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Let It Go!

Let It Go

The message is this: LET IT GO!

Because the OTHER shoe is dropping my friend, whether you like it or not!

(Hint: There’s always going to be a shoe dropping as you go through life.)

Shoes I take VERY seriously.

But the rest of life?

I don’t take that seriously. I mean, like most things in my life, I’m past the seriousness of most of it!

If you choose to take life seriously, that’s your choice. You won’t get out alive!

Me?

I CHOOSE FUN, laughter and responsibility and above all LIGHTNESS!

That’s my choice.

When you choose your life on purpose, the shoes can drop all around you and usually end up finding that you are OKAY.

I used to be the queen of holding on.

I still have over 500 (maybe 1000 sq. feet!) of STUFF in my basement in boxes.

I’m that person who literally SAVED everything.

Baby outfits (MINE! LOL!!), Cards from ALL my birthdays!, Yearbooks, All my Text Books (this is now a fire hazard!), plus – at one point I sewed, I did crafts, then not to mention my boxes labeled ‘Valentines’, ‘Thanksgiving’, ‘Halloween’, ‘Christmas’, ‘St. Patrick’s Day’ – YES, I even have boxes of decor for all the holidays – including ‘Oktoberfest’! (Don’t get me started on BOOKS!)

So as a life-long-hoarder, I’m still working on letting go. (Side note: My Opa had a farm full of junk – like old houses and cars – so I swear it’s hereditary!)

I love my little treasures.

(Side note: they are all labeled and organized and hiding in the basement – junk dare not show up in my actual living space! But yes, I do hold on to a LOT of stuff!)

Stuff is one thing to let go of, but getting over the rest of life – the stuff you can’t control – is another.

Letting go of the outcome.

Letting go of all the outcomes.

I know I have work to do on this.

I’m doing the work.

I’m taking responsibility.

And I’m having fun with it.

Holding life like a feather.

Why?

Maybe it’s time to let some things go.

I’ve actually made a list.

I have a LOT of things I’m going to let go!

And the things that I’m ready to let go of WILL create space for some new and exciting opportunities to come in.

Maybe its time to let go of:

  • relationships that don’t serve you
  • businesses that aren’t working
  • negative thought patterns
  • beliefs holding you back
  • perfection
  • perfection
  • being the perfect mom (ha! ha! I let go of that 2 weeks in 10 years ago!)
  • yelling
  • yelling at kids (my fav summer activity – YIKES!)
  • extra pounds?!?  Ya, those can go too!

Remember that your cup doesn’t need to be FULL!

A cup that is filled to the brim is so full that even one more drop of liquid will make it overflow.

Q for you.

Is your cup full of sludgy guck? (ie. stuff that doesn’t serve you where you are right now? stuff that doesn’t lift you up?)

Who really wants to live with their cup THAT full and full of STUFF that ain’t good?

That’s like drinking 5 cent draught beer! (Ughhh, I did that in college!)

I mean, why can’t you have a few sips of the good stuff and refill as needed?

I’m just saying that sometimes letting go of all the excess to make room for a few very specific things is the way to go.

It’s more classy.

Like champagne.

Be champagne.

Don’t be draught.

I could probably make T-Shirts out of these sayings.

But I won’t.

I’ll spare you.

However, don’t you think there’s something so calming and peaceful when you sit around people who aren’t scattered or all over the place.

People who aren’t full.

Calm, cool, collected – with room for more.

The space to create.

Also, when your energy is scattered, you better believe you won’t be attracting anything good into your life!

The money, the relationship, the body, that purse….. all the things that you want will flow easier to you when you are calm and centered – not flailing around with your arms flapping like a duck and squawking all over the place…. you get what I mean.

I’ve been there.

I’ve literally felt like a crazy person out of control.

Don’t even get me started on what that does to your anxiety level or how your skin reacts (zits, pimples – HELLO!)

Here’s a great thought to fill your cup with:

You and God together form a MAJORITY.

Think about that for a minute.

Isn’t that huge?!?!

If you and God together form a majority,

  • Why are you still minoring in the minors?
  • Why are you still living like the pauper?
  • Why are you still allowing the crap you don’t want into your life?
  • Why are you still filling your cup with cheap draught beer or bad wine?
  • Why aren’t you letting it go?

Could what you are holding on so tightly to be something that’s holding you back from reaching the next level, living your best life?

Are you holding onto an outcome?

Are you giving your goals a chance to breath?

What a world it would be, for you my dear, if you let the people be people, the songs be songs, the no be the no, the yes be the yes and not let it mean anything about you?

For you my dear, what if you just took the world as it was: perfect imperfection.

What if you just took a deep breath and breathed it all in?

Breath.

Then.

Let.

It.

Go.

and you will….

Live Your Legacy!

xx L

 

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How To Stand In Your Power

How To Stand In Your Power

Recently I was robbed!

I can’t lie.

They stole my JOY!

To be fair, I kinda let it hang out there for the taking.

As much as it was stolen, it probably ran from me.

And if I’m being honest, I probably just let it go – but blaming seems to somehow feel better in the interim.

Blaming actually feels justified.

It sometimes feels good to POUR out our responsibility onto someone else, anyone else, even blame the poor innocent guy walking down the street.

We like to cling to the fact that life happens to us. That we can’t do anything about it.

We want life to sometimes happen to us because when we happen to life, it gets scary.

