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Why You Aren’t Manifesting Your Big Dreams

Why You Aren't Manifesting Your Big Dreams

I decided life was good.

It was good. It IS good.

And when you get to the place where you have a majority of all your needs met, life is good for most of us.

I was listening or reading, and I can’t even remember where from (because I seem to be reading like 5 books and listening to 2 – so it’s a mumble jumble mess in my brain sometimes! ūüôā ) when I was asked this question:

“Okay, now that you’ve traveled the world 5-star (of course), own 12 dream houses around the world, own 31 fancy cars (one for each day of the month with coordinated designer outfits and shoes – obs), now what?”

In other words, once you have all the money you could possibly ever want, then what? Then what is going to drive you? What is going to inspire you to wake up everyday?

(Another reason I dislike the word retirement because it conjures up visions of me knitting in a rocking chair and complaining at the 5 o’clock news, hitting my fist onto my TV tray or shaking it at the TV…and that depresses me to point where I don’t even care about retirement #truthspoken)

And, yes, I don’t have a car for everyday of the month (but I do have shoes for 6 months of the year if that counts!), but I have great imagination and visualization skills, and I get to this depressing point every time I do any of these stupid manifesting exercises where you have to visualize what you want out of life. (I’ve done this one lots and come out more miserable than before going in half the time!)

I say ‘stupid’ lovingly – but to me, a person who honestly isn’t motivated by money (although loves it!) it’s hard to care about manifesting a ton of sh*t that I’m not really interested in (aka. 12 houses/31 cars when that just seems like a ton of work to boot!) – (On a side note, I’m about 99% sure that I had royalty in a past life – LOL, so none of this over-the-top stuff really excites me at all. I’m a pretty happy camper, even in a tent – as long as there’s coffee and wifi….oh… and a 5-star tent…)

Actually, I know lots of people where money isn’t the true motivator. And when money isn’t your actual deep motivator, you have to go deeper.

WAY DEEPER.

Because…

This always goes back to living out your WHY.

What is it I want to do?

What is it I’m here to do?

What is it I LOVE to do?

What do I want to do even if I have all the money in the world?

What VISION/DREAM/GOAL DO I WANT TO SEE THOUGH TO THE END?

Depression always sets in when you don’t know your why or are not living out the full self-expression of your soul.

It’s probably as simple and as difficult as that.

Finding your why and living in it fully is the best way to get out of a slump and put some pep into your step.

Sometimes easier said than done.

This I know.

And I’m a pretty self-expressed person (ask my girlfriends!) and yet I sometimes get stuck manifesting the BIG DREAMS!

This is why I get stuck – and maybe you too…..

The reason you aren’t manifesting your BIG DREAMS is probably one of two reasons:

  • you don’t really want what you want badly enough and/or
  • you don’t have enough clarity/emotion/feeling/excitement around your vision to carry it out

So I sit here, in my fancy dining room this morning, in my comfy life and think what’s the point?!

What’s the point of messing up my comfort zone?

What’s the point when LIFE IS GOOD, BUT NOT GREAT?

Is this all there is?

YES! This is all there is (at this moment) because this is all you’ve created thus far.

This place you are reading this – LOOK AROUND – you created it.

Your soul knows you are a powerful creator and you can create more.

But I think this is what happens to most of us… we hit the “COMFY LIFE ZONE”.

Once you hit “COMFY LIFE ZONE” (which I would say is most of middle America and hence why Netflix does so well) it takes a lot to step out of that and go PLAY A BIGGER GAME than the one you are currently playing.

And I do know this:

My WHY has to be bigger than my comfy life.

I will say and most people who know me (and if you’ve been following me for the last 145 weeks or so….) you probably know that I do know my why, and I do.

But there are days when I’m happy to take the back seat and let “COMFY LIFE” be the driver. Those are usually fun days.

Brain goes off.

Scandal goes on.

Chocolate goes in.

(Or I do the Olivia Pope diet of Red Wine & Popcorn…)

The problem for me (and when I say me, I mean you are probably going to resonate with this too, ’cause we all the same deep down) –

I haven’t, continually (continually being the key word), reached harmony between me, myself and my WHY.

This is important for anything you want in your life, my loves…. listen up…

You have to create the feelings within yourself first before they can show up in your reality, in your outside world.

Only if harmony is within will you find it outside of you.

Everything you want has to come from you first –

NOTHING COMES FROM OUTSIDE OF YOU.

God planted it in you. There’s nothing to find ‘OUT THERE’!

It’s all ‘IN HERE’!

