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The Most Important Thing To Remember

The Most Important Thing to Remember

Obviously, if you haven’t figured out that the only way to do your life is to do your life they way you want to and let ALL the opinions about you and how you choose to live fly out the window.

By the way, you have to do that to step fully into your purpose!

You have to NOT GIVE TWO HOOTS what people think if you are going to step into your power, step into your purpose!!

When you don’t care what others say about you or think about you, and you come to a place in your life where you’ve learned never to actually even care what other people think of you, family, friends, business or otherwise – this is when you really get your power back!

All of this not caring in a loving way of course, because you get to be love – that’s on you. Being LOVE first.

The trick here is that the “haters”, like in my fav Taylor Swift song ‘Shake It Off’, is usually not from the random public, it’s usually the people closest to us. Not that they hate us – it’s just we spend so much time with our family, friends, partners, co-workers, etc. – that they tend to be the ones biggest in our heads and their opinions of us end up ruling!

Here’s another observation I’ve made about people and I will take it to my grave or until I feel this belief no longer serves me.

I call it First Impression Anchoring.

I made that up. But it sounds official, so we’ll stick with it.

It means, however or whenever you met someone (that first point of contact) is anchored in their head and remains throughout your relationship – no matter how long!

Makes sense if you think about it.

Mom & Dad think of me a cute little girl (although, I’m blessed to have supportive parents, they still will always see me as their little girl and I will see my girls like that too!)

My friends from grade school & my teenage years still see ‘that’ Lisa.  Crazy no doubt.

Fast forward to now when I meet people they see & meet a totally different Lisa. Confident? Who knows?

I like these new people I meet today because they see me more in alignment with who I actually am today and not the old Lisa from the past. (And I’m attracting at a different level, a different vibration than when I was 6. Obviously….)

(I really believe there are people in my life that still see me like a 10-year-old and my goals/dreams as “Oh that’s cute! She wants to help millions of people! What a pipe dream!” {Sidenote: I don’t even know what a pipe dream is or why anyone would want to dream about pipes!} Not that I end up staying around these people very long – it doesn’t serve my purpose and I don’t need that in my head!)

I do believe people can grow together and see you how you really are now, even if you’ve known them your whole life.

Besides all this mumbo-jumbo – by far the BEST people I choose to keep in my life are people who see me for who I am going to BE and know that even though today I’m not where I want to be, they know, support and LOVE me for where I am headed! Those are the people to keep in your company. Period.

The reason I really love my “THEORY” of First Impression Anchoring is because it reminds me that EVERYONE will see me differently.

And that I will have million different opinions from a million different people about me.

And NONE OF THAT MATTERS!

The only opinion that EVER matters are the opinions you have about yourself!

So here is my opinion of myself.

You are welcome to disagree, but don’t email me or call me about it. I really won’t respond to you. Neither will my assistant. 🙂

This is what I journal on, affirm, repeat in my head on an ongoing mantra all day long. These are my #innermost thoughts and what really goes on in my head all day:

 

I am LOVE.

I shine. I help. I am here to bring LOVE to the people in my space.

I am the FUNNIEST person I know.

I am light and laughter.

I bring JOY to myself and it radiates out of me and rubs off on other people.

I literally change lives. I am helping millions of women in Canada and around the world.

I am a best selling author (naturally, I’m actually close…)

I am beautiful – outside and even more so on the inside.

I am healthy. My body is here to serve my souls purpose.

I am a runner. I live to run FREE and FLY like a bird.

I am making a difference.

I speak powerful, important, funny, entertaining, life transforming words.

I am the queen of GIVING first and receiving – in flow.

I am bad, good and everything in between and I love to grow.

I keep my word with myself and have integrity with myself.

I do my best to keep my word with others, and forgive myself when I don’t.

I treat my family, employees, clients, friends AMAZING.

I want to be friends with me.

I LOVE spending time alone with myself, because I love LOVE myself.

I am my favorite person to hang with (which is good because I spend a LOT of time with me!)