That’s when we have to step out of our safe zone and enter into the fear zone.

Clearly it’s safer staying in the known part of life versus venturing out into the unknown part.

We stopped happening to it.

So here’s what I did to get it back:

I decided to happen to life.

I decided that life was mine for the taking.

I decided life was best done on my terms and that THAT is A-O-K!

I woke up in the middle of the night with this:

“You’re going to have to get over what other people did or didn’t do for you – it’s all about what you did or didn’t do for yourself. The real power lies there.”    – Lisa Elle

Yup, you can quote me on that.

OMG Squirrel, seriously, a cute squirrel is running about my feet as I’m writing this at the beach by the lake this morning. I’m not sidetracked ever!

AND this goes right into what I’m actually writing about today on how to get your power back.

To get you power back is actually easy.

First, you have to decide that you matter.

BOOM!  I don’t know about you, but it feels like EVERYONE on the planet has come before me lately, mostly family, then friends, but somewhere this summer I’ve lost myself, my routine, my 3-6 hours of alone time I need everyday to process and be happy.

There is no one to blame but me.

I get caught up in all the activities & festivities and forget about me.

STOP BEING SIDETRACKED and hence, putting everything else first!

When that happens, I’m usually not my happy optimistic self and my life suffers, as do the people around me.

So, best to remember to put me #1.

(And for the people that think that’s bad, get OVER it!)

Second, you have to stop blaming everyone and everything, including you.

This means take responsibility for where you are right now.

END. OF. STORY.

Third, get some clarity on your big vision.

How do you do that?

BE STILL.

Then…..

Create some plans.

Plan out your calendar.

Set a goal.

Always ask if what you are doing serves your BIG VISION.

The truth is this: You’ll always find the answers when you tune in.

My deal for today?

I’m taking back my power and for me personally that means getting clear on what I want.

Not waiting for someone else to make me an offer, for someone else to step in and save the day.

I’m going to have my own back.

I’m going to be my own hero in this story.

In my story.

There.

That FEELS better!

My JOY is back!

Live Your Legacy!

xxL

 

P.S. Shout out to MaryAnne M. who brought me my joy this morning – coffee at the beach while writing this blog! I’m blessed to have met you and your generous soul!

P.P.S. I hope you stand in your power this week. If you want help in uncovering what that looks like for you, PM me or email me at lisa@ellementsgroup.com <3

 

Leadership.

For The Leaders Who Want To Change The World

For The Leaders Who Want To Change The World

This is a message for the CREATIVES & LEADERS only.

People are going to tell you what to do – ALL DAY LONG.

You can’t stop this.

Recently, I’ve been told, sometimes by well-meaning friends, family members and other times by acquaintances and even then sometimes by strangers, on:

  • how I should run my business
  • how I should write
  • how I should look
  • how I should do my hair
  • how I should get new clients
  • how I should market
  • what I should or shouldn’t say

People literally DM or PM me on various social platforms, just wanting to share their opinions about my content! People I’ve never met email me and tell me what I should or shouldn’t say! I even had an 80-year-old lady phone me (who lives in another country) tell me I’m on holidays too much! WHAT?!?!?!

(CUE: Kacey Musgraves song “Follow Your Arrow” or “Cup of Tea“)

You can probably relate if you are consistently throwing yourself out there with your art – in whatever form.

So, this is a message for you – my soul clients, my soul sisters, the creatives, the leaders, the people who seriously what to make a change in this world….

LET THE OTHERS BUGGER OFF!

or at least in your brain, your thoughts.

Do you honestly think a true LEADER takes every opinion thrown at him/her?

No, he/she has a few – very few – selected TRUSTED advisers.

He/She tunes out the crowd, the nay-sayers, the “well-wishers”, the “good intentions”!

Think of any leader you know – do you think they go around asking for the opinions of everyone around them?

NO! They take a stand for what they believe in, and what they are doing, and GO FOR IT!

Here’s the thing, if I want to make change happen, I can’t be someone who takes an opinion just to make one person happy.

It keeps ME small.

It keeps me from creating and putting my work out into the world.

It keeps me stuck in people pleaser mode.

That’s what happens when you take OPO (other peoples opinions).

It becomes a drug.

You need to ask everyone what they think about your content, your business, your hair, your logo.

You need the approval of others to even function – its kinda like Facebook likes or Insta love hearts.

Guess what?

I usually ask about 2 people – who I trust and mentor with – about my content, and only about 1% of the time.

This may actually shock you – but I publish my content around 6am on a Tuesday morning and NO ONE proof reads it (I know you are horrified right now – GET THE GRAMMAR POLICE – oh, and those people always seem to PM me too!), no one reads it, no one gives me their opinions on how it sucks or how it’s good – because I REALLY DON’T CARE, in a nice way.  (Also, no one seems to be awake when I’m writing at 4:30am!)

Do you get it yet?

There’s a reason its called art.

It flows from you.

The song, the script, the writing, the sculpture, the meal, the invention, the software, the content you create.

If it’s any good – it will have come “through you”.

And when it comes through you “in spirit” then it’s PERFECT.

No need to challenge the FLOW.

No need to question everything that flows from you.

That’s like questioning GOD and saying His work isn’t good enough!

Are you really going to challenge that?

The other thing, is that the people who have the guts to actually comment about my writing or content, in general terms, haven’t even picked up a pen or done a consistent job with the clicking of the keys.

