kids doing ‘stuff’ you don’t approve of.

Your boss being a total dingbat.

The guy that cut you off in traffic.

Wake up time!

That’s all on you.

You keep expecting. You keep expecting the world to live by the instruction manual that you wrote for them.

Do you realize how crazy that is?

Do you know how frustrating and maddening it is to live in a world that doesn’t do what you want them to do?

No seriously.

Better questions:

Do you honestly still expect the world to bend to you and all the people in it?

I see this ALL the time.

People expecting others, governments, children, partners, businesses, lovers to act in a certain way – particularly the way that they so desire.

Deep down we want everyone to act the way we want: Stepford Wives. Robots.

When are we going to throw away the manuals we’ve created for others?

When are we going let go of the expectations we have on others?

Do you realize this is what is HOLDING YOU BACK from MORE?

Let’s talk about how to create that miracle, that new life, that new level you want to go to, shall we?

You will never be able to shift into the magical life you deserve without taking full responsibility for what you created right now.

The good, the bad & the ugly.

What have you invited into your life so far?

Do you like it?

Do you want to keep it?

So here’s where we get to play!

That ‘thing’ –

That ‘next level thing’ –

That ‘dream’ you are after –

You have to shift into it first.

You have to play the role, you have to BE it now.

I’ve written about this many times.

So many people have this all wrong.

They DO, HAVE, and then BE or BECOME.

This may work for getting a degree: do the school work, have the degree and then you get to become a graduate or the doctor or the teacher. But that’s about where the masculine DO HAVE BE model really begins and ends.

For the rest of what you want to manifest, the GREAT THINGS you want to manifest – the MIRACLES – they have to come from someplace DEEPER, someplace HIGHER.

In reality for you to get to the next level and become and energetic match for the things, the miracles, you want in your life and the life you want you MUST:

BE, DO and then HAVE.

You first BECOME who it is you want to be in the world by internally stepping into the person you want to be.

You first shift your energy and you do that by living the way you see yourself in the future.

Then you DO the work and take the actions after.

Sidenote: The actions you do are far more inspired when you are already ‘acting’ the part of the person you are planning on showing the world!

Then you HAVE.

(This actually is how you finish a university degree – if you didn’t see yourself as a graduate first my guess is you never finished university – you have to see yourself as what you want to BE, but you have to do that now, not in 4 years time.)

Eventually, your reality catches up with your desires and all that you have been manifesting.

You get to physically see the results of what you were – but it’s no biggie, because you have BEEN (BE) that way for a while now, your reality is finally just energetically catching up to the you who you always knew you were.

Do you get what I’m putting down here?

This quantum physics stuff is mind blowing but not for everyone.

I get that.

You always get the message when your heart is ready to receive it.

And then it’s revealed to you like a lightning bolt and you don’t know how you ever lived before you learned what a miracle really is.

It’s like messing up what we’ve been taught for so long.

It’s like throwing away man’s rule book and playing by God’s.

God has anointed and appointed you LONG BEFORE you will ever see it.

Do you know how FREEING it is to LIVE in a world with no expectations?

Do you know how spectacular life is when you learn you were made for more and ALLOWED TO HAVE MORE?!?!

It’s amazing!

It’s like being in love!

It’s like every Christmas, Thanksgiving and Easter all in one!

It shifts your perception on reality.

It connects you the greatest deepest JOY you will ever find.

I pray that for you my friends. I do.

It’s my deepest wish.

It’s my deepest yearning.

It’s my deepest gift I could ever share with you, to which you already know.

You already know this.

You know deep down all of the truth.

Your soul, your heart, your deepest parts know this.

That you were made for more.

That you are more.

That you are more than what your present reality looks like.

That you are more than your past.

That you are more than this moment.

So find that JOY and stay connected to it, do whatever it takes to stay there.

You were made for more.

So….

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

 

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What’s Your Pleasure?

What's Your Pleasure Blog

There’s a fine line between Pleasure and Procrastination.

I want you to be able to see this for yourself so you can see when you are stuck in a holding pattern avoiding your life.

We all love pleasure.

It definitely comes out in many different ways for all of us.

Another way to define pleasure, besides the “fun” stuff is self-care.

What gives you pleasure?

Pleasure is this amazing thing that turns you on, lights up your soul, makes you feel good.