TAP IN:

  • to your brilliance within
  • to your power within
  • to your flow within
  • to your dreams within
  • to your happiness within
  • to your world within

Once you really get this, and really understand the power of this – you will be able to fully step into whatever reality you choose for yourself.

And if that isn’t the cat’s meow, then I’m at a loss for words…

xx

 

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Coach.

Choosing New Beliefs

Choosing New Beliefs

New Beliefs.

Here are a few of mine from this week!

These ones caught me off guard – in the sense that I’ve never heard them before (or I get to hear them in a new light) and I am now choosing to write them on my soul as new beliefs to hold – after all, we all get to choose our beliefs, right?!

This first one was from a James Altucher blog and then re-stated by Katrina Ruth in one of her blog’s:

“Every action comes from LOVE or FEAR.”¬†¬†

Boom! Wow, I wrote something similar in my book about the 2 questions you need to ask yourself as you go through life, but this kinda hits home. When you say or do something, what is the real REAL reason for doing so? You know the truth always. And fear can be good or bad fear, so it’s up to you to tune in and figure out what’s true for you. Sometimes you have to face your fears, and doing so is out of love. But let’s be real, most times we act out of fear it’s not in our best interest.

Second thing was from Dr. Joe Vitale, although, I’ve also heard it back 20 years ago from T. Harv Eker.

“Money loves speed.”

Taking fast action on the ideas that come into your head or the opportunities that come into your life – priceless! – especially when it comes to the law of attraction and creating wealth and providence naturally follows. It’s basically following your gut, your intuition and let’s be real again, that sounds kinda zany and most people will look at you like your are crazy, but you’re not here to care what other people think anyways – follow that idea down the path – run with it!

The third thing I read this week that I honestly never heard before, and to be fair, I haven’t even tested this one out, nor have I researched it, but my intuition kind said, “oh that makes sense.”

This one was also from Dr. Joe Vitale.

“You created this moment from what you thought and felt three days ago. What you are thinking and feeling right now will create your next moments.”¬†

At first, I was like no way – three days is a long time, but then…

Yup.

That’s one of those soul truths that you kinda just get to know deep down on a soul level.

No explanation needed.

Beliefs.

New beliefs.

Being allowed to choose new beliefs.

One of the best gifts given to humanity.

Live Your Legacy!

xx

 

 

 

Coach.

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When a closed mind is necessary….You need to read this!

One of my favorite things to do in the whole wide world is Philosophy & Coffee. If I could sit around all day and BS, debate for the sake of debating and have my mind challenged, no agenda – I would love this! (Anyone free this morning?! ūüôā )

This probably comes from my childhood, sitting around the farm table on a Saturday morning with Opa, Oma and a big pot of coffee, talking about everything under the sun. Looking back, this is no doubt where my open mind and curiosity came from.

Something I repeat to myself daily, as part of my life mantra, core belief that I choose to hold, is that ‘I have an open mind‘.

And thus far, I believe it has served me well.

Having and keeping an open mind, I believe offers this:

  • true love
  • understanding of others

And if that short list doesn’t sell you on why you should keep mostly an open mind, then you will choose being ‘right’ over probably having JOY in your life. (<– & that rabbit hole is for another day!)

BUT, I want to share with you today about when it is necessary to have a closed mind.

Because, like most things in life, there isn’t just one way to BE.

There are times that call for closed-mindedness. 

Yesterday, I was driving and listening to one of my fav’s from 1910. Yes, the year 1910. Good ol’ Wallace D. Wattles.

The Science of Getting Rich.

I’ve listened and read it many many times over. Like anything, you always get new and different messages from the same material when you study it.

This was no different.

He brought up really good points on why one would at times need to keep a closed mind.

This really challenged me!

And then I realized this….

I’m keeping a closed mind to having anything but an open mind.

The ultimate in irony. A true paradox.

I feel I have to be RIGHT about having an open mind and that people with closed minds come across….

unkind –

to say the least. I’m sure I can come up with a lot of other words for what I think of true closed-minded people!

Seriously, I personally find it hard to relate to people who have to be right all the time and don’t even entertain new ideas or thoughts or world views.

However, I was really confronted with this whole open/closed mind thing yesterday when Wattles was talking about manifesting your one true desire, accomplishing your BIG goals.

The place where closed-mindedness comes into play is when you are following the deep desires of your heart, and set out big plans or goals. The BIG Vision of what you want to create and bring into the world.

In the beginning, sure, it takes an open heart to be able to figure out your desires, goals and how you want your life to look but once you have that figured out, put on some blinders and ear plugs.