Isn’t that always the case?

It’s like the people who give parenting advice and don’t have kids.

Don’t get me started.

But this isn’t about THOSE PEOPLE – because, let’s face it –

THOSE PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS EXIST!!

This is about you.

This is about me.

This is about the 1% of us humans who so badly have a message, art, MASSIVE amounts of LOVE they want to share with this world.

The second you begin to question yourself, your intentions, your goals – you get swayed, you get pulled away from your art!

You go from a place of strength to a place of weakness, only because you have allowed your intentions to be thwarted.

Your rope of integrity with yourself became frayed.

And don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying be a jerk – I am however saying you need to be DILIGENT in tuning the crowd out – and guess what?!

99.99% of the people are the crowd.

Get specific on a few trusted advisers that you would literally follow off a bridge, and let the rest of the voices go.

In fact, can I tell you a secret.

I used to be FULL of OPINIONS and probably even speak them! I can honestly say, as a person who was scared to publish a book a few years ago and write my truth every week, I no longer find the need to comment on stuff, unless asked – and even then, I’m not an expert on you – nor will I ever be, so who am I to tell you how to run your business, dress, do your hair, decorate your home, or live your life??

I try to stay quiet.

On purpose.

I don’t feel I have much to add in the way of those things anymore.

They’ve become noise to me. They’ve become gossip.

I just want to get down to business and serve my people with my art.

There’s no point hashing it out, there’s no point dwelling on stuff you can’t change.

(Tell that to anyone who watches the news!)

It’s wasting my time.

I don’t take lightly to wasting my time and doing things out of alignment for me (such as watching the news!)

That’s wasting my MOST precious commodity – time.

So, yes, once again – I commit to my art above all.

Draw the line in the sand – knowing many people will comment, many people may not like me – AND THAT’S OKAY!

At the end of the day, you don’t have to answer to them.

And so I create a quote you can quote me on:

Don’t be like dust and settle for the opinions of others. – Lisa Elle

Figure out who you have to answer to within, and then with all your might, strength and power – go forward, a leader in your art.

And today, that means….

Live Your Legacy!

xxL

 

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How To Find Yourself

Find Yourself

How do you find yourself?

The old cliché.

‘Finding Yourself’

Go to Tibet and sit with monks or find yourself a Shaman or Yagya?

Maybe watch Eat, Pray, Love a million times while gorging on ice cream?

Lock yourself in a cabin in the woods alone…

or complete a 10-day Vipassana?

Maybe you are one of the lucky ones and you aren’t lost?

I found myself recently.

On a toilet.

From trying the Eat, Pray, Love and giant tub of ice cream thing.

It doesn’t work.

From one soul to another – finding yourself is easy once you know what your looking for.

Me? Well, let’s say I’ve traveled many places, read many books, hired many teachers and laid with the singing bowls.

Finding yourself can be costly.

I mean, in a good way. After all, who doesn’t want to visit the monasteries of Italy?

Filling yourself with distractions is usually not the way to do it.

It’s actually much easier than that.

So, ya, I found myself.

It wasn’t a hallelujah moment when the sky departed and GOD himself came down and whispered in my ear.

The problem is that most of us are still waiting for that bolt of lightning, the clouds to part, the call from beyond, or a ghost to visit us in the middle of the night with an instruction manual, or even a pirate map would be good at this point.

We are all so desperately waiting for something to tap us on that shoulder and say “come forth my child and do this…”

It doesn’t work like that.

Maybe for a select few of really intuitive people who’ve honed their skills, but for the rest of us – there will be no bolt of lightning when it comes to finding ourselves, our true path, our calling.

Finding myself was UNEVENTFUL at best!

Sorry, not sorry, to disappoint.

The truth is you will need to pick up your magic wand and ANOINT & APPOINT yourself.

You still haven’t done that.

And that is why you are still STUCK in the “finding myself” phase – and will be forever and ever AMEN.

That is NOT the place you want to be STUCK.

Okay, it is fun for the first year when you are backpacking across Europe.

However, from one seeker to another – it gets old after a while, and you end up wishing you just comitted in the first place.

When you don’t find yourself, it eventually goes from FUN to BUM.

Yes, it becomes a bummer to flip-flop through your life. (See chapter 2 of my book: Strut)

YOU become a bummer to be around.

YOU have no direction and people who are directionless are B-O-R-I-N-G!

YOU end up attracting more BUMS around you.

However, there is a way to overcome all of this.

There is a way to FIND YOURSELF.

And of course, I want you to find yourself, so hence I’m sharing the STEPS to FINDING YOURSELF!

Here’s HOW I found myself and YOU can too!

STEP1: Assert your “I”

What?!

Follow me for a minute here.

When you use the word “I” you invoke the “WILL” or your innermost part of you, your spirit and ego and all the stuff you can’t see.

Using the word “I” is the most power of words. The word “I” is always used in setting an intention.

“I am going to exercise.”

“I need to get groceries.”

“I want to watch TV.”

You can’t NOT use “I” without setting an intention.

Even if the intention is trivial, like going to the bathroom, you still, in some way, shape, or form, set that intention.

AND YOU FOLLOW THROUGH.

Almost every time!