OH, and for me that is not anything to do with make-up, hair, clothes…

I seriously try to outsource that stuff best I can!

I also gave up decorating – like – for anything.

It’s funny how stuff that used to fill me FULL of pleasure 10 or 20 years ago has TOTALLY shifted.

AND THAT’S OKAY.

If cooking, baking, doing your hair, entertaining used to fill you up and doesn’t – let it go.

Don’t do it.

So my first point, if you haven’t figured it out yet for yourself, is DON’T DO THE THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO.

Why?

Because when you don’t do the things you don’t want to do, that leaves space in your life for you to do the things that really fill you up.

Plus, that leaves space for someone who WANTS to do the things you don’t want to do!

Yes, you know this – BUT…..

Are you living it?

I know I am.

I came home yesterday, and surprise to me, my Christmas tree and stockings were hung.  BOOM! (Thank you Beth!)

I also am against hair and make-up and finally trying out some options to make sure that I don’t have to do them!

I’ve also put together like 5 work outfits that I rotate through so I don’t have to waste time thinking about what to wear – although I do like to look nice, I don’t like to waste all my decision making power before I leave the house in the morning.

I also rarely cook, don’t bake, rarely do laundry or clean.

None of the above is what I’m called to do. It’s someone else’s calling – from the hair & make-up to the decorating to the cooking & baking.

(PS. THIS IS ACTUALLY A BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE… more on that another TIME!)

I try to make most of my decisions ahead of time.

Hey, this is what all super successful people do – they don’t waste time in indecision!

Okay, so have you ever felt like you have “overindulged” in pleasure? Self-care?

Seeking pleasure for the sake of seeking pleasure will NEVER last and usually ends up being completely self-destructive.

RECEIVING PLEASURE from the work you do, the art you do, the creative inspired GOD work you do (tuning in, tapping into GOD) WILL give you a never ending stream of pleasure, why? BECAUSE YOU ARE CONNECTED TO YOUR SOURCE POWER, the all-powerful, all-knowing and the all-loving!

I’m going to go out on a limb and tell you a little secret-not-so-secret!

The only time you will feel you overindulgent in anything is when you are NOT

  • living your life’s purpose
  • putting your art/work you were meant to do out in the world
  • messaging the message you were put here on earth to say
  • following your gut/instincts
  • slacking off with your soul (you know!)

It’s like this gnawing feeling.

Like you have more to give.

Like you know you should be doing the thing you were put here to do!

So, what’s stopping you?

Why are you not doing it?

What do you do instead of doing the work/messaging/art/business that you were here to do?

You buffer.

You buffer like the rainbow-pin-wheel-of-death on a Mac.

You choose CONSUMING pleasure over pain X 1000. (Pain being namely the fact that you aren’t in your CREATIVE pleasure!)

You go get your nails done when you know you should be writing your book.

You search for recipes, hours of Pinterest, you wash your car, clean your house – heck you’d even choose to do laundry over actually bringing your art into the world.

You may even RETURN emails over doing your soul’s work. OMG – THE HORROR!!!

I’m not saying any of that is bad – obviously all necessary – but it’s not going to heal you the way doing what you came her to do will.

But I sure don’t have to tell you this.

You know this.

It’s a feeling, a calling from deep within that just won’t shut up.

And yet, you cast it aside.

You ignore.

You hit snooze.

Sooner or later, you get sick.

Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually sick.

Because you haven’t done what you are supposed to do.

Because you were called to something that you have now denied.

You have betrayed yourself.

And make no mistake my friends – – –

THIS IS THE ULTIMATE FORM OF BETRAYAL.

You can never betray anyone on the planet as badly as you betray your SELF, your soul’s calling.

There is nothing worse.

It will haunt you and manifest in all the rotten ways.

I have felt this, experienced it – to the point of full on depression.

You know what helped me?

Spitting my message out – even in it’s raw unpolished form.

Doing the work I was meant to do.

Creating something.

Spending more time in creating than consuming.  <—- I write about this in my book, STRUT!

Seriously, my loves, if you are looking for that FEEL good CURE to ALL THE THINGS –

ALL THE THINGS –

all the things in your life that are SUCKING and not working for you right now….

you’ve got to be CREATING.

It’s going to be tuning in, digging deep and coming back out with something you put into the world.

