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Blue Shovel

Blue Shovel Blog

The Blue Shovel.

Damn Blue Shovel.

This is my story.

I love LOVE to run outside. FREE.

But, I live in snow and ice for 6 months of the year.

Last week on my walk, I decided I would take my shovel to clear a 1km path on my favorite place to run.

I seriously thought it would be easy.

For anyone who has ever shoveled snow, it’s only easy if it’s the first fresh fall of snow and no one has trampled on it a million times, packed it down, then it becomes uneven and icy. Not what I want to run on.

So, Yesterday, I dragged my blue shovel 1km over to my favorite place in all the world to begin my shoveling, in hopes I could run on a smooth clear path soon.

I began to shovel the snow off the 2 small bridges before the path starts. I suck. I’m not as strong as I thought. This was NOT as easy as I had thought it to be in my head.

It was heavy and grueling, but I kept at it, if only to finish a nice path along the icy bridges, besides, I had my tunes cranked and was happy to be out in the fresh air, singing along.

I finished shoveling the 2 bridges. THAT’S ALL! I didn’t even get started on my path yet. Then decided, this would take all day, and I had to get back for a client appointment. So, I began my journey back home with my large blue shovel in hand, planning to come back next time.

A lovely lady with her cute little white dog stopped me at the top of the hill and said, “Thank you for shoveling the bridges. They always ice up, and now we won’t slip down them.”

On a side note: we do have machinery in our community that clears the paths, however, because these machines can’t go on the cute bridges, then both bridges and the path that follows it remains a snowy icy mess for half the year, yet, this is the path where my tiny little community enjoys their walks.

So, I’m just going to go back with my shovel (or even buy one and leave it on the path) all winter and try to make a smoother path. Even if my goal was selfish, so I could run on a smooth path during the winter, and once I cleared it, realized I helped others too.

I’m sure you can already guess where this blog is going (about being generous and helping others and mushy gushy stuff like that), but I’m not going actually going that way at all….

Here’s where I’m going with this:

Some people were meant to shovel the path, create the path, cut down trees and make the path, bulldoze the path for others, brush the debris and pebbles off the path and make the path as smooth as possible for others.

Or as my favorite quote says, “You have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved.”

So, for those that want to take the smooth path, that’s okay – in fact, that’s awesome. You don’t have to re-invent the wheel or take stupid risks with your money, you can follow books, blueprints, plans, step-by-step guides, and listen to us coaches to help you get to the next level and you can probably make tons of money even faster than the people insistent on shoveling their own path.

Being called to shoveling paths is something the people who take the smooth path only can dream of. They still haven’t fully stepped off the smooth path and into their calling, and they haven’t lived in that space where you HAVE TO TRUST GOD and keep faith for absolutely everything to see your vision come to life.

It’s good to be a smooth path person.

Smooth path people are borrowing somebody else’s dreams most of the time, which typically involves retirement and trips to warmer climates. They are helping build up the dreams of others – which is a good thing, btw. We need people in the world whose vision and dream is to take the smooth path – that’s why us crazy shovelers are creating the paths in the first place because we want to help the smooth path people. We want the smooth path people to live their dreams.

There are so many days I wish that I could walk along a smoother path, run it even. Nothing is better than to run on a smooth path.

But, God called me to shoveling.

Shit included. (This week, lots and lots of SHIT! And, I know more will come along my unbeaten path.)

So to my fellow shovelers, my people, the people with the vision so big that you actually curse God most days for giving you this GRAND vision for this world, to impact millions of lives for the better, for a better world, and a knowing that you are here for that MASSIVE MIND-BLOWING vision, to see it through, no matter the cost. No matter the cost.

To you, my fellow shovelers, keep creating that path.

Keep Shoveling.

Keep Shoveling.

Keep Shoveling.

You will curse the shovel. EVERY DAY.

I know you won’t stop. You physically would die if you did stop. You will laugh at people who say don’t quit – because those words don’t even exist in your vocabulary until after your second last breath because you won’t stop until you’re sure you’re really dead with the first last breath.

That’s because you know deep down, this is the life you were called to live. Living anything less than the calling is not worth living.

Yes, you were called to be a shoveler.

And all it takes is faith like a mustard seed and a blue shovel.

xx

 

 

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Coach.

Embarrassing Money

Embarrassing Money

Some serious embarrassing shizza has gone down in my life.

Like the time I walked out of the bathroom in 10th-grade with a “sanitary napkin” stuck to my jeans….

Or the time when the police caught me with a giant spotlight kissing my first boyfriend while trespassing on private property…

Or the time I modeled in the 12th-grade fashion show a white dress with black undergarments… ughhh….

Or the time I had just given birth 48-hours prior to my Opa’s funeral and proceeded to give an awkward “Bridget Jones” speech to tell everyone how much I loved my Opa in very VERY bad broken Germanenglishish  (it’s a language!)  which included words like “epidural” and “pickles” (which are words that should probably not make it into ANY end-of-life celebration!) to 200 of our family and friends which my family STILL laughs about… and they aren’t laughing with me…. OH VEY!