When you assert the “I” statements, you draw up from your internal “WILL” you actually end up “establishing a close connection between the Individual Will (your own personal desires) and the Universal Will (that of the universe or God, whatever you believe)” according to my ol’ pal William Walker Atkinson in his 1901 works on Thought Vibration. (Another great read from the past!)

The problem with many of us is that other than asserting ourselves for great purposes we don’t aim very high and claim what is rightfully ours.

We aim for comfort, not for the magnificent. 

Finding yourself requires one simple thing and that is asserting your “I” in a powerful way.

Create the statements of what you want to bring forth into your reality.

When you don’t know what you want to create or bring forth in your life you are scattered, directionless, and chaotic energy.

When you set the clear intentions of ‘I will’ or ‘I am’ you instantly create some order in your life, a path to follow.

You have found yourself when you have direction, and when you have direction, you have found meaning for your life.

Assert your “I”.

Then take it a step further and….

STEP 2: Claim Self-Mastery of Your Lower Self

What?!

Again, my good friend, William Walker Atkinson writes this.

AND it hit me on the head.

FINALLY!

This is where I flail about.

This is where I get stuck.

I imagine most of us do.

We haven’t mastered ourselves.

We haven’t mastered the “animal” part of us that just wants to eat, drink, and have sex all day long.

“All things are good when we learn to master them – but no thing is good when it masters us.” – William W. Atkinson

How are we to do amazing things when we are “slaves to the lower parts of our mental being”?

We are slave to our moods, passions, appetites, unworthy thoughts, negative thoughts – to name a few.

I ask myself then, “So, how do we master the parts of us that end up running the show?”

Ask good questions, get good answers.

To this, I have but one answer so far…

Give yourself some marching orders.

Your “rebellious” self is running the show.

Create a new show.

Get a new script.

Create new thoughts.

Get a new cast.

Take your rightful place as QUEEN (or KING) of the gong show you are calling your life right now.

Again, I speak to myself here. But, you know that you are called by the Divine to be the Queen/King of your life, so why are you letting the lower planes, lower vibrations, lower self take hold of you?

All I know is this, that all the people I admire, look up to, & who inspire me are the people who have mastered the lower levels of themselves.

They eat with restrain, exercise, do the work, have all the money and relationships and pretty much HAVE IT ALL!

And they have self-mastery in ALL areas. Not just one or two areas.

So, I encourage you to find yourself, where you are today, right here, right now.

Don’t wait!

Because today you….

Live Your Legacy!

xxL

 

 

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THE UGLY TRUTH: You STILL Don’t Know What You Want

The UGLY TRUTH

Have you ever left on a trip to another country without a bra?

I managed to bring the passports, legal and medical documents for my kids – even a bathing suit.

But forgot to bring, pack or wear a brassiere.

I even packed make-up, but as it turns out you don’t bother to wear make-up when you don’t wear a bra – this is a FACT!

There I was.

3 full days of driving. Spanning 2 countries. Middle-Aged Woman. Glorified Chauffeur to my kids. Braless.

It was a disaster for me, but an absolute DREAM vacay for my boobs.

They got the freedom they so desperately seek.

I got to hide and run around with my arms crossed over my chest all weekend long.

It went down like this.

Saturday. Sunday. Monday.

Drive-Thru’s. Obviously. So no one could see me.

Tim Horton’s Medium One Cream. Braless.

Starbucks Grande Blonde Flat White. Braless.

McDonald’s Big Mac & Fries. Braless. (Don’t Judge!)

But then my problem amplified…

I had to go pee from all that coffee!

Ducking. Hiding. Plotting and planning my potty trips to and fro the bathrooms of unsightly gas stations like a covert op to make sure no one could get a glimpse of the flopage.

Sunglasses on. Hiding from the paparazzi – that I don’t have – because they may catch a glimpse of nipples down by my knees….

This was NO ‘Sexiest-Celebs-Go-Braless-In-Public-And-Become-More Sexier’ TMZ escapade.

This was in fact a ‘Hide-From-All-Humanity’ mission.

I had to do this 3 days in a row.

Serves me right for leaving at 5am for a road trip, rolling out of bed and hopping in my car without looking in a mirror, or looking down for that matter.

Calgary – Kelowna – Sandpoint – Calgary.

23 Hours of Driving.

The hippies in Sandpoint, Idaho didn’t mind.

They welcomed my new found freedom at Flower Child’s Coffee.

And the hippies get it. They get me.

Compassion in their eyes (or they could have been tears of sadness for me – one really doesn’t know!)

I could’ve moved in, sang Kumbaya, and placed a flower headband & fit right in with the mountain people who live off the grid.

After shuffling my children around the west, I have now made it back to civilization: my closet.

I showered, yes, naked – one last dance of freedom for my little friends before they got thrown back in boobie-jail.

All of this for what lesson?

I pondered that for 23-hours in my car.

Deep. Soul Searching moments without cell service deep in the crevasses of the Rocky Mountains.

And in those deep-soul-searching-braless-moments on my road trip, a bolt of light shone through the trees as Eric Church rang through my ears….

and BOOM!

I figured out what I want!

And what I NEED & WANT for the REST OF TIME.

A bra.

A nice plain black over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder.

I wish figuring out the rest of my life and what I wanted were this simple.

SERIOUSLY!

This is the big problem.

The BIG problem we all must find answers to.

The BIG problem facing most of us is that we still don’t really know what we want.