It could be to host & plan an event, make a craft, baking, soup, a video, write, draw, film, volunteer, create a portfolio, connect…. it could be anything you are called to do at this time.

You know what that is.

Listen for it.

Tune in.

and

then

go

do

it.

The fog will lift.

You will change your point of attraction.

Things will slowly look up.

Here’s a secret I’ve learned and I’ll share it with you.

There is no such thing as TOO MUCH PLEASURE or TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE if you stand in your creative power.

If you are constantly tapping into your creative soul you will be be able to live in this spectacular place of joy.

You learn how to TURN YOURSELF ON.

(Yes, turning yourself on in ALL ways possible… 😉 )

Like that light that shines so bright… it’s like the feeling of being in LOVE, but almost better!

Don’t believe me?

Try it!

You get to create your life right?

So why not make it GOOD?

Why not make it so FREAKIN’ FANTASTIC you can hardly stand it?

Why not create your life so it TOTALLY turns you on in EVERY WHICH WAY POSSIBLE?!?!

Why not find the space that totally fills you up with pleasure, the thing you can’t wait to do, the thing you can’t wait to share with others and tell all the people about.

Find that.

Do that.

And I promise that is when you…..

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

 

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True Abundance

True Abundance Blog

It’s simple.

It’s not necessarily easy.

Transformation.

Being able to move from one place to another.

There must be healing.

There must be a rebirth of desire.

Then there must be the words, the language – the ultimate in creation of what is to be –

and in that sense what is already here and available to us in this moment.

PURE.

RADICAL.

TRUE.

ABUNDANCE.

The knowing that all of the Universe is in support – God is in support of every last desire your heart has.

The desires that were born from the Divine.

It still amazes me.

Mostly, because it’s me who still doesn’t see that my desires for abundance is actually already here for us, waiting patiently –

softly nudging us –

to RECEIVE what is rightly ours, every man, woman & child’s birthright – life lived to the full.

So here we are.

So here I am.

With you.

Sitting in this mess.

Make no mistake.

We are all here – because we are all connected.

Something most of the world conveniently forgets, hence why we have labels.

We wouldn’t have labels if everyone could see how connected we really are, and how the pain would subside when we see ourselves in every living thing, how hurting one hurts the whole.

Here’s the part I know so many are still stuck on.

We haven’t figured out how to tell ourselves a new story.

We are stuck in the past.

We are playing our past story – good or bad – on a story loop.

How things should have been, the crap you had to deal with, the loss, the pain, the horror –

Or maybe it was the good’ ol times, the joy, the perfect life you once had –

It is still playing like it’s a new release, front and center, months, even years after it should have been replaced.

It’s such an old story, old movie, that no one even comes to the theater to help you relive it anymore –

sure you may drag in some new attendees every once in a while, but soon enough too they leave,

probably because they are so busy trying to attract people to listen & watch their old story board

or maybe they just get exhausted of watching your movie.

Maybe you are finally starting to get exhausted of your own story you are telling yourself –

The one on how your family is supposed to be like, your relationship is supposed to be like, your body is supposed to be like –

The way your bank account is supposed to be like.

The supposed-to’s are a story of some past programming that needs to be re-told –

TIME FOR THE VHS TO BE EJECTED!

BLOCKBUSTER HAS LEFT THE BUILDING… maybe you didn’t get the memo…

The beautiful thing about this life – the secret – if you will…

Is that at any moment in time everything you desire is available to you.

You can shift your perception of ANYTHING.

You can attract anything you desire to your life.

You can transform your mind instantly.

You can FEEL whatever you want to feel in an instant –

but that choice is up to you.

You can disappear the past in an instant.

Why are you holding on to it so tight?

Was it better back then?

Was it worse back then?

Better question: does it really matter if it was better or worse back then?

You are living like it really does matter.

You can’t do anything about it anyways.

So, why do you let your mind always go there?

I mean, ALWAYS go there?

What you have right here and right now is PRESENT.

The present of being able to transform/shift your feelings and thoughts to the desire of your heart.

You are allowed to do this.

But you are not – and I’m going to guess it’s because somewhere, somehow, someone in your past denied you.

They denied you when you got a chance to be the fullest-expression of yourself.

They denied you when you got a chance to dance with life.

They denied you love, wealth, health, family, friends.

They denied.

But then, again, no one can actually deny anyone of anything.