Ya, okay, you get the picture…

Embarrassment comes in many forms. One that we talk about lots is failure. That’s probably the worse one of all.

Nothing GREAT ever occurred from something safe and secure.

You have to be able to risk it all, put your heart out on the line, put your money where your mouth is and sometimes you

HAVE.

TO.

GO.

ALL.

IN.

Commit. Even if you fail, you may as well go down in a glory-poop-bomb-flame-basket after giving it your best. I mean really, do you think you can survive a poop-bomb-flame-basket? I think so.

Remember everything happens for your highest good – NO – let me change that…

Everything happens for your highest GREATNESS!

I’ve said this before, and if I were to ever get a tattoo it would probably be this.

The opposite of Good is not Bad. The opposite of Good is GREAT!

If you are stuck in a “good” life then you got all caught up in your comfort zone, but don’t worry I know you are in good company with your friend Fear and Fear’s Cat, Scaredy.

Here’s the tough love: you need to ditch your good ol’ friend Fear and hook up with some good new vibes.

And I will challenge you, here, right now, that living a GOOD life is embarrassing.

  • It’s embarrassing that you aren’t using your abilities to their fullest potential.
  • It’s embarrassing that you aren’t putting it all out there.
  • It’s embarrassing that you haven’t taken that step out.
  • It’s embarrassing that you aren’t even trying.
  • It’s embarrassing that you aren’t even allowing yourself to dream big!

You know how I know? Because I am you. I was once there (and maybe still am) and daily have to deal with this. I get it.

Isn’t it amazing when you see someone stepping out and going all in on their dreams – it’s UNBELIEVABLY FREAKIN’ MIND BLOWING AMAZING and when you sit there and hear someone else totally going after their dreams doesn’t it just inspire you to the core of who you are and put a pep into your step and make you want to go out and CRUSH IT????

Hear me here. Yes, I’m pretty much yelling this from the mountaintop. (And come to think of it, I’m actually writing this from a mountaintop in Kananaskis!)

You have to get past your own bullsh*t and find that thing that is bigger than you.

Do you want to know what the investment industry really is all about? What the big secret about money really is?

What every last trade, stock, currency exchange, mutual fund, bond, GIC, private equity, real estate deal is really all about? What every transaction since the beginning of time is really all about?

It’s so simple, yet, we never talk about it, because it must be TABOO for us to actually go to this deep emotional vulnerable level….

Are you ready for this?

Every time we invest in ANYTHING we are giving money to fund someone else’s dream while they are funding ours. 

BOOM!

That’s value, service, serving, exchange – that’s everything we do as humans on a daily basis. Modus Operandi. Standard Operating System for us humans! This is what we are created for: Love & Serving!

So, what happens when you are holding on tight, not investing, not spending, closed-mindedness, stuck in a mindset that there isn’t enough or that you don’t have enough? You actually STOP funding your dreams and the dreams of others (and how horrible would it be to crush someone’s dreams!)  It actually full out stops the flow of energy, and as previously discussed in all of my 117 past blog posts – MONEY IS ENERGY!

The embarrassing thing is not trying. Not living full out with your money and with your life.

Stop thinking about having too much money or too little money as embarrassing.

Stop thinking that there isn’t enough.

Stop embarrassing your money!

Start investing.

In You.

In Others.

xx

 

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Coach.

Self-Management

Self-Management

Do you really want to change the world? Make a difference?

I sure do.

I’ve pondered this up, down and sideways.

How does one do it?

And the answer I could come up with is one word:

Self-Management 

Which I’m sure could come off as being/looking/acting/appearing “selfish” however, there is a positive & negative selfishness:

  • One where you are out only for yourself. One where one one else matters.
  • Then, there is the selfishness, where you selfishly take time for self-growth, self-care, self-love, self-forgiveness, self-management to be a better person for the world, your family and for yourself. It’s a win-win-win.

I’m totally all about being the second kind of selfish (obvi). Being the second is never truly selfish, it’s just taking the time you need to be a better person so you can do your job in this world, better. I revel in those moments as a natural introvert.

I was reading Danielle LaPorte’s new book, White Hot Truth, on gurus and famous people who changed the world. (And BOOM I was glued to the page in my research efforts on how to change the world…)

Every single person on the planet has major flaws and the beauty in so many ways is our imperfection, however, for some reason, these absolutely shocked me! I know I always put people of power on a pedestal, only because we as people expect more from our gurus, religious leaders, and politicians (okay, maybe not politicians!) It’s crazy. Really, it is crazy, because they are just people like us… and maybe even worse than the average human….