We think we want to win the lottery. We think that’s all we want and we go about our lives as if we’ve figured it out.

But the lottery, like so many false pleasures in our lives, are just that, BUFFERS.

Buffers that keep us from really digging deep and really finding answers to the question:

What is it I really want from my human experience?

We don’t know what we want today, tomorrow, and definitely not for the rest of our lives.

So we buffer with Big Macs & Super-Sized Fries – or your version of it.

We DO know that we are a GIANT ball of mushy dough able to transform into whatever we desire, but we keep changing our minds before the baker is finished serving up the final product.

You can’t keep asking to be a pretzel, then changing your mind and asking to be pizza dough, then deciding to be a pretzel again, but oh – look over there – the french bread is having all the fun (as the French seem to have!)

YOU END UP IN A PILE OF MUSH.

Majority of us live in indecision – a MAJOR LACK of sticking with something/anything long enough for it to “rise” to the occasion of completion. (HAHA!)

So that’s problem #1.

Not knowing what you really want.

Then there is problem #2 for those that have a slight inkling of what they want or even know full out what they want.

We dismiss the good that comes our way from knowing what we want.

We end up getting caught in the day-to-day of life DISMISSING the good that is slowly coming our way.

We brush off the compliments and the wins.

Dismissing the good you deserve or receive in your life is self-sabotage.

What are you dismissing in your life?

or better yet..

Why are we dismissing the good & great things that come into our lives?

I would venture mostly because we don’t feel worthy.

It always comes back to that doesn’t it.

There are other reasons too:

fear, shame, guilt, overwhelm, anger, anxiety

but these excuses usually boil down to:

FEELING WORTHY.

And yes, it’s a feeling.

And yes, it’s a convenient excuse to dismiss your entire existence because you don’t feel you really deserve it.

Because the fact of the matter is that you are WORTHY.

You just don’t feel like allowing in all the ABUNDANCE & GREAT THINGS you DESIRE.

It’s a choice.

The other problem with this entire soup of problem #1 & problem #2 – namely being, not knowing what we want out of life and dismissing the good that is coming to us, is that it leaves us in more chaos.

And to make order out of the chaos we need to figure out and stick with and be worthy of WHAT WE WANT.

Head in the direction of your purpose and goal.

This will not only bring some order out of the chaos, it will also bring your life meaning.

Sending your order back and changing it every 5 seconds to something different will only leave you CONFUSED and FRUSTRATED – meaning – it actually is YOUR FAULT for feeling this chaos you’ve created in your life.

The kitchen is always happy to serve up your exact order.

The UGLY TRUTH is you still don’t know what you want.

You STILL haven’t set any specific intentions except some VAGUE UN-INSPIRING REGURGITATED GOALS.

You can’t even decide on what flavor of ice cream you want so you just end up ordering it all – and end up with a tummy ache and gas.

#truestory

So, what are you ordering with clarity today?

and while you are placing that order, don’t forget to….

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx Lisa

 

 

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Why Growth Matters

Why Growth Matters

I think we get success and happiness confused many times.

We’ve somehow received the message that success and happiness go hand-in-hand – that you can’t have one without the other.

I’m guilty of this.

So many times I think my happiness is based on my success or past accomplishments.

I think my self-worth many times is based on the stuff I did or didn’t do.

Which, by the way, has proven itself as a horrible place to live and ends up manifesting in your life as a mire of depression and disease.

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt – BUT I still really haven’t got the message.

There are big differences between success and happiness.

The thing about success is that you can have huge successes and be miserable.

Success doesn’t guarantee happiness.

Many countless people in history, who successfully impacted and changed the world or had all the money in the world still lived a miserable existence. Howard Hughes comes to mind.

Happiness, on the other hand, does not require success.

You can be happy just by choice.

No success needed. No money needed.

We all know that once you reach a goal there sometimes comes a success-hangover. An ending. Sometimes sadness or depression.

In fact, it’s such a real thing to not want to start the whole process again that we actually have fear of accomplishing our big goals.

Because we won’t know what to do after we have reached our goal.

It’s new territory.

We don’t know what danger lies once we reach the top of the mountain.

So what do we do?

I’ll tell you what I do in spades.

I self-sabotage all my goals.

You have to understand this – I really do live my dream life.

I’m also a super happy person and laugh easily.

I sleep like a baby (maybe more like a teenager!)

I love all aspects of my life right now.

And

I’m super healthy – no medications, no issues, etc.

So, why would I self-sabotage?

I think partly because I can’t see past the goal.

I think things like this:

–> Does life end when you reach your big goals? Seriously, do you just roll-over and die or worse RETIRE?

–> Or, do I have to go out and start a new goal once I accomplish the old goal and go through all this “growth crap” again? Yuck.

–> Add in a little superstition, such as, ‘my life can’t really go from this good to that AMAZING without the rest of my life falling to complete sh*t’.

–> Then there is the simple fact that I’ve spend my adult life creating these neural pathways that pretty much have deeply ingrained in me the “struggle” or the “striving” which has become now super comfortable to me – which are some beliefs that I’ve been deeply working on reprogramming!

–> Self-Talk which ends up sounding like ‘it’s hard to (fill in the blank) make money, lose weight, eat healthy, have kids, find a partner, etc’.

So the struggle stays real my friends, but only because I keep it real in my mind.

We insistently keep choosing the struggle.