AHHH, bingo.

You denied yourself.

And my loves, the worst form of betrayal is self-betrayal.

We’ve all done it to ourselves, and that is the hardest to swallow.

We are the ones who allowed ourselves to become disconnected from our true desires.

We berated ourselves, put ourselves down.

It’s so much easier to blame others than to take back what is really something we did to ourselves.

Isn’t it crazy – we are supposed to be all “evolved” and “smart” –

Our phones are smart, so doesn’t that mean we are smarter?

But we sit and bash, say mean things, criticize, hurt ourselves – on repeat.

Why?

Actually, it really doesn’t matter why – as I alluded to in a blog a few weeks ago –

but what does matter now is – what can we do to shift into the place we are called to?

What can we do to heal?

And knowing that when we heal, we end up healing others.

Isn’t that amazing?

When we heal ourselves, we end up inspiring another to heal, to take that step out of the darkness and into the light?

So, it’s like a win-win-win for you, others and the world.

And I don’t know if there is a better way to….

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

 

 

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6 Reasons You Need To Buy Life Insurance

6 Reasons You Need To Buy Life Insurance

Here are 6 reasons I always share with clients why they need to buy life insurance.

Did you know that life insurance pays out tax-free to your beneficiaries usually within 30-60 days upon claim? Did I mention tax-free money to your estate?

1. To Pay Final Expenses

In my opinion, everyone needs to have a small permanent life insurance policy to cover off final expenses.  These expenses can run from $5,000 to $25,000 or more. Besides burial or cremation costs, there are also final tax returns and legal obligations or probate or tax owing that are required to close your estate. Here’s the thing, don’t be a burden to your family or friends – consider having a small paid up whole life or universal life or Term100 that will pay out tax free to your chosen beneficiaries to help ease the immediate burden of final expenses.

2. To Cover Children’s Expenses

If you have children under age 18, I firmly believe it is your responsibility to help provide for those children if you were to pass away prematurely. This is something I’m very passionate about because it’s so inexpensive for people of child-rearing ages to afford a decent sized life insurance policy of even $500,000 to $1,000,000 at minimum. Everyone knows a million dollars doesn’t go far these days, not to mention if you want to help contribute to your child’s secondary education costs, then you will really need to take a good hard look at getting the proper amount of life insurance.

3. To Replace Your Partner’s Income

If you depend on your partners income to run your lifestyle and housing costs, then this is a no brainer, obviously if you didn’t have insurance and your partner passes away you may be forced to radically change your lifestyle. The question becomes, is this something you are willing to do during the hardest days of your life? Any amount of life insurance will help ease this burden so you aren’t forced into making rash decisions at inopportune times.

4. To Pay Off Debts

Like I said about the insurance for your children, I also will say that it is your responsibility to cover your debts in the event of your passing. You were the one who made the decision to take on the debt in the first place, don’t you think that you should also not leave that debt to your loved ones to deal with your messes? Time to ADULT now and make sure you have proper coverage to handle all your debts, from mortgage to credit cards to car loans to business agreements.

5. To Cover Business Expenses

Buying life insurance to cover Key Employees or to fund a buy/sell agreement or just to cover outstanding debts in the business, it is so important to look at life insurance for your business. Make sure to talk to a CFP to make sure all the angles of your business are covered.

6. To Pay Off Estate Taxes

Although Canada doesn’t have estate taxes per se, they do have probate fees and final taxes on deemed dispositions of assets on the date of your death. This can be a massive blow to your estate. For example, a million dollars in RRSPs would be worth $600,000 or less after all the taxes are paid on your final tax return. That’s a huge win for the government and a huge loss for your family. This is where permanent insurance is important, such as whole life or universal life or Term100. Probate fees are minimal in some provinces, but in other provinces can be very costly.

 

Okay, now ask yourself if you have enough or you have enough on your partner.

Let me ask you this, in your darkest of days – losing your best friend, lover, partner – do you want to be financially stressed on top of your loss? OR, on that note, if he’s a schmuck who owes you money and never pays up on time, wouldn’t it be better to have a policy in place to make sure you get what is contractually yours in the case he dies and leaves you high and dry raising kids… just more food for thought… cause you will curse his name for getting off scot-free one last time! 🙂

Either way, I’m happy to get you a quote or put you in touch with someone in your jurisdiction who can help you get some proper risk management and life insurance in place! Don’t wait… I will write another blog on the people who came to me and said they wished they had put some life insurance in place before their partner passed unexpectedly.