Being closed minded means you need to drown out the NOISE of the world pulling you in different directions with conflicting advice.

Some examples:

  • Diets: Eat this, don’t eat this. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Business: Sell this way, don’t market that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Money: Invest this way, don’t spend your money that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Relationships: Love this way, don’t say that. Do this, don’t do that.

You will get a million different opinions from a million different people. EVERY TIME.

If you are seeking a quorum, or mentally tallying votes on what to do in a certain situation, or figuring out who’s doing what – DON’T.

You may be doing it subconsciously on some level.

(I tally votes in my head on how people choose their diets and exercise… ALL THE TIME! Vegan, Keto, Frenchfrychocolatarian (it’s probably a thing!), Macro-nutrients, intermittent fasting, yoga, Pilates, cross-fit…..)

We all do. Follow the crowd, that is. Want to fit in, that is. Want to be accepted and loved.

When you are in hot pursuit of your goal, that’s when you really want to focus in.

  • Focus in on 1 or 2 mentors.
  • Focus in on 1 or 2 good books.
  • Focus in on what feels right.
  • Focus in on what is placed on your heart.
  • Focus in on the big vision.

This is how all great things have been accomplished.

  • not listening to the crowd
  • not reading contradicting materials
  • not seeking out opinions of others
  • not following 100 different mentors all with different messages

Now, let’s me be truthful here. I’m so bad at this.

I love learning.

If you are a learner and you have natural curiousity, you will most likely have the same problem that I have encountered.

My biggest problem is that I do listen to everyone and what everyone is telling me (aka. gurus, mentors, books (I read a LOT), family, friends, etc.) for the most part ALL contradicts each other.

So I’m left in a MUDDLE of THOUGHTS and no real direction on what is right for me. (And this is fine in the beginning and necessary to learn, but after a while, it gets old!)

I felt that way before I wrote my book STRUT: How to Kick Financial ASSets in Sexy Shoes!

Writing out all my financial beliefs and thoughts on money was one way I clarified to myself what I really believed.

Funny how writing and journaling always seem to bring clarity!

Oh, and with this closed-mindedness, you don’t need to actually be a rude jerk, you can just smile and nod when you are getting advice or just kindly say, “No, that’s not for me right now.” Maybe revisit it in the future.

Something that isn’t for you right now, or for this season in your life, could possibly be something AMAZING for your life later on.

Kinda like how I hated Math and English (barely passed) in high school, and had to beg my English 101 teacher in University to pass me, almost to the point where my professor would have me swear on a Bible that I would never write anything……. and then who became the Financial Planner (by the way, I got an A+ in university math!) and then became a writer a decade later?

Timing.

Tuning In.

Knowing what you want to accomplish.

Being a little picky and closed-mindedness will go a long way in accomplishing that specific vision you have.

Thomas did it.

Albert did it.

Nikola did it.

Every great thing you’ve ever seen was first completed in someone’s mind.

How clear is your vision? What are you setting out to accomplish?

Bottom Line: The clearer your vision, the less open-mindedness you will have – which is what needs to happen for you to bring that vision to reality.

For me, that means:

  • I need to say a few more NO’s.
  • I need to focus on my 2 current mentors for my business.
  • I need to (for the meantime) stop reading conflicting business advice.
  • I need to stop listening to all the advice thrown my way from the loving peanut gallery – ’cause the opinions (on all parts of your life) are readily available every time you pick up the phone.

If you want to keep spinning your wheels, stay in confusion with your vision or your life in general, entertain and follow all the thoughts that enter your mind.

No truer words have been spoken.

xx

 

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Coach.

Life Is Calling…..

Life Is Calling Blog

If I’m honest with you, I’m sitting here this morning with total fear.

‘What ifs’ have got me by the short & curlies. (Can a lady even say that?!?! LOL)

Life is calling me.

And sometimes I hang up on it. I don’t return its emails. And even, heaven forbid, sometimes, I don’t even text back. (GASP!)

I actually got like 6 different downloads pouring out of me this morning (I’m tuned in & dialed in this morning!), but the one I’m choosing is the one I need to hear. (I’ll write the rest this week for you!)

This is the one I’m struggling with.

And no doubt, 99% of the planet…

Living Life to THE FULL.

I’m still not allowing it all in.

You’re still not allowing it all in.

Not allowing yourself to live life to the full….

This means that you have a main block in one of three areas: HEALTH, WEALTH, or LOVE

And here’s the truth…

If you have a blockage in one area, you have a blockage in ALL areas because they are all connected.

