I think we get success and happiness confused many times.

We’ve somehow received the message that success and happiness go hand-in-hand – that you can’t have one without the other.

I’m guilty of this.

So many times I think my happiness is based on my success or past accomplishments.

I think my self-worth many times is based on the stuff I did or didn’t do.

Which, by the way, has proven itself as a horrible place to live and ends up manifesting in your life as a mire of depression and disease.

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt – BUT I still really haven’t got the message.

There are big differences between success and happiness.

The thing about success is that you can have huge successes and be miserable.

Success doesn’t guarantee happiness.

Many countless people in history, who successfully impacted and changed the world or had all the money in the world still lived a miserable existence. Howard Hughes comes to mind.

Happiness, on the other hand, does not require success.

You can be happy just by choice.

No success needed. No money needed.

We all know that once you reach a goal there sometimes comes a success-hangover. An ending. Sometimes sadness or depression.

In fact, it’s such a real thing to not want to start the whole process again that we actually have fear of accomplishing our big goals.

Because we won’t know what to do after we have reached our goal.

It’s new territory.

We don’t know what danger lies once we reach the top of the mountain.

So what do we do?

I’ll tell you what I do in spades.

I self-sabotage all my goals.

You have to understand this – I really do live my dream life.

I’m also a super happy person and laugh easily.

I sleep like a baby (maybe more like a teenager!)

I love all aspects of my life right now.

And

I’m super healthy – no medications, no issues, etc.

So, why would I self-sabotage?

I think partly because I can’t see past the goal.

I think things like this:

–> Does life end when you reach your big goals? Seriously, do you just roll-over and die or worse RETIRE?

–> Or, do I have to go out and start a new goal once I accomplish the old goal and go through all this “growth crap” again? Yuck.

–> Add in a little superstition, such as, ‘my life can’t really go from this good to that AMAZING without the rest of my life falling to complete sh*t’.

–> Then there is the simple fact that I’ve spend my adult life creating these neural pathways that pretty much have deeply ingrained in me the “struggle” or the “striving” which has become now super comfortable to me – which are some beliefs that I’ve been deeply working on reprogramming!

–> Self-Talk which ends up sounding like ‘it’s hard to (fill in the blank) make money, lose weight, eat healthy, have kids, find a partner, etc’.

So the struggle stays real my friends, but only because I keep it real in my mind.

We insistently keep choosing the struggle.

It’s like we beat ourselves daily.

And then there comes the point, the big question.

WHY?

Why go after big goals?

Why go after success if you are happy already?

AND there it is…

My million dollar question.

Why go after BIG GOALS if you are happy already?

What can accomplishing a big goal do for your happiness factor if you already are super happy with your life?

I’ve researched this, asked this and studied this and have come up with this answer.

Life is meant to move forward.

Life is meant to increase.

Your soul is going through this human experience to experience growth.

Growth – as in – that is the ultimate goal.

And if growth is the ultimate goal or purpose of life, then how do we measure growth?

In measuring growth, who or what do we have to compare ourselves to?

And there is only one answer.

Y-O-U.

Only the past you.

The you yesterday.

That’s your only real benchmark.

The rest of the people, the rest of your external experiences are here to help you grow.

All the people in your path, the people that trigger you, the people that love you, the people that hate you, the people that inspire you –

That is the only purpose they serve.

Your experiences SERVE UP growth.

Think about this:

The only purpose your thoughts serve is for growth, for increase.

And growth is happening with or without you on board.

The ship has left the harbour.

You basically have no choice in the matter.

So fight me on this all you want.

I think where the gold lies in life is to be in a place where you gratefully accept this and take on the challenge – this game of life- with all the fervor and splendor of a small child – full of wonder.

To be able to take on your past self and intentionally create a new beautiful, amazing, powerful you, a little better everyday.

1% at a time.

Grow in the direction your soul is calling you to grow.

Set the intentions and follow through.

Learn to have your own back.

Create your own personal success definition and choose happiness in that.