It’s like we beat ourselves daily.

And then there comes the point, the big question.

WHY?

Why go after big goals?

Why go after success if you are happy already?

AND there it is…

My million dollar question.

Why go after BIG GOALS if you are happy already?

What can accomplishing a big goal do for your happiness factor if you already are super happy with your life?

I’ve researched this, asked this and studied this and have come up with this answer.

Life is meant to move forward.

Life is meant to increase.

Your soul is going through this human experience to experience growth.

Growth – as in – that is the ultimate goal.

And if growth is the ultimate goal or purpose of life, then how do we measure growth?

In measuring growth, who or what do we have to compare ourselves to?

And there is only one answer.

Y-O-U.

Only the past you.

The you yesterday.

That’s your only real benchmark.

The rest of the people, the rest of your external experiences are here to help you grow.

All the people in your path, the people that trigger you, the people that love you, the people that hate you, the people that inspire you –

That is the only purpose they serve.

Your experiences SERVE UP growth.

Think about this:

The only purpose your thoughts serve is for growth, for increase.

And growth is happening with or without you on board.

The ship has left the harbour.

You basically have no choice in the matter.

So fight me on this all you want.

I think where the gold lies in life is to be in a place where you gratefully accept this and take on the challenge – this game of life- with all the fervor and splendor of a small child – full of wonder.

To be able to take on your past self and intentionally create a new beautiful, amazing, powerful you, a little better everyday.

1% at a time.

Grow in the direction your soul is calling you to grow.

Set the intentions and follow through.

Learn to have your own back.

Create your own personal success definition and choose happiness in that.

Which really means…

Live YOUR Legacy.

xxL

 

 

PS. If you want to get your life on track, organized and make sure you’ve covered all your bases financially – OR if you want to GROW your wealth – then you need to book and appointment with me and WEALTH SPA™! Go to wealthspa.ca!

 

 

 

Money Mindset.

The BIGGEST Money Block Unblocked

The Biggest Money Block Unblocked

Wanna know what one of the largest biggest MONEY BLOCKS that most of us actually have?

And it isn’t really about the money, yet it hinders our souls in so many ways?

Lately, I’ve been re-given this massive lesson to learn.

It’s this.

That I’m great (awesome actually) and worthy with or without money.

I’m awesome regardless of the size of my bank account.

And this is a HUGE lesson I’ve been given to learn.

The biggest money block is actually a complete SOUL BLOCK for most of us.

We use money to make us feel less and put money on the pedestal.

I sure as heck know I’m not the only one who has every struggled with being worthy of being on this planet.

So many of us, (probably all of us living in first world countries) have been told to get a good job, make lots of money, da, da, da…..

Recipe for DISASTER!

And somewhere down the road we believed that’s what we needed to be a person worthy of taking up space in this world.

Many of us feel most of the time like the love we are worth and respect given to us is based on:

  • our net worth
  • our income
  • the debt we don’t carry
  • the money in our wallets or bank account
  • the credit extended to us
  • the size of our business
  • the newness of our home, cars, RV, diamond rings
  • the beauty treatments we prescribe to
  • the status of our job title

We know deep down it’s not, but somewhere along the way we were so convinced that if we had no money we were losers.

That if we didn’t make any money we sucked.

That if we didn’t show up to family reunions as the multi-millionaires we best not show up at all.

I don’t feel like this often, but really getting deep DEEP down into it, I really realize that so much of my SELF WORTH is connected to how much money I am capable of making.

Which in reality controls so many of the decisions I make, but even more so the thoughts about myself in my head.

Money will be the greatest mirror you ever hold up to yourself. 

Okay – you can quote me on that – maybe make it a Lisa Elle quote! 😉

Everything about living, dying and all that’s in between is about how we go through this earthly experience and money being the greatest reflection on how we manage (or think we manage) the external world we navigate.

2 phrases that I never want to hear mentioned again around me:

‘Living Paycheck to Paycheck’

and

‘I’m bad at managing money’

Please don’t say those things around me for the love of God…. why?

Because, if you are doing money right, you are technically living paycheck to paycheck, and by that I mean you have ALLOCATED all your money to be used for your life and higher purpose. (You are doing it even if you aren’t doing it consciously, because money can never be wasted remember!)

Money MUST be going someplace, so technically, it is being spent, even if it is spent on your future (such as savings, investing, real estate, business, etc.) So ya…. you are all living pay check to paycheck.

EVERYONE on the planet is.

Nothing is guaranteed. NOTHING.

So stop saying that’s a bad thing.

You will live paycheck to paycheck till you die.

That’s how she goes.

So stop beating yourself over the head for that!

Next, (oooooh Lisa has her preacher pants on now!).

Stop saying you are ‘bad at managing money’.

Say what you are really bad at or just say the truth.

“I don’t invest yet.”

“I don’t save right now.”

It’s okay. It’s okay to be in the ‘NOT YET’ camp.

You will be there if you want to be.

If you choose not to be, that’s okay too!

The truth is this –

YOU ARE GREAT A MANAGING YOUR MONEY – YOU SPENT IT ALL – DIDN’T YOU?

Point is YES – EVERYONE SPENDS ALL THEIR MONEY.

You have to spend all your money. It has to have a place to go even if its in the bank.

Do you get it yet?