They say you can’t have it all – but that’s not a belief I choose to hold. (Don’t forget you get to pick and choose the beliefs you hold!)

To my core, to every last cell in my body, I do believe that I CAN HAVE IT ALL!

The HEALTH of my dreams.

The WEALTH of my dreams.

The RELATIONSHIPS of my dreams (dream friends, dream clients, family, love – it all.)

Where are you DAMNED up?

Seriously, if your life, your blood, your breath moves like a powerful RIVER within you, then where is the damn-dam?

It’s stuck somewhere within.

You know this on a deep level.

Sure, life may seem good.

And it is! No doubt!

However, why is it not GREAT?!

Why haven’t you stepped into your power?

(We talked about this Friday Night on my Facebook Live – you can look it up on my Facebook page…. it did include a GT!)

Then you know that power has to come from within, it’s not something that is external. It’s not something that you can go looking for outside of you, or something you can ever force or force upon another person.

Power must and always comes from within.

When you are dammed up, stuck, stagnant in life, you know that you are certainly not in your power, and you are certainly not living life to the FULL (which by the way is something every one of us is called to!)

We are called to live in total HEALTH, ABUNDANCE & LOVE!

But we can’t have the healthy body, the money, or the love we desire if we don’t allow FLOW in our life.

See what I said there? “ALLOW”

Meaning, it’s already there, it’s just something we need to “LET IN”!

We need to give ourselves PERMISSION.

I think I read Brené Brown would write herself PERMISSION slips to be able to allow her to do great things.

I think it’s the same for most of us.

We are still waiting for some magic fairy, or magic partner, or God outside us to give us permission to be GREAT, to allow perfect FLOW in our lives and to use our power within, and how crazy is that?

God is within us. Meaning all the power is within us, and that you already have all the power, strength, knowledge, tools WITHIN you to live the GREAT LIFE.

So, we live GOOD lives. We established that. Most of us do live a very good life.

But it’s not GREAT.

Good is comfortable.

I was telling a friend how freakin’ comfortable my life is.

And it is….

I have manifested the current life I live – no doubt.

I am a powerful manifestor. (HINT: SO ARE YOU!)

I manifested this life before I was 30. And had everything I ever wanted by 30.

(Read my book STRUT if you want to know more about that!)

But here’s the thing, as it is with goals & life, don’t you really want to live out this life with no regrets and make it GREAT?

There will always be the next level.

Next level HEALTH

Next level WEALTH

Next level LOVE

ALWAYS….

(and for LOVE, I’m talking all your relationships, in case you are curious.. I’m talking about taking all your relationships to that next level of love!)

I’m one of those people who had a big goal and accomplished it.

Actually, I’ve done that a few times.

It’s an amazing high, and then, you typically crash after… I did.

I’ve crashed a lot after reaching goals. I crashed around 33. I crashed after my book launched. I crashed after I launched my company. I always seem to crash after running the half-marathons (Literally!) I probably crashed after every time I completed more letters behind my name. I crash often.

(Especially after losing 5 pounds, I totally reward myself with a new 5 pounds! HA!)

The only reason I crash is because I didn’t believe that I could HAVE IT ALL back then, and when you accomplish something great, it typically disappears or leaves you if you haven’t created the belief system around it to hold the space for your great accomplishments. It’s self sabotage at its best.

So, this is what I want to leave you with today…

Life is CALLING YOU to be GREAT and to LIVE to the FULL. (I’m pretty sure even Jesus says this a few times!)

Do you believe that you can live life to the full and have total HEALTH, WEALTH & LOVE in your life?

What if you let go? What if you allowed the dam to break? What if you stopped holding on so tight?

What if you actually believed that you were allowed to have it all?

After all,

LIFE IS CALLING!

Live YOUR Legacy!!

xx

 

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Coach.

Inspire

Inspire Blog

I just deleted the whole page.

It sucked.

You know when you are doing the work and you aren’t feeling it. There’s no inspiration.

And that’s okay – cause I will say 99% of the work we do is just that… work. And that’s okay.

It takes the 99% to get the 1%.

What is the 1%?

It’s when you are living, working, breathing IN SPIRIT.¬†

Inspiration is wrought with all the markings of BEING IN LOVE – like when your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty – when you can barely catch your breath. (Like watching Virtue & Moir Ice Dance….holy inspiration!)

You know when you are ‘in spirit’ doing work and when you are not.