Grim, I know. Real Life – Yes, unfortunately.

Bottom Line: You’re still gonna need money, honey.

xx Lisa

Coach.

Kicking Your Money Blocks To The Curb

Kicking Your Money Blocks To The Curb

Here are 2 more money blocks I just kicked to the curb.

#1: PERFECTION

Although I’ve been defiantly breaking through this over the last 6 years and I realized that I am way too hard on myself when I’m not doing everything up to my perfect standards when it comes to running my business, and that totally throws me. (I’m not a perfectionist when it comes to many areas of my life – FYI – just my business {oh, and my car, kitchen counters, closets, yikes!} – mostly cause I’ve been beaten with a compliance stick for the last 18-years and I swear this is where it comes from, that and I’m a first born.)

HEAR ME OUT: My perfectionism is holding me back because you can’t hold the belief that you want to make MILLIONS while serving the god of perfectionism – cause nothing is perfect and ain’t gonna be.

You will never get paid more than you think you are worth, and if I keep holding out that everything must be “perfect”  (and in my case, mostly paperwork!) – which I will inevitably fail at EVERY TIME and hence, make it mean, I’m not good enough, and my business isn’t at that perfect place where it can break through to the next level or the my business isn’t in a place where I deserve to make the money I know I’m worth until I let go of the need to be perfect.

You’ll never make more money than what you are making now because it’s not safe to and your subconscious thoughts on your business are anchored in at not being good enough or not ready enough – yet, will override the breaking through to the next level every time – whatever that is for you.

BOOM!

If you have that money block, break that one down if you are serious about helping more people. (PS. This same block goes for relationships & health!)

#2: RECEIVING

I’ve been working on this one for years as well, consciously! And even then, as with all our stuff, there is another layer – like the onion, always more to peel back and look into.

When I do my talks, I always say that if you are unable to even receive a compliment you are probably going to have a hard time receiving any amount of money.

Here’s another level to receiving that I just realized has been holding me back.

The need to be independent, not being a burden to others, not being needy!

The independent woman vibe – ya, this is what I’m talking about. {Cue: Destiny’s Child}

It’s not bad to be independent and not really need anyone or anything, however, it does interfere with you receiving money and lots of it!

HEAR ME OUT: You can’t hold both the independent woman vibe and allow your community, clients, family, etc. to support you. These beliefs cancel each other out – and hence why you aren’t receiving the money the way you desire!

Most of us have really prided ourselves on being independent and to many of us, that belief is HARD-WIRED into our brains and is stronger than the need to receive on ALL levels (money, love, health) and great as that is, take a good look if that’s something that’s holding you back.

What are the judgments you have on other people who are fully supported by others financially (even government assistance, spoiled-rich kids, etc.)? What are your judgments on other who are fully supported with their health, body or in their love life by others?

And there it is.

{Mic Drop}

The block on receiving.

Allowing others to help you or support you does not mean that you are weak.

Plus, you become a joy robber if you take away someone else’s joy of giving to you!

You can’t hold both an independent, do-it-ALL-yourself vibe while expecting to receive the abundance you are called to receive.

We receive through asking.

You can accomplish all your goals by asking, and that won’t diminish your independent creative spirit AT ALL!

If you have that money block, do the inner work to break down that block, start allowing people to help you and learn how to receive that abundance.

On the note of money blocks, or any area in your life you feel stagnant or blocked, remember that if there is duplicity in your energy or mind you will not be able to step into what you desire, you will not be able to attract it.

No matter where you are in your life right now you have an energy minimum (the lowest amount of money or standard of living you will not go below – no matter what, cash flow minimums, debt minimums, income minimums, etc. ) and an energy maximum (the most amount of money you are allowed to have before it feels unsafe or uncomfortable for you to have more money than that).

Everyone has a range.

Everyone has a new level they can go to.

Staying in this range is fine.

It’s always your choice.

However, you need to be aware of it and if you so desire to go out and break through the energy maximum you’ve created for yourself, you’re gonna have to do the work to get there.

End of story.

There’s a reason you created your safe bubble of your minimum and maximum in the first place.

If you want to get to the next level in your life, love, health, money – you will need to shift your range.