Which really means…

Live YOUR Legacy.

xxL

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I want to answer some REALLY powerful questions for you. These are questions I ask myself often.

I got the downloads for these this week. Some answers I already knew, just needed to learn them again (and again!)

–> How do you go from bad or good to GREAT in your life today, instantly?

Answer: Be still, be thankful for every little thing in your reality, the things you are looking at right now. Say “Thank You” for them. Saying thank you will always elevate your vibration & feelings no matter how hard life feels right now. When you are in a state of gratefulness YOU CANNOT BE IN ANY OTHER STATE (ie. grouchy, mad, pissed, angry, frustrated…) so do whatever you need to to get to that place of gratefulness – this will make today GREAT.

–> Does LOVE and BEING in LOVE matter?

I went to my family reunion this week. My great-grandma and great-grandpa had the most amazing love story. It really was a Cinderella story. She was orphaned, and he was sent to date the “evil step-sisters”, but saw great-grandma and fell in love with her instantly on New Year’s Eve no less. They were married 4 weeks later on January 29, 1918.

Their love has grown into 215 people 100 years later.

How cool is that?

Don’t EVER think that your LOVE story isn’t important. All of you & the love you give is important in the making of your story. The legacy you leave behind is going to affect the next generations. Even if you feel like a small orphan who doesn’t have any money, or any family – you can still impact hundreds of people with your life, your light and love.

SHARE YOUR LOVE STORY!

–> Is debt bad?

Answer: I’ve wrestled with this for a long time, especially as someone who is a financial planner and someone who was indoctrinated to “HATE DEBT”. But I don’t. I’m probably the only planner who actually looks at debt from an energy standpoint rather than from just a negative number on a piece of paper.

And after meeting with literally thousands of people in my career, I have come to learn this:

All ideas require capital. All ideas.

So, if you plan on living life to the full it will require capital of some form.

Most of the time this capital comes in the form of money.

And most of the time requires the lending of money from investors (aka other humans who also have a dream), be it a bank loan or raising funds from the stock market.

The world is run on the sharing, moving and flow of capital.

There are two kinds of people in the world.

The people who stretch themselves and the people who don’t.

Growth doesn’t happen if you don’t stretch yourself. Sometimes, that means taking on debt to see a dream realized, such as buying a home or business.

On the flip side, the people who refuse to carry any debt whatsoever I wonder if they are hiding from their dreams, if they are too scared or stuck in a mindset where they fear not having enough.

I’ve seen it, so I know that as much as not having debt is one less stress to worry about, those people many times are still worried about cash flow or some other money issue.

But more importantly, I hope they aren’t hiding their ideas from the world and dying with their dreams still inside their heart.

Because let’s face it, as humanity, we rise and fall with ideas, but mostly we rise. We are all left holding the bag at the end of the day, so investing in ideas that propel humanity forward is the best we can all do in this lifetime.

So no, I don’t think debt is bad. It’s courageous for those who have the balls to raise millions of dollars to see a dream, an idea come into reality, and for the rest who just racked up credit card debt on their last vacation, it’s maybe a lesson – but either way, it’s not bad unless you make it bad.

Here’s another question you can answer for yourself: Are you playing your life small and safe? What’s the payoff?

–> What’s the purpose of life?

Answer: Joy. Living in deep-soaked-in-your-bones-joy regardless of circumstance.

xx L

Obviously, if you haven’t figured out that the only way to do your life is to do your life they way you want to and let ALL the opinions about you and how you choose to live fly out the window.

By the way, you have to do that to step fully into your purpose!

You have to NOT GIVE TWO HOOTS what people think if you are going to step into your power, step into your purpose!!

When you don’t care what others say about you or think about you, and you come to a place in your life where you’ve learned never to actually even care what other people think of you, family, friends, business or otherwise – this is when you really get your power back!

All of this not caring in a loving way of course, because you get to be love – that’s on you. Being LOVE first.