And like I said, it won’t happen every second, but if you are 100% work and 0% inspiration, then that’s going to cause your heart to fail, literally. It will wreak havoc in your life from not being able to fully express yourself. It will manifest itself as dis-ease within your body.

Why are you hiding from it?

Why are you hiding your work from the world? From me?

What if he didn’t sing your favorite song? What if she didn’t write your favorite book? What if you left the world with your gold still in you – Olympic or otherwise?

I get it.

You are scared.

Cause’ it’s scary. It sucks having to put it all out on the line. Vulnerability.

And half the time you will fail.

You’ll fail in love. You’ll fail in business. Your invention will suck. You’ll make mistakes and trip up.

But then……

There will come a time when you won’t fail. You won’t be the class clown. You won’t be looked upon as a failure.

There will come a time when you SUCCEED – you crush it, you rock it – you damn well have the world on a string.

And it’s not even so much what you get in that moment – cause you will ‘get’ to be proud of yourself (best feeling ever), but even more so, it’s what you end up giving to the WORLD….

You GIVE INSPIRATION!

You BREATHE INSPIRATION!

You BRING FORTH the craziest of feelings, shiniest of lights, the deepest sense of purpose, the greatest joy.

You will have given your gift to the world. You will inspire others at their deepest cellular level, the kind where you know your souls are connected and you can overcome any obstacle.

You will breathe LIFE into another.

Literally.

This then becomes the question to ask yourself in all things:

Are you breathing LIFE into others?

or

Are you taking it from them?

Surround yourself with LIFE breathers.

Distance yourself from the “suckers”.

LIFE breathers are all around you.

They show up in your life to inspire to bring you that second wind when you need it – cause if you are doing anything worthwhile it will turn up the ground of your soul and show up as every emotion under the sun – yes, the dirt and crap will come rising up from the depths of your soul….¬†that’s the growth part.

That’s why the spirit comes to dwell within – so that you can renew, restore, refresh your soil to grow up & out, and to find that light & share it.

Have you ever noticed when you get inspiration that nothing else matters? That the problems you were facing seem to dissipate? Get the feeling that anything is possible?

Anything is possible!

Sit with that for a min.

Anything is possible! What a gift to live in that space, and you¬†have to¬†protect that energy – protect that vibe – cause the suckers come out of nowhere and blow that light so fast… (and by suckers, I usually mean your negative self-talk – although, there are people that seem to have a knack for that too!)

When you live FULLY in that space of your deepest spirit you leave me touched, moved & full of possibility.

You leave me with my heart racing, sweaty palms, and the energy to continue on.

To those that have laid it all out on the field, the ice, the ground, the sky, the stage, the paper, the body, the canvas, the lab, the heart – thank you for being your spirit self-expressed – you have given me breath.

You have inspired me to do the same.

xx

 

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Coach.

My Dream Superpower

My Dream Superpwoer

You know how people always ask you what superpower you want?

Everyone wants to fly, or time travel.

I don’t.

I just want one superpower.

And my superpower is something that I can actually get without having to defy the laws of gravity or jeopardize the space-time continuum.

I just want confidence.

Seriously.

If I had all the confidence in the world – what would I look like? What would my bank account look like? What would my relationships, love, sex, business, communication, body, health look like?

I decided this is the superpower I want. And lucky for me, it’s something I can totally sink my teeth in.

I wrote a while back (2016) on how to get killer confidence (and let’s be honest, I am too lazy to go back and read my old blogs {Wealth Spa‚ĄĘ members can check it out in the membership site} So, I actually have ZERO clue what advice I spouted back then!)

I have now decided you need 3 things to have killer confidence, and every time I feel I can’t step out in confidence, or stand in my power, it’s usually because one of these 3 things are missing.

3 Things You Need To Have Killer Confidence:

  • Knowledge/Education/Learning/Skill
  • Clarity
  • Belief

That’s it. That’s my formula for confidence.

And truth be told, I do actually have some killer confidence.

  • I have 100% confidence I can sit on a chair
  • I have 100% confidence I can brush my teeth
  • I have 100% confidence I can shop for shoes

These things I have practiced many times and know how to do them (knowledge/skill), make a decision & set out to do them (clarity) and know that I will accomplish them with 100% accuracy (belief).

However, there are things I know (knowledge I possess), and set out to do (clarity around what I want to do), however, self-doubt (no belief) creeps in and therefore my confidence is shattered.

I usually get 2 out of 3.

I’m sure most of us get 2 out of 3 for any area we want to have true confidence in.

The one MAGIC thing in this SUPERPOWER FORMULA where I usually get stuck is the BELIEF part of the formula.