Create new standards of minimum for yourself.

Expand exponentially to a new maximum and allow yourself to receive the desires of your heart.

Don’t forget you are supported by God in ALL of this, in ALL of your being.

When you have the universe at your back, anything can happen, anything is possible.

When you break through these beliefs and money blocks you open yourself up to…

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

 

 

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Stop Asking Why

Stop Asking Why Blog

I listen, read, watch, CONSUME a lot of content on self-help and business.

I’m mean, let’s be serious for a second – my dad made us listen to “MEGA MEMORY” cassette course on a road trip to Idaho when I was 13.

When I was 18, I remember driving my super hot red Honda Prelude with the sunroof open, shifting gears, listening to Anthony Robbins and Zig Ziglar on cassette, while all my friends listened to top 40. (I don’t like top 40 – or for that matter – what everyone else is doing! I always found being a follower of crowds was boring.)

So, I’m no stranger to this realm of self-help, psychology or business.

This week-end I had a crazy A-HA download on the topic of all of this.

Here’s the thing.

The week before last, I could barely get out of bed I was so depressed, stuck in a rut, and questioning everything.

Situational depression (not clinical depression – big difference!)

This happens often to me – a least one day of every month and a few times a year it will last a few days.

I’m okay to sit with it and hide out while it’s happening.

I also know how to deal, cope and use tools to help me get out of it, and I also can identify when my pity party has been enough.

When I get stuck in a rut, or situational depression, I’ve realized that I dwell on this one thing (and ought not too!) and that one thing is:

WHY

These are some of the things that go through our heads at some point in time, I’m sure we’ve all wondered these same things:

  • Why is this happening to me?
  • Why does life suck?
  • Why is it happening for everyone else and not me?
  • Why does this always happen to me?
  • Why is the sky blue?
  • Why are my kids so annoying today?
  • Why am I sick?
  • Why do I have no money?
  • Why do I have no relationship / crappy relationship?
  • Why can’t I lose weight?
  • Why is my car so old?
  • Why is my house so small?
  • Why am I not where I wanted to be by now in my life?

WHY WHY WHY

And then we are down the rabbit hole.

Stuck in the not so great vortex of crap.

There are entire companies, causes, and professions where their whole goal is to figure out WHY.

I’m going to go out today, right now, right here and say this about WHY  – for you personally.

ASKING WHY is not helpful.

ASKING WHY does not solve problems.

ASKING WHY leaves you stuck in the PAST.

Here’s the secret to working through situational depression or the real shitty times in our lives.

STOP ASKING WHY.

The WHY is not going to serve you going forward.

The only question to ask yourself as you move through a challenging season of your life is this word:

WHAT

What can I do to help?

What do I want to create in my life?

What is next for me?

What is one way this situation can bear fruit in the world?

Fruit – for those that don’t know what that is – is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

This fruit – that’s the stuff we are here to create in this world.

And let me tell you what happens when I get stuck in WHY.

I don’t bear any fruit in my life.

The second I can switch to WHAT.

That’s when my magic happens.

That’s when stuff gets done.

WHY IS MY HOUSE SO MESSY? – this leads into a raging fit of cleaning in anger at everyone who left a mess.

What can I do to love my space? – this leads to calm enjoyable cleaning.

Okay, so here’s where I got a little confused when I was thinking about the word WHY.

As an entrepreneur, you are taught to figure out your why.

Dig deep and figure out the WHY of your life/business – a WHY so big that it will pull you through anything.

Figuring out your WHY is different than asking WHY.

(Simon Sinek’s big TED talk/book – Start With Why is fabulous and all about figuring out your WHY, in case you missed it.)

Asking WHY will not get you results.

Asking WHY will keep you stuck.

Asking WHY will hold you down.

Asking WHY will keep you comatose on a bed full of LAYS crumbs and with an empty bottle of Pinot on your bedside watching SCANDAL re-runs.

(Keep in mind WHY is usually only asked when frustrated or correlated to a negative emotion – for example, usually one does not ask: Why is my life so amazing? or Why do I have tons of money? Great questions, but not where the average mind goes.)

Knowing your WHY will steer you right on your path to creating the life you want.

Here’s a quoteable/tweetable/memeable you can quote me on:

Knowing your WHY is different than asking WHY. – Lisa Elle

Here’s the thing that you can’t do anything about:

YOUR PAST

So STOP making your past mean something about you.