The trick here is that the “haters”, like in my fav Taylor Swift song ‘Shake It Off’, is usually not from the random public, it’s usually the people closest to us. Not that they hate us – it’s just we spend so much time with our family, friends, partners, co-workers, etc. – that they tend to be the ones biggest in our heads and their opinions of us end up ruling!

Here’s another observation I’ve made about people and I will take it to my grave or until I feel this belief no longer serves me.

I call it First Impression Anchoring.

I made that up. But it sounds official, so we’ll stick with it.

It means, however or whenever you met someone (that first point of contact) is anchored in their head and remains throughout your relationship – no matter how long!

Makes sense if you think about it.

Mom & Dad think of me a cute little girl (although, I’m blessed to have supportive parents, they still will always see me as their little girl and I will see my girls like that too!)

My friends from grade school & my teenage years still see ‘that’ Lisa.  Crazy no doubt.

Fast forward to now when I meet people they see & meet a totally different Lisa. Confident? Who knows?

I like these new people I meet today because they see me more in alignment with who I actually am today and not the old Lisa from the past. (And I’m attracting at a different level, a different vibration than when I was 6. Obviously….)

(I really believe there are people in my life that still see me like a 10-year-old and my goals/dreams as “Oh that’s cute! She wants to help millions of people! What a pipe dream!” {Sidenote: I don’t even know what a pipe dream is or why anyone would want to dream about pipes!} Not that I end up staying around these people very long – it doesn’t serve my purpose and I don’t need that in my head!)

I do believe people can grow together and see you how you really are now, even if you’ve known them your whole life.

Besides all this mumbo-jumbo – by far the BEST people I choose to keep in my life are people who see me for who I am going to BE and know that even though today I’m not where I want to be, they know, support and LOVE me for where I am headed! Those are the people to keep in your company. Period.

The reason I really love my “THEORY” of First Impression Anchoring is because it reminds me that EVERYONE will see me differently.

And that I will have million different opinions from a million different people about me.

And NONE OF THAT MATTERS!

The only opinion that EVER matters are the opinions you have about yourself!

So here is my opinion of myself.

You are welcome to disagree, but don’t email me or call me about it. I really won’t respond to you. Neither will my assistant. 🙂

This is what I journal on, affirm, repeat in my head on an ongoing mantra all day long. These are my #innermost thoughts and what really goes on in my head all day:

I am LOVE.

I shine. I help. I am here to bring LOVE to the people in my space.

I am the FUNNIEST person I know.

I am light and laughter.

I bring JOY to myself and it radiates out of me and rubs off on other people.

I literally change lives. I am helping millions of women in Canada and around the world.

I am a best selling author (naturally, I’m actually close…)

I am beautiful – outside and even more so on the inside.

I am healthy. My body is here to serve my souls purpose.

I am a runner. I live to run FREE and FLY like a bird.

I am making a difference.

I speak powerful, important, funny, entertaining, life transforming words.

I am the queen of GIVING first and receiving – in flow.

I am bad, good and everything in between and I love to grow.

I keep my word with myself and have integrity with myself.

I do my best to keep my word with others, and forgive myself when I don’t.

I treat my family, employees, clients, friends AMAZING.

I want to be friends with me.

I LOVE spending time alone with myself, because I love LOVE myself.

I am my favorite person to hang with (which is good because I spend a LOT of time with me!)

I BRING the energy.

I BRING it with my whole heart.

I BRING LOVE with my whole heart.

So let’s just call it what it is: I’m awesome!

I sure hope your opinion of yourself is Rockin’ Awesome!

If your inner dialogue is awesome, you can’t not be an awesome person!

If your inner dialogue is sh*t, then well…. you will basically manifest a lot of poop in your life.

(FYI, my opinion hasn’t always been awesome of myself. Many times, even now, I get down and so hard on myself, and depression sets in, along with Netflix, and I invite Benedict Cumberbatch, Ben AND Jerry over…. Jerry doesn’t like Benedict so it’s a little awkward in my bed sometimes….)

You have to have some awesome words floating around in your brain if you plan on creating, sharing, giving, living LIFE to the FULL!