Belief in my abilities. Belief in myself. Belief that I am worthy or that I have what it takes to bring my dreams to reality.

And I also know this is where my clients and most humans really get stuck.

We go to school and get the knowledge, the education.

We get the clarity – and even that’s a tough one sometimes.

But where most of us fail in this confidence thing is the BELIEF that it is really possible for us.

If you really believed it was possible for you, where would you be?

If you had all the confidence in the world, where would you be?

What do you need to do to really believe in you?

Live Your Legacy.

xx

Lisa

 

 

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Coach.

The Best Thing I Ever Learned

I’m writing an exam this week.

Another one.

Why on God’s green earth do I do this to myself?

I’ve spent the last 20-years of my life in school which follows the mandatory 12-years of education prior to becoming an adult.

I can never remember a time when I haven’t been registered in a formal “higher” education course for my career, not to mention on top of that, the tons of personal self-growth courses and trainings I’ve attended since high school. That’s like 32 years of my life. I don’t even remember the good ol’ days of not having to think about an upcoming exam – mostly because I would’ve been 5-years-old.

I’ve also become a wiz at multiple choice tests. Ughhh….¬†like that’s what I want people to remember about me at the end of my life – “But she was really good at passing multiple choice exams and bull-shitting her way through essays – look at all those letters behind her name. {insert sob}”

I came to a crazy realization a while back about all this “learning” & “knowledge” I was trying to gather and accomplish.

{BUT FIRST, let’s be VERY clear. I’m not that smart. I’m brilliant at following through, not quitting, and instant regurgitation, however, after an exam, 99% of the info drains out of my brain so I can make room for important things, primarily Netflix and what I want to eat for dinner.}

OK, so here’s the thing.

Taking all these courses have absolutely NOTHING to do with making money. They also have nothing to do with the quality of work I do. I could have stopped after the 7th letter behind my name and still be considered of “value” in my industry – and truth be told, some of the most brilliant minds I work with barely have ANY formal education. Isn’t’ that how it goes?

Formal education, getting a fancy degree or masters or Ph.D. has really nothing to do with making money.

This I know well.

So that’s probably point #1.

Education¬†‚Ȇ Money

Point #2.

The thing that really drove me to get all this education, up until a few years ago was approval. (Yes, back to good ol’ self-worth issues!)

Approval from men mostly. Maybe my Dad a little, probably my husband at one point, but mostly men in my industry. For me to be taken “seriously” as a woman, I felt I needed to prove myself. (Yes, I know this is sad. But LADIES, I sure as HELL know I’m not alone on this boat!)

And so I did. In fact, I have more letters behind my name than most financial people in my industry.

And guess what?!

It means F-ALL.

In fact, trying to please everyone or ANYONE, especially men or a man, is the BIGGEST waste of time for one’s soul.

Do I regret taking the courses? No. Never. I’m inquisitive by nature so I love to learn and always will.

Do I regret thinking that this would make me something of value and that I’m nothing without this education? ABSOLUTELY!

One thing I think I struggled with is that “society” thinks we need to get all this fancy education to be of value. Sometimes “society” even thinks that we are nothing when we don’t have a degree or formal education. (and by “society” – this could be your parents or others close to you!)

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

What everything should boil down to in the education world is to a place where we solve the problems of the world through ideas, utilizing knowledge and learning how to think.

I think that’s the best thing I ever learned ABOUT learning was to learn that you can help solve other people’s problems and find ways to help others, create, come up with new ideas and make this world a better place (oh and you can make money doing that too!). That’s all education needs to be about. That’s all you need to fill your brain, heart, & soul with.

Don’t let the extra letters behind someone’s name make it seem that they are better than you – because they aren’t. Usually, they are just FABULOUS at regurgitation!

Although it isn’t now, for me, education was all about PROVING something to someone. Maybe on a deep DEEP level that someone was me.

Here’s a question for you:

Is there something in your life right now that you are doing to PROVE to someone else which isn’t in alignment?¬†

and 

Is that someone you? 

Have you deeply and completely LEARNED to LOVE YOURSELF?

That’s the BEST thing I ever learned!

………

AND I’m still working on that course.

As for this course & exam this week – it’s in the bag – and for all the right reasons!

xx

 

Coach.

Look Within….Everything You Need Is There

What if you knew without a shadow of a doubt that everything you ever wanted in this life was found within you and not outside you?

What if you could disappear all the external demands of your life and turn inward to the demands of your soul?

What if you honoured your soul first?