As far as any of this money business goes, no one ever said you have to do ANYTHING, this is your life – take back control and make your decisions and choices from the place that serves your purpose here – NOT your Partners, Kids, Parents, Bosses, Friends, ETC…

This is actually about YOU.

YES YOU!

It has to be.

Because if you still haven’t got the memo that you need to be the best you before you can serve others, then I will send you the memo directly to your inbox for no extra charge. 🙂

You have to BE THE LIGHT by lighting yourself up first to bring up the moths to your flame. #thatshowitworks

Don’t have it all assbackwards.

Most people do.

The whole “let-me-shrink-be-small-not-create-waves-not-rock-the-boat-and-let-me-make-you-more-important-than-me” thing NEVER works!

Has your soul not figured that out yet?

Time to rise up?

Be strong.

Be brave.

Follow what you believe.

I’d say it is.

This is for me.

I write for me.

I write to speak from my soul to the part of me that doesn’t listen – that still doesn’t get it – the part that shrinks still.

Stop living your life all scurvy-turvy-swervy (also known as: scattered, no clarity, directionless, blocked, victim).

Make the decision that FEED your soul.

Stop telling yourself the LIES about you that don’t serve you (yes, they are all lies that you suck at managing money and that you are not worthy of being on this planet and being loved for you) and start living FREE>

The biggest money obstacle you will face is uncoupling your self worth from money.

Let money be the money.

Let you be you.

You are not your money.

You are worth more than all the money on the planet can ever be worth.

Get it?

Got it?

GOOD.

Live YOUR Legacy!

xxL

 

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Coach.

Really Powerful Questions Answered

Really Powerful Questions Answered

I want to answer some REALLY powerful questions for you. These are questions I ask myself often.

I got the downloads for these this week. Some answers I already knew, just needed to learn them again (and again!)

 

–> How do you go from bad or good to GREAT in your life today, instantly?

Answer: Be still, be thankful for every little thing in your reality, the things you are looking at right now. Say “Thank You” for them. Saying thank you will always elevate your vibration & feelings no matter how hard life feels right now. When you are in a state of gratefulness YOU CANNOT BE IN ANY OTHER STATE (ie. grouchy, mad, pissed, angry, frustrated…) so do whatever you need to to get to that place of gratefulness – this will make today GREAT.

 

–> Does LOVE and BEING in LOVE matter?

I went to my family reunion this week. My great-grandma and great-grandpa had the most amazing love story. It really was a Cinderella story. She was orphaned, and he was sent to date the “evil step-sisters”, but saw great-grandma and fell in love with her instantly on New Year’s Eve no less. They were married 4 weeks later on January 29, 1918.

Their love has grown into 215 people 100 years later.

How cool is that?

Don’t EVER think that your LOVE story isn’t important. All of you & the love you give is important in the making of your story. The legacy you leave behind is going to affect the next generations. Even if you feel like a small orphan who doesn’t have any money, or any family – you can still impact hundreds of people with your life, your light and love.

SHARE YOUR LOVE STORY!

 

–> Is debt bad?

Answer: I’ve wrestled with this for a long time, especially as someone who is a financial planner and someone who was indoctrinated to “HATE DEBT”. But I don’t. I’m probably the only planner who actually looks at debt from an energy standpoint rather than from just a negative number on a piece of paper.

And after meeting with literally thousands of people in my career, I have come to learn this:

All ideas require capital. All ideas.

So, if you plan on living life to the full it will require capital of some form.

Most of the time this capital comes in the form of money.

And most of the time requires the lending of money from investors (aka other humans who also have a dream), be it a bank loan or raising funds from the stock market.

The world is run on the sharing, moving and flow of capital.

There are two kinds of people in the world.

The people who stretch themselves and the people who don’t.

Growth doesn’t happen if you don’t stretch yourself. Sometimes, that means taking on debt to see a dream realized, such as buying a home or business.

On the flip side, the people who refuse to carry any debt whatsoever I wonder if they are hiding from their dreams, if they are too scared or stuck in a mindset where they fear not having enough.

I’ve seen it, so I know that as much as not having debt is one less stress to worry about, those people many times are still worried about cash flow or some other money issue.

But more importantly, I hope they aren’t hiding their ideas from the world and dying with their dreams still inside their heart.

Because let’s face it, as humanity, we rise and fall with ideas, but mostly we rise. We are all left holding the bag at the end of the day, so investing in ideas that propel humanity forward is the best we can all do in this lifetime.

So no, I don’t think debt is bad. It’s courageous for those who have the balls to raise millions of dollars to see a dream, an idea come into reality, and for the rest who just racked up credit card debt on their last vacation, it’s maybe a lesson – but either way, it’s not bad unless you make it bad.

Here’s another question you can answer for yourself: Are you playing your life small and safe? What’s the payoff?

 

–> What’s the purpose of life?

Answer: Joy. Living in deep-soaked-in-your-bones-joy regardless of circumstance.

 

xx L

 

Leadership.

The Rainbow Sprinkle

June 23, 2015 in New York City at the Kingside, I hit publish on my business, website, a blog and a vision.

A FREAKIN’ HUGE VISION.

A vision so big I want to curse God most of the time.

And I do.

I’m also secretly grateful He bestowed this desire and dream on my life.

Magically or not so magically, He gave me all the tools and gifts to be able to see this ridiculously big vision into reality.

As long as I STICK WITH IT.