Are you ready for this? This actually blew my mind. I must really live in a bubble. Thought provoking? YES!! (Courtesy of Google & Danielle’s Book)

  • Martin Luther King Jr. probably had many extramarital affairs.
  • Gandhi had to prove his chastity by often sleeping next to naked girls, giving detailed sexual instructions, including his bizarre sexual practices, and setting up ashrams and sex experiments with girls and boys, even his grandniece.
  • Socrates was short, fat, ugly, smelly old man. Never bathing. Would you take life advice from a short, fat, ugly, smelly old man?
  • Mother Teresa had some serious shady care going on in her care, from reusing needles to washing soiled clothes and cooking utensils in the same water and rarely, if never, gave an account or transparency for the millions of dollars given to her or the charities she ran.
  • Abraham Lincoln was racist and so was Winston Churchill – like…vocal and bad about it.
  • George Washington scammed millions of dollars (in today’s dollars) through Congress as sitting president.
  • Even the POPE himself (Pope Pius IX) kidnapped a Jewish child to raise as Catholic. (Kidnapping? Seriously? Say like 10,000 Hail Mary’s for that and go to jail….. Poor Edgardo….)
  • Einstein was a philanderer and married his cousin Elsa, after cheating on & divorcing his first wife. (Can you imagine that? I’m leaving you for my cousin?!)

And yet, these people celebrated in history as heroes and made a significant impact on our world.

Doesn’t that give you hope? That in all our failing there’s still a chance for us, somewhat normal people, who don’t steal millions, kidnap children, disinfect our houses and take showers, to make a significant difference in our world?

Reflecting on another self-trait: self-forgiveness. When you love so much and want to make a difference, you’re gonna inevitably mess this shizza up, make mistakes (which just mean you are trying) and will need HUGE amounts of self-love and positive self-talk. (I know self-forgiveness has been a long, hard struggle in the past for me – but I’m seriously over it now… for a few hours at least….)

Here’s what I want you to take away from this:

The pressure to be perfect has to be released. You can be a walking disaster and still make a difference. Proof is in the pudding… we all sinners…da-da-da…

Here’s the other thing I want you to take away from this:

You need to foster your self. Foster the self-love, self-forgiveness, self-care, self-growth.

Put self-time ahead of some of the other ‘pressing’ things in your day. Create and follow self-practices that will allow you to achieve the desires that were put in your heart (also known as goals, dreams, aspirations, etc.).

If you can get down some or all of the ‘self’ stuff (the care, love, forgiveness, growth, etc.), then you have self-management in the bag and you can go on to change the world.

You can’t change the world from a place of self-loathing, self-hatred, self-exhaustion, or self-regression.

You can, however, make a difference with love and a vision, even with some serious mistakes on the way.

For me, that means waking up at 4:19am to write this. For me, for you, because it’s my self-love and because I have a message to share, and I did my purpose work….

And it is done now, so I can go shower and disinfect my house, and make sure my kids get to school on-time today….

 

xx

 

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Coach.

Point of Attraction

Yesterday, I had my best wake surf ever!

I even did a little dance on the surf board.

Dancing & Surfing.

Heaven.

I’m so proud of myself for always being willing & open minded to try new things and push myself to do the uncomfortable – knowing full well that wiping out (literally) is a REAL possibility.

There is no better feeling than being proud of yourself.

I know I talk about this a lot – all we are really chasing at the end of the day is feelings, good feelings: LOVE, HAPPY, PROUD, ABUNDANT, JOY.

Let’s be clear here, sometimes being proud of ourselves comes easy, but definitely not all the time.

One area I struggle with is MONEY! Shocking right?!?

I’m so hard on myself for not being where I want to be financially.

Can you relate?

Or relate to not being proud of yourself in one key area of your life – such as your health, relationships, etc??

And so what do you think happens when we are hard on ourselves about where we ‘should’ be?

Yes, you know the answer.

We draw more of that to ourselves.

Law of Attraction attracts more of the un-love, the hating of ourselves, the shame, guilt, lack, and scarcity – it all comes back to us in droves and digs the vicious cycle deeper.

Been there.

Done that.

Have a closet full of the T-shirts.

So how do we pivot to create what we really want in life?

The only way to attract what you want more of is to change your point of attraction.

  • Feeling broke or worried about money? Start counting your assets & all that you’ve been blessed with!
  • Want more love in your life? Start loving on all the people that cross your path – like crazy!
  • Want a new relationship? Start loving yourself like crazy. (No one wants a needy partner!)
  • Ready to release the excess weight or want your health back? Start to see yourself as the person you’re on your way to becoming!
  • Want your partner/spouse to shape up or ship out? Then BE the FIRST to LOVE them like crazy!
  • Want to be an author, artist, famous, successful, politician? BE THAT NOW – embrace it now.

See, most people have it wrong.

They think they need to DO to HAVE and then BECOME.

But in reality, you need to declare and BE (& become) first on the inside so it can begin to radiate out of you, then you will DO the work to HAVE what you really want.

Mindset is everything – and that is how the law of attraction really works.

So the feelings you are chasing – LOVE, PROUD, JOY, ABUNDANT, HAPPY…..

Find that in yourself first – and more of it shall be given to you.

I will repeat.

FIND THAT WHICH YOU SEEK IN YOURSELF FIRST.

It shall be given to you in ABUNDANCE.

xx

 

 

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Coach.