What if everything outside yourself didn’t become quite as important as everything within yourself?

Where would you be?

Who would you be?

What would you be?

How would you show up in the world?

and

Why is this important?

You have everything you need to answer these questions.

Answer them.

Live Your Legacy Beautiful!

xx

Coach.

Money Judgment

Money Judgment Blog

Money JUDGMENT.

It’s running rampant.

Especially around the purse you bought, or the new car, or the new shoes, or the trip you are taking or the vitamins you buy or the coach you invest with.

Okay, so this isn’t a new thing.

Holy MacDoodle People. You should hear that judgment come flying out of the ol’ pie hole. (Why do they call it a pie hole? Hmmm.)

“Don’t buy that.”

“You don’t have money for that.”

“What a waste of money that was.”

“Why are you investing in that?”

Projections.

They always throw their own insecurities upon our dreams, desires, fancy “stuff” that we want, but they wouldn’t “waste” their money on.

Okay, we all project. So it’s not just “them”, it’s usually “us” too.

Judgy McJudgy.

Then what happens?

Someone’s comments on your own life puts you in a funk, makes you sad, makes you feel like a failure, starts a fight. Which is crazy by the way that we actually let this happen! Especially from the people closest to us, which seem to be the most critical on our lives.

Giving our power away to the people who we’ve allowed to speak into our lives, but then, instead of taking OPA (other people’s advice) we end up letting their words rush over us like a blanket of shame. Come on! I know all you people pleaser’s out there know exactly what I’m talking about.

How does anyone on this planet know what’s best for you?

Last I checked you were the authority on YOU. The only person qualified to give you advice is Y-O-U.

Here’s the thing with anyone’s two cents on our lives.

You take it and then you release it. You take what you want from what they said and release the rest.

The rest isn’t for you.

The rest is for them to work on.

Again, that’s what they are projecting and probably something they need to deal with. Just recognize that it is their issue and move on.

Their money issues. Their money lessons. Their problems.

You are ALLOWED to buy whatever you want with your own money.
You are an adult.
You live in a FREE country.
So this enables you to buy whatever you want, however, you want to buy it, and whenever you want to buy it.

The person who comments on your business – disregard. Good or bad.

Does their opinion really mean anything? Is it a fact? Are they really someone who has been there before you and is mentoring you or just noise? This is when you have to tune in and have your soul decipher. No one else can do this for you.

Sometime you will be wrong and sometimes you will be right – but if you are really listening to your own soul, your own gut – then you will be right most of the time.

I’ve had people project onto me many times in my life. I’m sure we all have. I only write about it now because seriously I want my clients, friends, and family to know that they don’t need to ask anyone else for permission to spend their money. (You’d be surprised how many clients ask me if it’s okay for them to withdraw their OWN money! I am probably the “worst” financial advisor because I always encourage it. I will always encourage my clients to invest in themselves FIRST!)

I know, this goes back to that “Guidebook to Living Your Best Life” that we all so desperately want to read so we don’t have to make decisions because we are still experiencing decision fatigue and we genuinely just want someone to make decisions for us and keep us in line.

We’ve been trained to follow the leader, the teacher, the principle, the law. We are such damn good followers.

And it helps us keep our thinking to a minimum. I will be the first to say that thinking is hard, it’s like going to the gym. Who really wakes up and says, “I can’t wait to THINK today?”

I’d rather have my life on autopilot until I can get to the FUN part! (I think for most of us, that is spelled W-E-E-K-E-N-D!)

But what if life lived by following your heart, true alignment with your purpose, and essentially not following other people’s rules for your life was the way to make your decisions. What if you could stand in your power, stand in your own personal truth and make the decisions that were only for you and you didn’t care what other people thought of them?

What would your life look like if you could live in a way where you allowed yourself to do what you need to do with your money, without the peanut gallery (husbands, boyfriends, kids, parents, siblings, teachers, grandparents, friends, business partners, employees, employers, etc.) throwing in their two cents?

Where would you be right now?
AND
If you spent your money the way you really wanted to spend it right now could you make that happen for you?

And if you are the person throwing out the money judgment, then maybe it’s time for a money judgment detox.

No judgment here.

xx

 

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Coach.

Money Lessons

It’s a few weeks into the new year and I have a PERFECT record of hitting my exercise, move and stand goals (yes, I’ve crushed as many awards on my iWatch as I can possibly get!) AND I’ve gained 3 pounds doing it. SO NATURALLY, I’m pissed and PISSED when I hear about EVERYONE who has lost 10 pounds in a week. CONGRATUFREAKINLATIONS!