If you plan on living and playing a small game, then keep thinking you suck. That’s about as far as you will get.

Connect to your deeper purpose and you will be able to find those words to propel you to your future you, which actually is HERE right now. SO step into that and BE the new you from this moment on.

This is your choice. Like choosing chocolate or vanilla.

The new you that doesn’t let the opinions of others dictate your steps, your path, your plans to help make this world rock on its axis.

Because you are here to do that.

Are you doing it?

God doesn’t create mistakes.

SO maybe it’s time….

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx L

PS. This is what really has me in a stir this morning! Did you know that only 0.1% of women in Canada made over $250,000 in 2015 according to Stats Canada! 56,020 women made over $250,000. I also recently heard that only 5 women in Alberta made over $1,000,000 last year. FIVE!

1.7% of Canadians were women who made over $100,000 in 2015.

0.5% of Canadians were women who made over $150,000 in 2015.

I’m going to change this!

Wealth Spa is the start of this. I want millions of dollar to flow through women and into the hands of all the things we want to change in the world and make better.

Are you with me?

You need to be!

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How to be the best lover ever?

You’re wanting the end result, right?

Love, Passion, Fireworks?

So, how are you going to get there?

How you do LOVE is how you do life. (No truer words have been spoken…)

Okay, let me take this a step back for a minute before I talk about the “how-to” steps of being a good lover because this applies to your whole life.

It started way back.

With a seed.

(And to reference, not the seed you are thinking about, the other seed. The seed of your dreams – PEOPLE! Get your head out of the gutter. This is a G-rated blog – okay, maybe PG-13.)

You wanted something.

You still want something.

So, what do you do? What do you do when you want to receive a harvest in your life?

You need to plant seeds.

Sow.

The problem with your seeds and the harvest you are lacking?

• You aren’t really sure what you want your end result to be (roses are great, but you also like carrots. Squirrel!)
• You believe you don’t really deserve a harvest
• You believe that receiving is flat out evil
• You haven’t even bought the seeds nor asked for them
• You haven’t planted your seeds
• You planted one seed and expected acres of crops
• You are impatient so you ripped up the seeds
• You aren’t asking in faith (serious lack of belief)
• You’re so skeptical and negative, your soil wants to run and hide from you!

Okay, now take this and apply it to your life.

Your Money.

Your Health.

Your Business.

Your Love Life.

So you want to be the best lover around?

Come on.

Do I have to teach you everything?! 😉

The only way to make good loving is to already know, think, be, act like a good lover.

Once you are BEing the best love you can be, only then will you act from the place of being the best lover and produce a result of being the best lover – duh?!

If you OBVIOUSLY (maybe to some, not obvious!?!) show up and lie down in bed and expect your partner to do all the work – it ain’t going to end the way you want it to.

Not to mention, the energy that you bring to anything is the results you are going to get!

So let’s get clear on how to BE the best at whatever you want to be the best at (lover or otherwise):

STEP #1 – YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT YOUR END RESULT TO BE

(Hopefully you know this every time you jump into bed! 🙂 )

STEP #2 – YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR IT

Stuff doesn’t just fall in your lap. You have to start planting the seed by asking for it. Most people don’t take the simple step and ask for what they want (& don’t forget to say please!)

STEP #3 – YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BADLY

If you just kinda, sorta, maybe want it – you aren’t going all in! You need to go all in! #nohalfassing

STEP #4 – YOU HAVE TO ACT FROM THE PLACE THAT WHATEVER YOU DESIRE IS HERE

You want to be a leader – act like it. NOW.

You want to be a cook – start cooking. NOW.

You want to star in a show – start shooting. NOW.

You want to be the best lover – start…… you know….  (Note: playing Thunder by Imagine Dragons does NOT make for good lovin’… just my tip for the day!)

STEP #5 – YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE IT

Self-worth, self-confidence and deserving what you desire rear their ugly heads again.

