How to be the best lover ever?
You’re wanting the end result, right?
Love, Passion, Fireworks?
So, how are you going to get there?
How you do LOVE is how you do life. (No truer words have been spoken…)
Okay, let me take this a step back for a minute before I talk about the “how-to” steps of being a good lover because this applies to your whole life.
It started way back.
With a seed.
(And to reference, not the seed you are thinking about, the other seed. The seed of your dreams – PEOPLE! Get your head out of the gutter. This is a G-rated blog – okay, maybe PG-13.)
You wanted something.
You still want something.
So, what do you do? What do you do when you want to receive a harvest in your life?
You need to plant seeds.
The problem with your seeds and the harvest you are lacking?
- You aren’t really sure what you want your end result to be (roses are great, but you also like carrots. Squirrel!)
- You believe you don’t really deserve a harvest
- You believe that receiving is flat out evil
- You haven’t even bought the seeds nor asked for them
- You haven’t planted your seeds
- You planted one seed and expected acres of crops
- You are impatient so you ripped up the seeds
- You aren’t asking in faith (serious lack of belief)
- You’re so skeptical and negative, your soil wants to run and hide from you!
Okay, now take this and apply it to your life.
Your Love Life.
So you want to be the best lover around?
Do I have to teach you everything?! 😉
The only way to make good loving is to already know, think, be, act like a good lover.
Once you are BEing the best love you can be, only then will you act from the place of being the best lover and produce a result of being the best lover – duh?!
If you OBVIOUSLY (maybe to some, not obvious!?!) show up and lie down in bed and expect your partner to do all the work – it ain’t going to end the way you want it to.
Not to mention, the energy that you bring to anything is the results you are going to get!
So let’s get clear on how to BE the best at whatever you want to be the best at (lover or otherwise):
STEP #1 – YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT YOUR END RESULT TO BE
(Hopefully you know this every time you jump into bed! 🙂 )
STEP #2 – YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR IT
Stuff doesn’t just fall in your lap. You have to start planting the seed by asking for it. Most people don’t take the simple step and ask for what they want (& don’t forget to say please!)
STEP #3 – YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BADLY
If you just kinda, sorta, maybe want it – you aren’t going all in! You need to go all in! #nohalfassing
STEP #4 – YOU HAVE TO ACT FROM THE PLACE THAT WHATEVER YOU DESIRE IS HERE
You want to be a leader – act like it. NOW.
You want to be a cook – start cooking. NOW.
You want to star in a show – start shooting. NOW.
You want to be the best lover – start…… you know…. (Note: playing Thunder by Imagine Dragons does NOT make for good lovin’… just my tip for the day!)
STEP #5 – YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE IT
Self-worth, self-confidence and deserving what you desire rear their ugly heads again.
STEP #6 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE FAITH THAT YOU WILL RECEIVE IT
The only voice God respects is FAITH. BOOM! #micdrop
Desperation, Manipulation, Fear, Tears, Your Fancy Education – THEY DON’T WORK ON GOD!
Faith is also the only pleasure God gets from you – so have faith it’s headed your way. <– HUGE statements (And if you don’t believe in God, your higher power, source, universe, etc.)
STEP #7 – YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO WAIT
This is, honestly, what kills most things…. love and otherwise… learn to be patient. The best things in life are worth waiting for!!
STEP #8 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE YOUR GIVING & RECEIVING IN FLOW
It’s a magical art… But You MUST GIVE first. You must plant first, then you will receive. Consistently.
“The seed that leaves your hand really never leaves your life – it simply leaves your hand and goes into YOUR own future where it MULTIPLIES.” – Dr. M. Murdock
Okay, you are getting what I’m putting down. The giving and receiving must be mutual and in flow and balance. If you only give, and don’t know how to receive this will cause you problems! As for giving, always give your first fruits….. (OKAY, I just snorted my coffee through my nose laughing…..)
THE POINT OF THE SEED IS THE HARVEST.
I know this is like – duh – the most obvious thing, but I have been planting a F-TON of seeds and not expecting a harvest in my own life.
Isn’t that the most screwed up thing?!
Obviously, I still don’t believe I deserve it on some level.
AND that explains why I can’t break into my next level on EVERYTHING IN LIFE…..
So, here we are…
In this mess.
Well, I am, and if I am, and we are all connected on some level, I know you are also in the same gardening mess I am in.
We have our gardens and fields trashed around as if a tornado just blew through.
So today, whether you plan on being a FANTASTIC LOVER, crushing your work goals, making more money than you ever dreamed, changing the world for the better, raising the best kids you know how to, or creating the best body you ev-a had….
Go All In WITH YOUR SEEDING and BRING THAT ENERGY TO THE TABLE (or bed) in all that you do!
Live YOUR Legacy.
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