The Now You & The Future You

There’s this computer chip inside of all of us, programmed with a lifetime of past, present, and future of CRAPPY excuses for the most part. (Maybe in some of us, it may be actual chips! Maybe some Lays or Old Dutch?!)

Maybe the medical term is amygdala, located in the brain responsible for survival instincts and emotion. I know it’s there, if only from a handful of life coaches that told me that it’s there – seriously – them and probably psychologists – because we all know I didn’t pay attention in biology.

So, at least now I know who to blame for all my incompetencies & justifications, AMY. G. DALA……DAMN Bitch – just shut up already!

But it won’t.

The brain keeps going. Pumping out CRAZY ASS EXCUSES and JUSTIFICATIONS for ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!

Here’s the other crazy thing that is programmed in us. Somewhere else, no doubt.

I don’t even think they have a medical term for this, probably because it’s part of your spirit. Well, really it is your spirit, your soul.

It’s our desire to INCREASE, CREATE, to PUSH BEYOND what we are capable of, to GROW, to live INSPIRED.

If AMY is working overtime in our brains to keep us safe and rationalize everything for survival purposes, then our true spirit, our souls – the part of us that is connected to source –  is the part of us trying to grow, create, become better.

Talk about cognitive dissonance! (By this point, it may actually appear that I went to college… or have become a really good GOOGLER!)

Cognitive Dissonance is basically what I’m talking about – the state of having inconsistent thoughts, emotions, beliefs, attitudes, EVERYTHING – the internal battle we face every day!

This is where the damn rubber meets the road beautiful!

I want an ice cream, but want to lose weight.

I want some wine, but want to drink less.

I want to watch TV, but I want to run a marathon one day.

I want to SHOP, but I want to SAVE lots of money.

I don’t want to work now, but I want to retire early.

Blah, Blah, Blah – you get what I mean.

DUALITY. DICHOTOMY. LIFE IS CHOCK-FULL OF THIS FRUSTRATION!

Don’t you find that you are always stuck between the now (’cause life is short) and the future you (in case you actually do live a long life)?

But deeper still, why is it that the now side seems to almost always win? SO FRUSTRATING – are you with me?

MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION: IS IT ABOUT BALANCED LIFE (BOTH SATISFYING THE NOW & THE FUTURE SELF) or COULD IT POSSIBLY BE OKAY TO BE ONLY FUTURE FOCUSED (SATISFYING THE FUTURE YOU)?

You can really decide that for yourself and you have already. Look around you right now, look at what you created. That’s all you by the way – no one else to thank or blame.

Most people don’t even have a balance. PERIOD. They are only present focused, and nothing gets done for their future self.

So, here’s the big question….WHY?

You see, if you talk to any therapist, life coach, interviewer, etc – their favorite question is always WHY.

Then they ask you to peel back the onion layer.

But WHY?

Dig deeper…

REALLY, WHY IS THAT IMPORTANT TO YOU?

And once you strip past the amygdala, and all the somewhat artificial beauty pageant answers, like family, friends, and world peace, you actually end up back at yourself, you end up at pure spirit, your true soul.

Because here’s the real WHY?

None of what we do really matters, and yet, it all matters.

(We know this deep down & that’s why we all have the internal struggle!)

HOLY CRAP – the ultimate DICHOTOMY that makes your brain FIZZLE out on overload.

It’s true. Life really is empty and meaningless. It’s what we make it mean that counts. It’s our choice to make meaning from our soul’s work – you know the stuff that lights you up – whether it is construction work, being a writer or helping people.

SO put that in your pipe and smoke it – literally (not physically, I don’t actually own an old-man-pipe, but would be cool…)

HOW DO YOU WANT TO LIVE & CREATE YOUR LIFE?

These are the options available to you:

  • A) Past Focused
  • B) Present Focused
  • C) Future Focused
  • D) ALL OF THE ABOVE or SOME OF THE ABOVE

It’s your choice my dear, and frankly, no one can give a damn for you, only you can give a damn for yourself. Unfortunately, that’s how this life thing works – you need to care enough about yourself, love yourself enough, and create your purpose for yourself. No one else can do it for you. (I think we wish they could!)

I’d also say this: FOLLOW YOUR TRUE SPIRIT & SOUL’S PURPOSE & SHUT THE MONKEY BRAIN (AMY.G.DALA) UP!

If faced with the DICHOTOMY within – CHOOSE YOUR TRUE SPIRIT (which by the way, will be FUTURE FOCUSED!)

The AMYGDALA (Monkey Brain) is PAST & PRESENT FOCUSED! (This is where we reside most!)

For me, I’m like, SCREW IT – I’m going all in – FUTURE FOCUSED. It’s the only way I’m going to be able to create the dream, the picture, the vision I have in my head for my life.

What are you creating?

xx

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Coach.

How to Shine Like a Lighthouse!

Stop identifying with your past.

STOP IT!

You weren’t who you were yesterday.

Stop bringing your past into your today.

Stop bringing your past into this moment, because when you do, you are just putting your past into your future. (And then you expect your future to be different, but it won’t be – it will be the same.)