STEP #6 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE FAITH THAT YOU WILL RECEIVE IT

The only voice God respects is FAITH. BOOM! #micdrop

Desperation, Manipulation, Fear, Tears, Your Fancy Education – THEY DON’T WORK ON GOD!

Faith is also the only pleasure God gets from you – so have faith it’s headed your way.  <– HUGE statements (And if you don’t believe in God, your higher power, source, universe, etc.)

STEP #7 – YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO WAIT

This is, honestly, what kills most things…. love and otherwise… learn to be patient. The best things in life are worth waiting for!!

STEP #8 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE YOUR GIVING & RECEIVING IN FLOW

It’s a magical art… But You MUST GIVE first. You must plant first, then you will receive. Consistently.

“The seed that leaves your hand really never leaves your life – it simply leaves your hand and goes into YOUR own future where it MULTIPLIES.” – Dr. M. Murdock

Okay, you are getting what I’m putting down. The giving and receiving must be mutual and in flow and balance. If you only give, and don’t know how to receive this will cause you problems! As for giving, always give your first fruits…..  (OKAY, I just snorted my coffee through my nose laughing…..)

THE POINT OF THE SEED IS THE HARVEST.

I know this is like – duh – the most obvious thing, but I have been planting a F-TON of seeds and not expecting a harvest in my own life.

Isn’t that the most screwed up thing?!

Obviously, I still don’t believe I deserve it on some level.

#truthbomb

#selfworth

AND that explains why I can’t break into my next level on EVERYTHING IN LIFE…..

So, here we are…

In this mess.

Well, I am, and if I am, and we are all connected on some level, I know you are also in the same gardening mess I am in.

We have our gardens and fields trashed around as if a tornado just blew through.

So today, whether you plan on being a FANTASTIC LOVER, crushing your work goals, making more money than you ever dreamed, changing the world for the better, raising the best kids you know how to, or creating the best body you ev-a had….

Go All In WITH YOUR SEEDING and BRING THAT ENERGY TO THE TABLE (or bed) in all that you do!

Live YOUR Legacy.

xx L

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My question to you: What if you believed you were already complete?

I mean REALLY believed it to the last cell in your baby toe?

What if everything you were after, health, wealth, love, were already here?

What if you learned one of the greatest secrets to allowing you to have it all?

I’m a constant seeker of figuring out the “how”.

Desperate for knowledge.

Read every book.

Listened to every speaker I can get my hands on.

Meditated on this.

Prayed on that.

No doubt, you have too.

We all want variations of health, wealth and love.

It’s our innate desire.

So, my question to you as you are on your quest: What if you believed you were really complete?

What if I told you that it’s actually not about “how” to get love, wealth & health?

What if I told you the secret to everything you ever wanted is not actually “out there”?

What if I told you that the secret to everything you ever wanted is already here and you don’t need to go looking for it?

What if I told you that you seriously have everything “inside” of you to be able to “have it all” on your terms?

And

What if I took it one step further and told you that everything, EVERYTHING,you desire is actually aligned with the Divine & your divine purpose?

You want to know what one of the biggest limiting beliefs is around wealth, health, & love is?

“I don’t deserve this.”

Lack of Self-Worth.

Self-Doubt.

Don’t worry.

I can only write about this because I’m the Queen of Self-Doubt and I still struggle with self-worth more often than I’d like to admit.

I’ve spent years YEARS trying to figure out the right formula for it all. The “how”.

I’m nowhere near perfect, and part of the joy of life is learning that you have to keep tapping into, tuning into yourself, and not feel selfish about your desires, or feel bad for having desires that aren’t maybe as noble as starting a school in Africa, or feeding millions of children.

The guilt and shame won’t help your efforts any.

I remember when I was a kid how GUILTY I felt at church when I had ZERO desire to ever be a full-time missionary! NO seriously.

And I even felt guilt when I told my grandparents that I didn’t want to be a pastor, (and HELL no, I even thought about being a pastor’s wife after bible college and that was NEVER going to fly with me….) and I sure didn’t want to be a poor missionary (I know not all missionaries are poor, but as a child, all I saw was mud huts and missionaries eating bugs – and of course I tried eating the fried bugs! They weren’t bad.)