As much as I want to celebrate my first 3 years in business, I want to be soooooo real with you about what these first 3 years have entailed.

I can see why 90% of businesses fail in the first 5 years.

I don’t think they fail per se.

I think people just get tired of holding their dream up day in and day out, trying to get others on board with their vision, so they throw in the towel, opt for the easier road.

And I don’t blame them one bit!

It’s exhausting. It causes health problems. It causes relationship stress.

Then thoughts like, “How should I market?”, “Do I take on investors?”, “Oh crap – we just lost a client” ……..

ADD TO THAT….. “Does anyone even read my blog/book?” “Am I making a difference?” “Where the F*** DID ALL MY MONEY GO?” (Actually, I do know down to the penny where it went, but it’s still a legit rhetorical question that somehow you ask even when you know the answer.)

As a person of VISION – YOU NEED TO BE YOUR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER!

Every time I’m sitting beside a client who has a beautiful desk job and a steady salary of $200,000 or more, I’m immediately jealous.

The thought of a steady paycheck sounds amazing.

Like water to my thirsty soul.

Especially for a Financial Planner who LOVES stability and being able to plan!

The thought of not having to give that paycheck to Clickfunnels, go-daddy, MANY online programs/tools, publishers, my amazing assistant, office rent, printer ink, and buying my own stapler (versus stealing it from the corporate office like they do in the movies), errors and omissions insurance and various other expenses that I sometimes feel suck me dry, sounds like a dream.

I want a month off.

I want a month off from all my business expenses.

But you don’t get that as a business owner. You just don’t.

It’s kinda like parenting.

(Cause I also want a month break from all of my Kid’s expenses.)

It doesn’t end.

And pulling the plug on your business usually only happens after you’ve exhausted all other avenues.

Not that that is happening to me, however, I get it.

Some months have been COMPLETE SH*T!

Okay – wait, if I’m being honest, most months.

My brain goes there at least once a month, “Okay, if I needed to wrap everything up, how fast could I do it.”

The answer: less than 30 days.

Just quit and be a stay at home mom or better yet, get a good paying j-o-b. (The dreaded word for all self-employed business owners!)

But HERE is the thing.

YOU CAN QUIT the thing that isn’t right for you.

In fact, if that business, relationship, lifestyle isn’t working for you, then quit.

I fully support you.

HOWEVER, once you do get the CURSE of actually knowing what you are here to do on this earth, THERE IS NO QUIT.

You can’t hide from something that you’ve been called to do.

You can try, but it will come back and haunt you until you step up.

Your dreams & desires SPEAK LOUDLY to your soul that it takes more energy avoiding them than it is just accepting that this is your calling.

And, yes, it’s a curse – CAUSE YOU CAN’T RUN OR HIDE FROM IT!

Just like a ghost. It’s always there… da-da-da…. LURKING.

I’m sometimes jealous of the people who “haven’t figured it out yet”.

They get to go on Yoga Retreats and EAT, PRAY, & LOVE their way to their purpose.

The second that is over, the honeymoon of “finding yourself” ends, it’s hard work.

It’s no longer just fun & games, it’s FUN & PURPOSEFUL, but always with a purpose.

You stop getting “recess”.

Which may sound bad to most people who live for their 2-4 weeks vacation a year, BUT….

You get FULLY recharged from living your purpose!

You don’t actually need to take holidays and you actually don’t want to take holidays because that sounds boring, you’d rather be working.

I still don’t get why people like “holidays”.

Don’t get me wrong, I like changes of scenery and exploration and adventure, but an actual holiday sounds like retirement to me, and I’m not even interested in the least bit.

THERE’S SO MUCH AMAZING WORK TO CREATE & PUT OUT IN THE WORLD!

and

THE WORLD NEEDS IT!

The world needs you right now.

It needs your special love for that geeky thing you do.

You do have everything inside you to see your dreams become a reality.

God hands it out as STANDARD OPERATING EQUIPMENT at birth.

There are no extra people on this earth.

We all have been given a gift to share with others!

I mean, I actually had a client last week who said, “You find this fun??” and I DO!

Thank GOD we are all made differently!

Thank GOD no one wants to be me!

And THANK GOD that I do want to be me.

I get to choose everyday to be me and to be happy in the life I’ve choosen.

Because, look around.

Look around the room you are in right now.

YOU CHOSE THIS.

It’s all you.

Your life has been ALL you.

No point in blaming someone else. (Although, I’d like to blame the economy, government, my kids…)

If you haven’t found your purpose yet, find it.

If you have found your ‘curse’ of purpose, are you going full-throttle?

Are you doubling-down on life?

I am and it’s about killing me – but I LOVE it.

And there are NO other options.

BURN THE BOATS. There’s no turning around.

There’s no icing on this cake….yet! Every once in a while, I bite into a RAINBOW SPRINKLE.

People either support me or just get out of my way!

BUT EITHER WAY…..

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx Lisa

 

 

PS. My vision is BIGGER than ever. Helping women step into their FINANCIAL POWER. It’s on! – WEALTHSPA.CA !

PPS. This is dedicated to the small tribe of amazing women who have supported me over the last three years by reading my blog, listening to my talks or podcasts (even the ones I deleted), paid for my book, read my book, became clients, followed me, joined me in my vision to help women financially. This is for you. THANK YOU for being the RAINBOW SPRINKLES in my life! xx