Yesterday, you were fat, lazy, poor, mean, scared, insecure, loser – Whatever stupid mean things you kept saying over in your head on a thought loop like a broken record!

THIS IS THE MOST AMAZING THING ABOUT LIFE – are you ready for it?

YOU ARE NOT YOUR PAST. YOU ARE FREE TO CREATE YOUR LIFE FROM THIS BLANK SLATE TODAY! YOU HAVE 100% of LIFE LEFT TO LIVE!

You can’t change your past – what’s done is done.

But, you can create a new future.

Whatever you dare to dream is in sight!

I actually have a great past over all. I had an AMAZING upbringing… yet, my head still leaves me stuck in these negative thought loops – I suck, I am fat, I am poor, I am not successful, I am not pretty enough…..

Can you relate to repeating something in your head? Are you even aware you are doing it?

Here’s the best part.

You can change your narrative. You can change your words, your thoughts and change your life.

SERIOUSLY.

All you have to do is start by changing the story you tell yourself about yourself.

Yes, it’s that simple.

Are you hot, sexy, rich, lean, fit, healthy, successful, confident?

Well, why not start telling yourself that?

I am.

People who look at me may disagree.

But we don’t care what other people think, do we? Damn it! We probably do…. Why else have we been playing small all our lives? Taking the “safe” road to our goals?

Damn the little voice that says we won’t make it or succeed at anything we try. SHUT UP MONKEY BRAIN!

We are the lighthouse. We are here to shine. We aren’t lifesavers in the water trying to rescue the drowning. We are just here to share our light, and stand TALL and stand FIRM with our light. Shoulders back. Boobs out.

Being the lighthouse, you don’t have to shy away from being too bright.

BE BRIGHT!

I’m not bright all the time because I’m scared of what people will say.

This is what people have said in the past or I think they will say/think if I’m really shining my light:

  • You are big fat bragger!
  • It’s all about you ALL the time!
  • Snob!
  • Unrelateable! (I’ve worked hard at being relatable – and I’m scared I will lose being able to relate to people if I’m crazy successful!)
  • People won’t like me!
  • I’ll lose my friends!
  • I’ll have no friends left!

And the list could go on…

WOW! With a list like that, who would ever want to be successful or shine their light?

It looks like a crap deal to shine your light if those are the consequences. It’s easier to shrink and blend in with the crowd.

So, what to do? How do you shine like a lighthouse?

You have to grow some serious thick skin and say to yourself, in your narrative, the story you tell yourself:

My dreams are bigger than my bullshit and what other people will think. I’m here for a purpose, and people who don’t love me for living out my purpose here on earth – well, those people are missing out and not part of my journey. The right people will show up and be in my life as I shine bright!

‘Cause the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate anyways right?

So, let them hate your light. It’s your responsibility as a lighthouse to shine.

A lighthouse with its light off does not offer much.

Turn that sucker on!

xx

 

Coach.

Worthy of Receiving

I am LOUSY at receiving. And I’m trying to change that.

Last week, I had a breakdown when I was running. My breakdowns usually happen when I’m running. I don’t know why that is, but I will be running sometimes and break down & cry, sob really. I think running breaks me.

On this particular run, I had finally met my breaking point on this topic of RECEIVING.

I’m so tired of resisting RECEIVING ABUNDANCE!

Okay, let me backtrack for a minute.

I am still struggling with the whole worthiness thing. STILL.

It’s been this crazy battle. There are moments I don’t feel I deserve anything. Moments that I feel I’m still not good enough. STILL.

I just want to scream! I know it’s total bullshit.

This is a HORRIBLE place to be and yet I know so many of my friends and I suffer from this in waves, through depression or through not living out our soul’s purpose or being in full self-expression and still trying to live up to the standards of the rest of the world – whatever that is?!?!

In my want/desire/need to everything I want in my life: love, joy, happiness – I somehow still don’t feel that I’m worthy or receiving.

This could be one of the worst places to be. Seriously.

It’s sad. It really is – because I see so many people as amazing greatness…but they don’t see themselves that way. I don’t see myself that way, maybe once in a while, maybe more and more now, but for years, no.

It makes me want to cry. (Things I do NOT want to pass down to my daughters!)

And money has nothing to do with it. I mean it’s something I’m working on receiving for myself personally, but there is always something we are working on when it comes to receiving – and ALL of it stems from UNWORTHINESS. (I mean unless you really didn’t believe we lived in an abundant world or that abundance existed, then I guess you could argue there isn’t really enough to go around, and maybe then it wouldn’t be a worthiness issue with you if you truly felt you had what you deserved to have, but at your souls level you kinda gotta know by now that abundance exists…right?!)

So, I do what every soul-seeker, entrepreneur, student of life does when faced with growing in a particular area: read more self-development, listen to more books, buy more courses – some I do, some I haven’t even opened yet and basically, just keep seeking to look for what is outside of me, when the secret really is that:

I really do have everything I need, right now, and I only need to look inside of me, and not for approval from the rest of the world. I also know I’m good enough – great enough JUST AS I AM – JUST AS I WAS CREATED!