My point here is, no matter how you were raised, no matter which church, or grandparents, or parents, or community group, I’m sure we’ve all felt guilty for not doing something, or not wanting to “follow the way” that others have set out for us.

With good reason. We have our own journey to experience.

Our problem when it comes to health, wealth & the love we desire is actually pretty simple.

We keep turning to the outside world for everything.

• Advice on our hair.
• Advice on our car.
• Advice on our diet.
• Advice on our colon.
• Advice on our relationships.
• Advice on how we should spend our money.
• Advice on what school is the best.
• Advice on what profession is best.
• Advice, Advice, Advice…..

And it’s subtle. SUBTLE.

You get the advice from Facebook, TV, Friends, Family, Walking down the street – basically advice from your “monkey brain” that won’t shut up ever!

And it’s not bad or good advice – it’s just your gathering of information.

The problem with all this information is that it takes time to sort.

Like Laundry.

And if most of us can barely sort laundry, how are we supposed to process a world of information thrown at us?

This is were it becomes even more critical to go within.

To quiet the monkey brain, and listen to the heart, the soul.

The answers are always within.

The answers to your health, wealth & love are all inside you waiting.

This is about tapping into what you have been given as your birthright.

A soul that is connected to the infinite.

The problem is that we’ve stopped asking for help.

Why do we need help from our internal guidance system when we have Google?

The good life, the comfortable, leaves many of us spiritually castrated.

And if you think I’m trying to be funny. I’m not. It actually makes my heart sad when people give up.

We’ve lost our drive.

Our dreams have been crushed.

Life has got us down.

Things didn’t go as planned.

The should’ve, would’ve, could’ves’ have got the best of us.

And we are left empty.

Here’s something I want to say, and some will understand this, and it will trigger the rest.

It’s our responsibility to go deep.

To find that dream.

To follow that dream.

To re-sell ourselves on that dream everyday.

It’s not anyone else’s job – yet we make it everyone else’s problem.

I’m telling you that all the health you want, the wealth you want, and that dream relationship you want is actually already here inside you, you just have to tap in, get clear, and BE that first.

BE love first.

BE health first.

BE wealth first.

WTF is she talking about?

It’s hard, but not hard. And, yes, I mean that.

It involves expectations, but not holding on to them too tightly.

It involves setting intentions, but not being devastated when they don’t materialize.

The trick is in the BEing and the BElieving and your BEliefs.

BE first means that you are already embodying all that you want – KNOWING it’s here, KNOWING it’s not out there.

YOU CREATE IT!

You create it first inside you – then the outside world follows suit.

Think of when you were first in “love”.

That’s literally a feeling you created inside of you.

You created that whole experience.

And wasn’t it the best feeling in the whole world?

Same with health. Same with wealth.

The inside has to be RIGHT before the outside can manifest itself.

To BE LOVE first in all your relationships will manifest a LIFE OF LOVE.

To BE WEALTHY first inside will manifest real money throughout your life.

To BE HEALTHY first in thought and mind and soul will eventually manifest it’s self out.

and if you want LAUGHTER, BE the funniest person you know (even if it’s not true, I think I’m the funniest person I know, and hence, I have so much laughter and lightness most of the time in my life! I actually sit here and laugh at my own jokes – alone – at like 5am!)

This is how it works. It’s law.

It has to. This is how this whole GIG is set up.

NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING.

NOT LOVE, NOT MONEY, NOT A PERFECT HEALTHY BODY.

AND THAT’S BECA– USE YOU ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING – you just forgot that it was inside of you.

And it is waiting for you….

Patiently….

Waiting for your soul.

Wanting to — USE YOU to CHANNEL LOVE, HEALTH, & WEALTH  into this world and pour out that blessing to all those around you.

Your soul is waiting & wanting you…..

to come home to YOU.

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx L

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