So what, you screwed up?

You messed it all up?

You have no money, no love, no relationships, no sexy hot body, not where you want to be?

SO WHAT?!

You get to take hold of the power now and go forth and create something amazing with your life.

You still have 100% of life left to live.

And tomorrow you will still have 100% of life left to live.

So my humans, my amazing loving humans:

Stop asking WHY.

Know your WHY.

And when you know your WHY, that’s when you…

Live Your Legacy!

xx Lisa

 

 

 

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Sweet Beliefs

Sweet Beliefs Blog

The most powerful thing in the world.

Belief.

YOUR BELIEFS!

Beliefs are really just thoughts you think over and over again.

Now let’s talk truth.

Everyone seems to think there is one truth.

Maybe there is – and maybe there isn’t – universally speaking…

But I can tell you this.

The person who BELIEVES her truth the strongest – right down to her core – will create just that.

Truth is subjective to what you believe.

At the end of the day – you need to know that there isn’t one truth…

AND

The only truth you need to know is the truth that you believe –

Better yet…

The only beliefs you need to hold are the truths that are going to serve you in this life.

You’ve been going along all this time with some crazy belief that to be a “good person” you need to be a martyr.

Sacrifice. Sacrifice. Sacrifice.

To make money you need to work hard.

That it’s ALL an uphill battle.

None of this is true AND all of this is true if you believe it to be so.

Doesn’t that just blow your mind.

Because here is the only truth on this topic —>

Listen up!!

you can think something is easy – and it will be so

you can think something is hard – and it will be so

What you think is what will be, and what will be will be your truth.

I think this is what so many people don’t get. They still really believe there is only one truth.

The truth of the matter is this:

Person A believes life is easy & fun.

Person B believes life is hard.

They are both right.

The beautiful thing about our world is that you can be right and they can be right.

It still shocks me at how many people think there is only one truth.

If truth is from your beliefs and beliefs are just the thoughts floating around your head, things you’ve been told every day since you were a baby, do you honestly think that your truth is better than another’s truth?

Here’s the kicker.

In life – you have to analyze your beliefs.

You have to!

You have to make sure you choose the beliefs that serves you.

(Not your partner’s beliefs, parent’s beliefs, social media guru’s beliefs, salesy salesman’s beliefs, boss’s beliefs, bff’s beliefs, etc.)

I have many beliefs I’m in the process of shedding.

My list goes something like this:

  • I have to work hard in order to make money
  • My business is so hard
  • Everyone has more luck than I do
  • Social Media is too busy, I’ll never be seen
  • My marketing strategy will never work
  • I seem to never have time for anything

Do you hold some of those beliefs?

Are they working for ya?

I do actually have an abundance of time – that’s a belief I changed a while ago and it really did allow me to create all that I do in any given week – and even give me a day of rest!

But I used to believe I had no time, and that belief did not serve me.

I used to say things like “I’m so busy.”

It kept me late for everything, never finishing projects, never being able to do what I want..

I switched that belief to Einstein time.

(It’s a real thing….I’ll let you google it.)

So, I hold out that I have time in abundance, and I seriously create that in my life!

Everything fits in – in perfect time.

Crazy huh!

When our beliefs become our truths they are so strong that we manifest them into reality.

So, if you really realize how powerful the beliefs you hold are, why don’t you choose the beliefs that will rock your world:

  • work is fun
  • work is easy
  • making money is fun
  • making money is easy
  • I attract new clients with ease
  • I love meeting new soulmate clients
  • saving/investing money is easy & fun
  • etc.

The trick here, as with all law of attraction, is that you do really need to believe this stuff – to the point where there can be no other way.

To the point where you are not available for there to be any other way.

Decide and commit.

This is the only way.

There is no other way.

You can’t be shaken in your beliefs.

If you are, they are not your truths….yet.

Your job is to get to the place where you can’t be shaken.

Where you would stake your life on your beliefs.

Where you know without a shadow of a doubt that this holds true for you.

And then it will manifest for you.

But not until then.

Oh loves, do you get this?

You get to choose all the sweetest things life has to offer.

It doesn’t have to be hard.

It shouldn’t be.

Life is hard enough without our beliefs to get in the way and make life harder for us.

Life should be sweet.