HOLY MYLANTA! Can you feel that? That weight taken off my shoulders? Can you feel how freeing it is to not have to be anything else but just be yourself? And that you deserve to RECEIVE goodness, abundance – whatever that is for you?

I’m going to take it one step further around.

I’ve been struggling to receive money for ME. I mean, I’m happy to make money and pay everyone else, and like most entrepreneurs, I would happily give it all away too, but it gets tiring making lots of money and not really truly giving back to myself.

I could make millions a year right now and still be in the same place for what I’m giving to myself, which is virtually nothing!

And I know why.

It’s because, for some deep-seated reason, I don’t think I’m worthy of receiving. My business, yes, sure, but me personally – NO!

CRAZY right!?!

And that’s total BS and I know it, and you may be in the same boat in some area of receiving. I hope you are not, but so many of my clients, friends, fellow moms, and entrepreneurs are in this place. Somehow, many of us got this mixed up, crap message engrained in us from who knows where – Church? Parents? Too many episodes of Family Ties or Who’s the Boss? (Full House? Probably Fully House! LOL) Who knows?

Having children has opened up my eyes to see a glimpse of the love God has for us and how he wants to shower us with ABUNDANCE!

I want to spoil my children. And I do. And again and again. Even when they are little sh*t heads. I love them to infinity & beyond, and yes, I want them to have everything they ever dream of having! Of course, I don’t want them to be spoiled brats, but I do want them to know that they are worthy just by being them, without having to do anything.

Don’t you feel you want to spoil your kids or if you don’t have kids, your fur babies as much as you can?

God/Universe wants to do the same for you!

On this journey to “finding my worthiness” (or better yet, learning to just allow worthiness!), I think about how God must look at us, and how he must feel the same for all of his creation – it’s just we are the ones not allowing the gifts in! Crazy right!

Can you believe that we would do such a thing?

But we do deny receiving all the wonderful gifts: money, love, joy, peace, happiness.

And this is how we don’t allow receiving in.

  • By feeling not worthy and thinking we are not worthy.
  • By complaining about our lives.
  • By staying in a state of lack and feeling like “things will be better when I have…..”
  • By resisting.
  • By not listening.
  • By not accepting the gifts given to us with open hands, or not appreciating them.

BUT what have we got right now in this moment?

Another gift. Right here? Right now?

Perfection.

Everything about this moment, about our lives right now is exactly what we created PERFECTLY to perfection.

And you are allowed to receive this moment as perfect.

Lessons you need to learn, situations you find yourself in, people you are surrounded by.

So, if God/the Universe loves me so much and wants me to receive this beautiful gift, then who am I to deny God of giving me all the abundance He wants to pour on me?

What happens when you are in a constant state of unreceiving? Let me answer that for you!

People stop wanting to give to you. We want to give, but not to someone who isn’t grateful, and not to someone who doesn’t even want to receive the gifts we are handing them with closed hands. Imagine I hand you a gift, and you don’t turn palms up to receive it as I’m handing it to you. You are basically spitting in my face, and saying you hate my gift. So, why do we do that that with all the goodness the universe is trying to pour out on us?

So, ya, up until now, I’ve been a shitty receiver. I know that. I can’t even take a compliment well without downplaying it.

No more.

I am a great receiver. I am in receiving.

And best of all, it is GOOD to receive.

Stop being a martyr. Stop making receiving bad.

You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are worthy of receiving.

So RECEIVE it.

xx

 

Coach.

Making The Impossible Possible

Life doesn’t go as planned.

I sit down to write this week’s blog and just got a bleeding nose. So here’s to typing with one hand, which will make me crazy! I haven’t had a bleeding nose in years! This is random and so perfectly perfect for what I wanted to say to you today.

Last week, I told a group of women that financial planning was total bullsh*t!

It’s true! We make all these plans and things rarely go to plan!

In fact, sometimes they are better than we planned, sometimes worse, and sometimes so random out of left field we don’t know whether to make heads or tails of it!

But here’s the thing, even though we know things really never go to plan, we still need to plan!

I’m in Vancouver right now. Doing some planning.

I like to take this week alone every year when my kids are at summer camp, a week to hide away at my sister’s place in Vancouver, and plan.

And I’m SO excited to be here alone and left with my thoughts.

And scared.

After all, spending 24 hours in a 650 sq. ft. room, alone, in a different city, makes me almost want to crawl out of my skin. I want to talk to people and defer and procrastinate to what’s really going on, and put off what I really need to do, which is tune into myself and to some planning and course adjustments – so of course, I stay on course! 🙂

A big part of planning means tuning into myself, to take the time to love myself again, and fall in love with ME again.

Quietly. Thoughtfully. Purposefully.

I think I get stuck too in the “What’s the point of all of this if we are just going to die anyways?”

Why plan?

The point is in the journey. The lessons learned. It’s in making the impossible possible. It’s in showing others it can be done.

Overcoming.

Triumph.