Your weight loss triggers me. AND my non-lazy perfect workout record will trigger some of you.

We all get triggered.

ALL. THE. TIME.

It always happens and it creeps up in the most sincere ways.

I do it. You do it. We all do it.

There’s really only 2 ways we can compare ourselves to others: LOOKS & MONEY (okay, on my re-read, there is one other category…. LOVE)

We so badly want to fit in – of course – or we really just don’t want to be left behind.

Here’s the thing.

Comparison will KILL you. Literally. It will make your EGO do crap that will pull you so far off your track and suck the life right out of you till your dead.

Here’s a tip: LEARN TO IDENTIFY THE THINGS/PEOPLE THAT ENERGY DRAIN YOU and then do something about it!

{SUPER SIDE NOTE: My beautiful kids drain me & my massive extended family (people, in general, drain me & never ask me about the weather or other superficial crap – if I’m honest with you!), hence, I get help. I’m not ashamed to admit that. I have full-time help. I spend lots of money on lifestyle choices – WHY? Because I’m honest with myself, and I’ve identified¬†things that drain my¬†energy and I’ve done the work to know what also FILLS me up. I also need my own space for many hours a day (minimum 3, but usually 6 hours!!) and get completely grouchy when I haven’t had my alone time. I do everything in my power to protect my alone time. And yes, that does cost money. But it’s an investment that has already paid off and let’s be honest – it keeps me happy, smiling and full of joy. It’s in FLOW for my life. There will never be a bad penny spent on protecting your energy and doing what you need to do to feel good about your day!}

People always ask me about money and even my money. It’s kinda an occupational hazard. And this is what I so badly want them to deeply understand:

My money lessons – the ones that I’m here to learn, are not your money lessons. You have your own set of money lessons, life lessons, and your own energetic shit to release.

Money is just a mirror.

I mean this seriously.

If you haven’t figured out money is just energy, ENERGY you called in – or didn’t call in or scattered that energy all over the place – then this small money lesson today may be for you! ūüôā

You hold that money mirror up to your face and look deeply into it. It will reveal a ton to you.

Keep in mind it’s never about the money.

It always boils back to your mindset and what you are committed to calling into your life. The mirror will show you what you are not really serious about and what you are half-assing in your life. When really your soul is screaming at you to go after your dreams and put some of your dreams mainstream, instead of keeping them hidden as a side-gig you barely take seriously. The mirror never lies.

For me, and if it isn’t obvious, let me re-iterate. I invest heavily in myself and being honest, I’ve screwed up and failed a TON – somewhere to the tune of probably $500,000+. Or more, if you count my phone bills from college and that one really bad spray-on-tan.

Yes, sometimes, investing in yourself, may take shape in the form of Louboutins, Prada or a facial, massage or whatever physical thing that you need to do to FEEL good about yourself. (ANOTHER SIDE NOTE: Don’t ever feel bad for spending money on yourself if it ELEVATES your vibe – however, be careful that you aren’t using shopping as a buffer for what’s really going on or a way to not deal with your feelings or things going on in your life!)

Most of the time investing in myself means that I’m investing in my creations and ideas. The BEST place to invest BY FAR. ALWAYS!

Sure, I’ve had 100’s of failures. IN FACT, I’m still paying for MASSIVE failures from 2007, every month like clockwork. Painful, but are you kidding me? It was a MONEY lesson I needed to learn. My money lesson.

You probably won’t have that same money lesson.

I know many people, clients, colleagues who have gone bankrupt in the past from investing heavily in their ideas and creations. I admire them for trying. So what? Your soda shoppe went out of business and you had put 100% of everything you had in it.

I LOVE that you put 100% in. Most people never give their dreams 100%.

The sideliners never inspire.

AND I know people who went bankrupt, paid everyone back and then did it all again. I just want to HIGH-FIVE them! (Plus, those people, are usually wildly successful later on, and write memoirs…)

Okay, so you don’t have to go bankrupt to learn your money lessons – let me be clear.

LISTEN UP!

We all have money lessons. Even billionaires have money lessons, so this is something you are not going escape anytime soon.

And the greater you get (yes, richer, bigger, better with money) – the greater your money lessons will be!

Don’t worry or care about what others are doing financially.

Follow your own NORTH STAR.

The money lessons usually come up for us when we are NOT following our true path. (BOOM!)

And to be certain, don’t judge others for their money lessons, and if you do – just remember – it’s triggering you for a reason.

Usually, that reason you can find by holding up a mirror.

xx

 

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