You get to choose new sweet beliefs.

And when you choose new beliefs that’s when you…..

Live Your Legacy!

xx Lisa

 

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Coach.

Start at 1

Start At 1 Blog

Everything starts at one.

It becomes two.

Then four.

Then one day…

a million

a billion.

But everything starts at one.

My dear friend and one of the most inspirational women in my life held a run for charity this past weekend.

It was supposed to be warm, but it was cold.

Hundreds/Thousands were supposed to be there, but they weren’t.

She told me it was her dream.

As we ran the last leg of the race, she told me we will remind each other of this race when our companies are worth millions upon billions.

That we were the ones that showed up – even when no one was around, no one was watching.

She will keep going. She will hold more races, grow her amazing company – ultimately she’s a force that cannot be reckoned with.

She has a dream, a vision.

So do I.

They both started with one.

Everything in life you are wanting will compound if you hold your vision before you.

If you keep trusting.

And it’s so hard….

I mean every week, every day plugging away at what feels unfruitful at best ….

I’ve done this religiously, persistently, consistently for a few years now –

5 years of the writing thing

(this is blog #171 btw)

18 years of the financial planning thing

and

it’s not where I want it to be.

Some people think I’m successful.

Some people think I’m not.

But all the opinions in the world, good or bad, mean nothing compared to what I think I am.

And so many times – sooooo many times – I feel like a failure.

It’s inevitable.

All it takes is one little gremlin thought.

One tiny cute Mogwai thought disguising itself as something positive, but really it shows it’s colors after midnight.

30 seconds later you are well on your to your own personal hell-in-a-handbasket.

That’s how quickly our brains take over and downward spiral.

That’s how quickly anxiety and depression and all the not-helpful feelings can rush over you.

That’s all it takes for you to give up, quit, throw in the towel.

But you somehow find the way to get back to a good-feeling.

You do what you need to do.

You get to 171.

171 is not significant by the way.

Neither was 67, 23, or 143.

They are the art, the work, the consistency, the showing-up.

There is one number that I would say was the most important one of all my blogs.

It’s probably the worst one.

It’s probably the shortest, smallest, out-of-date, out-of-style.

It’s probably riddled with mistakes and errors.

But it’s still the most important one.

It’s 1.

It’s ONE.

It’s always number one.

The first one.

The first one that showed the world, the universe, that you are taking this seriously enough to take the first step.

You show up for number 1.

#1 wouldn’t be there without you.

Your first chapter. Your first canvas. Your first film. Your first race. Your first trade. Your first dollar earned. Your first step.

The first dollar in your account.

It’s the most important because that’s where you start.

You get to start at 1.

Then you build.

Then you put your head down, do the work and build the MF thing you came here to build.

And you keep going – even when no one is cheering you on.

ALL GREAT THINGS STARTED AT ONE!

One needs to happen before there can be a two.

I was contemplating my blog last week on finishing.

You will never finish unless you have a clear vision before you of what you are here to finish.

That’s why most people never finish. That’s why they give up.

They don’t have faith that there’s a finish line. They don’t have faith to keep going.

My friend said that to me as we were running the last k.

She said, “Don’t worry, the finish line is behind those trees, even though you can’t see it.”

I took her word on faith.

The damn finish line better have been behind those trees because I couldn’t see it.

I chose to keep running.

I had faith that the finish line is actually somewhere. Faith in things that you can’t see but trust and believe are there (hence the definition of faith…)

You don’t need to physically see the finish line, but you do need to see it in your head. You need to feel that feeling of finishing the race.

I feel like this is part 2 of what I talked about last week.

Finishing feels so good.

So does starting!

It’s usually the in-between that’s hard.

Don’t forget. Every Billion Dollar Bank Account Started with a $1. – Lisa Elle

What are you here to start and finish?

Do you know?

If you don’t – keep working on getting clarity around that vision. (PS. That’s the hardest work ever!)

And then go out, do it and you will create the most wonderful feeling of being proud of yourself.

Never underestimate the feeling of being proud of yourself.

People sometimes ask me how I do all that I do.

It’s because I use the feeling of being proud of myself to move me forward.

It feels so good to feel that way.

I want to do things I’m proud of.

So do something you are proud of.

When you do something you are proud of, that’s when you…..

Live Your Legacy.

xx Lisa

 

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