Accomplishing the goals and dreams.

I celebrated with one of my clients last week who hit over $1,000,000 in their portfolio. This was a huge celebration for my client. Showing people it can be done!

Anything is possible.

Make the impossible possible by planning.

It won’t be easy.

But it will be life changing and have an impact on not just you, but your world around you.

Sit down, create the space around you, take a few deep breaths and

MAKE A PLAN.

xx

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Coach.

No Holds Barred

I want to share with you something super personal. And don’t worry, it’s not about my vagina. You may think that’s super personal, but I think that plays second fiddle to this topic.

I want to tell you about this part of me and how I protect mine. I’m very passionate about protecting this part of me too – the most delicate flower, besides the other flower 😉

It’s my mind.

I want you to know that I protect my mindset at all costs. ALL COSTS.

To me, my mind and my mindset are the most important thing that I have.

I don’t know if everyone shares the same feelings/thoughts as I do about mindset, and I wonder why that is? Do they just not know that they can choose their thoughts?

To be honest with you, I totally thought this topic should be saved for the people who chose “bad” thoughts, such as murder, violence, the pure evil kind of people. After all, wasn’t that taught to me in Sunday School? Guard your mind. Don’t think evil thoughts.

And we did that. Most of us aren’t murderers or violent people and our lives reflect that.

But today, I want to talk about a different kind of mindset protection – the one that guards our dreams, our innermost desires, the things that we don’t really want to share because they make us vulnerable.

Right now, I want to tell you with one of the biggest things I struggle with, and to be fair, I’m sure I’m not alone, in fact, I know that every functioning brain for the most part on this planet has to deal with this.

Choosing what thoughts serve you is the greatest gift we as humans are given, yet most of us just take life at face value or whatever gets thrown to us and don’t go about choosing to discard the thoughts that don’t serve us.

I am a light. Something I choose to believe, and I find that thought serves me.

I keep my light lit. What does that mean? Personally, I tune out a LOT of crap. I tune out a LOT of darkness that I see (I don’t watch news, even unfollow negative stories or people on Facebook – I read or hear about what I need to from other people close to me), and not because I live in some La-La-Land and pretend everything is all coming up roses, but in a way, yes, it’s because I’m protecting my optimism, my mindset, my dreams.

First of all, it has taken me a few years to discover that I really can choose my thoughts, not just the hand-me-down thoughts I thought I had to take from my parents, family, church, etc. And then taken me a few more years to figure out what thoughts serve me and help me reach my goals and dreams.

I choose thoughts like:

  • It’s easy to make money. (Hey, I’m still working on this one, but I’d rather choose this than thinking that it’s hard to make money.)
  • I am a light, I shine.
  • I live my dream life (and I do! Probably because I choose too!)
  • I am the healthiest person I know (and I am.)
  • I am fit & lean. (ya… that serves me… better than thinking I’m fat!)
  • I am smart.
  • I help millions of people in the world with my message.
  • I am sexy, hot, fun, beautiful and rich. Seriously, why not? (If that just triggered you, then, ask yourself why?)

Because here’s the thing, I only allow a handful of mentors to speak into my life, and not that I don’t listen to what others have to say, I totally love learning, and will always have an open mind, however, when it comes to my deepest truest self, I’ve aligned with mentors that I would literally follow off the earth, and even then, I have mentors for different things in my life, such as business, personal, fitness, etc.

And what I really want to say is this: the people who I allow to speak into my life are NOT the people who are closest to me!

And, here’s my big revelation in the last year or two, the people closest to you – your partner, husband, girlfriend, mom, dad, sisters, brothers, best friends – they love you HOWEVER, they are usually the dream crushers…..

Yes, I will say it again.

The people closest to you are usually the dream crushers.

Not on purpose. They love you. They really want you to succeed, but they usually are the ones to tell you:

  • it isn’t realistic, that you are never going to make it,
  • that you should consider quitting on your dreams as a way to not let you get your hopes up or having to witness you be in pain for falling flat on your face or
  • be brought back to reality or given a “reality check”
  • that you are too optimistic, pie-in-the-sky dreamer, or
  • maybe they are scared of change themselves, and don’t want you to rock the boat.

ROCK THE DAMN BOAT!

When you step out powerfully in your life, it makes the people around you uncomfortable. They don’t really want you to change, they like you just the way you are right now. Plus, when you step out into your dreams, you are challenging/triggering/reminding those people that they aren’t. You awaken them to the fact that they aren’t living their dreams, or stepping out in a certain area of their life.

MIRRORS SUCK!

The people closest to us are the people that are usually in our head. Do you agree?

I know this is so true for me!

I don’t care if random strangers tell me that I suck at something, but when it comes from someone close to me, it hurts, it holds weight – and only because I love them, and chose to give them that power over me and speak into my life like that.

I’m learning slowly to stop giving my power away, even to those with the best intentions!

I’m talking about when you are stuck in life. Feeling frustrated. Feeling you aren’t moving forward. That is when you need to protect your thoughts even more. That is when you can’t let the nay-sayers in.

So today, I want you to protect your dreams at all costs, hold them close to your heart and keep them safe. That may mean not sharing it with people closest to you or when you do share it, not letting others opinions of your dreams, your life, how much money you want to make or the impact you want to make in the world.

I am creating a huge transformational shift with my business and all the people I partner with. It’s my dream. To make a difference. To help hundreds of thousands – millions – in my lifetime. I will do it.

Here’s WHY this is so IMPORTANT:

At the end of the day, what purpose we create for ourselves during this human experience is all from the thoughts we think. Our thoughts really do create our lives and the experiences we feel.

We can do anything we believe we can do.

Deep down, you and I know how powerful we really are.

And it scares the shit out of us.

And we hold back.

I hold back.

Without my optimism, my positive thoughts, my mindset and dreams protected, I won’t be able to go out and make a difference in the world.

Think about it.

If I let someone who says “I can’t” into my headspace, then I’ve lost. I’ve let myself down, and the world has lost out on my gift of contribution to society – in whatever shape that comes in (business, art, science, love, charity, writing, etc. – whatever that is for you.)

You are important and you were put here to be an important helper in your own unique way. So, protect those dreams, hold them close to your heart.

Believe in them.

Cause, you know….

You can do anything.

No holding back. No holds barred.

xx

 

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Coach.

100

100.

I’m so damn proud today.

I get to celebrate 100 BLOG posts and I get to feel proud for not missing one week since May 15, 2015.

THAT’S OVER 100,000 WORDS (like 2 more books! Oh ya! Plus I wrote a book! Shameless plug for STRUT!)

CONSISTENCY BABY!

Here’s the thing. People tell me I’m a “great” writer.

And I tell them, I’m not. It’s a skill. Something you develop over time.

Let me ask you something.

What if you delivered 100 babies, prepared 100 tax returns, taught 100 classes, put out 100 fires, sold 100 homes, cooked 100 meals, drank 100 beers? You’d be “great” in your area of expertise too.

But here’s the thing (as you know by now, with me there’s always a “thing”), all it takes to be an expert in any field is consistency, showing up, and not quitting.

Do you do that?

Do you do that with your money? (HA – there’s a good question!)

Do you do that with your business or your dream job or do you just quit and jump from one opportunity to where you think the grass is always greener?

Do you do that in every area of your life? Especially areas like your dream body or dream relationship?

Most people jump. That is a FACT! Nobody sticks out much anymore – true story. But on that same note, why? Why stay in a job that makes you miserable. Exactly! The point here is to choose something you can stick with, something that lights you up, even on the days when you want to quit – because EVERY JOB, EVERY BUSINESS, EVERY RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN 2 HUMANS has those days. Quit if you want. No one really cares (seriously, hear me say this lovingly, no one really cares what you do…) but you will. You are the only one who has to like yourself for your choices. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not your husband. Not your kids. Not your best friend. They will think what they want to think and everyone will judge regardless – don’t use others as a measuring stick for success, it’s sure to fail you! So like – no, LOVE the choices you make!

We all know the grass is NEVER greener on the other side, so make your grass MOTHER EFFING AUGUSTA PGA GRASS! That’s what you do! Make your grass the greenest grass everyone wants!

How? Live your purpose, live your dream life.

Why? Because when you are living your true calling, your path, in alignment with your soul, people take note. People notice the light, the spark, the jump in your step, the joy in your heart! People will want your grass when you are living your dream life. People always want something they can’t have….

Everyone wants to know the secret, the secret to having everything you ever wanted – yet, the secret is really inside all of us, we just have to let it out – unleash it onto our lives and the world and stop keeping our message, our truth, bottled up!

The secret is that there is no secret and you have to choose what you already have and what you don’t! (A totally confusing mess!!)

When you choose your life, the exact life you have, the choices you made – that’s the secret to being happy. Happiness is on you. It’s never on them. I’ll say it again……

Happiness is on you. It’s never on them.

Trust me – the most freeing thing in the entire world is choosing, and re-choosing, and being grateful for your life and then choosing something different, and then choosing to be grateful for the new choices you just made!

One foot in front of the other.

Find your true calling, your path, alignment.

There’s no RIGHT OR WRONG here… no matter how many people try to tell you that you are doing it right or wrong.

Live FREE. Free your soul’s work, your soul’s art. LOVE the crap outta all people and all things! DO the work you were put here on the planet to do.

When you do that, I guarantee you will be deeply satisfied, proud and happy.

I am.

Free. Happy. Proud.

Jumping out of the roof of my car.

Live every day like that.

That’s what we are all chasing. It’s not money. It’s not stuff.

We want to feel good.

Happy. Free. Proud. Joy. Love.

xx

 

PS. Thank you to everyone who has supported me in the last 4 years in my writing journey, My Shoes En Blanc Girls, My Shopping Club Girls, I tagged you all because I love you so much and want all my friends to live their best life! xo

PPS. If you want to ELEVATE your life – be sure to check out elevateday.com on June 24th in Cochrane!