I BRING the energy.

I BRING it with my whole heart.

I BRING LOVE with my whole heart.

So let’s just call it what it is: I’m awesome!

 

I sure hope your opinion of yourself is Rockin’ Awesome!

If your inner dialogue is awesome, you can’t not be an awesome person!

If your inner dialogue is sh*t, then well…. you will basically manifest a lot of poop in your life.

(FYI, my opinion hasn’t always been awesome of myself. Many times, even now, I get down and so hard on myself, and depression sets in, along with Netflix, and I invite Benedict Cumberbatch, Ben AND Jerry over…. Jerry doesn’t like Benedict so it’s a little awkward in my bed sometimes….)

You have to have some awesome words floating around in your brain if you plan on creating, sharing, giving, living LIFE to the FULL!

If you plan on living and playing a small game, then keep thinking you suck. That’s about as far as you will get.

Connect to your deeper purpose and you will be able to find those words to propel you to your future you, which actually is HERE right now. SO step into that and BE the new you from this moment on.

This is your choice. Like choosing chocolate or vanilla.

The new you that doesn’t let the opinions of others dictate your steps, your path, your plans to help make this world rock on its axis.

Because you are here to do that.

Are you doing it?

God doesn’t create mistakes.

SO maybe it’s time….

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx L

 

PS. This is what really has me in a stir this morning! Did you know that only 0.1% of women in Canada made over $250,000 in 2015 according to Stats Canada! 56,020 women made over $250,000. I also recently heard that only 5 women in Alberta made over $1,000,000 last year. FIVE!

1.7% of Canadians were women who made over $100,000 in 2015.

0.5% of Canadians were women who made over $150,000 in 2015.

I’m going to change this!

Wealth Spa is the start of this. I want millions of dollar to flow through women and into the hands of all the things we want to change in the world and make better.

Are you with me?

You need to be!

Join me now! You’ll be glad you did!

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Coach.

8 Steps to Being The Best Lover Ever

8 Steps to Being The Best Lover Ever

How to be the best lover ever?

You’re wanting the end result, right?

Love, Passion, Fireworks?

So, how are you going to get there?

How you do LOVE is how you do life. (No truer words have been spoken…)

Okay, let me take this a step back for a minute before I talk about the “how-to” steps of being a good lover because this applies to your whole life.

It started way back.

With a seed.

(And to reference, not the seed you are thinking about, the other seed. The seed of your dreams – PEOPLE! Get your head out of the gutter. This is a G-rated blog – okay, maybe PG-13.)

You wanted something.

You still want something.

So, what do you do? What do you do when you want to receive a harvest in your life?

You need to plant seeds.

Sow.

The problem with your seeds and the harvest you are lacking?

  • You aren’t really sure what you want your end result to be (roses are great, but you also like carrots. Squirrel!)
  • You believe you don’t really deserve a harvest
  • You believe that receiving is flat out evil
  • You haven’t even bought the seeds nor asked for them
  • You haven’t planted your seeds
  • You planted one seed and expected acres of crops
  • You are impatient so you ripped up the seeds
  • You aren’t asking in faith (serious lack of belief)
  • You’re so skeptical and negative, your soil wants to run and hide from you!

Okay, now take this and apply it to your life.

Your Money.

Your Health.

Your Business.

Your Love Life.

So you want to be the best lover around?

Come on.

Do I have to teach you everything?! 😉

The only way to make good loving is to already know, think, be, act like a good lover.

Once you are BEing the best love you can be, only then will you act from the place of being the best lover and produce a result of being the best lover – duh?!

If you OBVIOUSLY (maybe to some, not obvious!?!) show up and lie down in bed and expect your partner to do all the work – it ain’t going to end the way you want it to.

Not to mention, the energy that you bring to anything is the results you are going to get!

So let’s get clear on how to BE the best at whatever you want to be the best at (lover or otherwise):

STEP #1 – YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT YOUR END RESULT TO BE

(Hopefully you know this every time you jump into bed! 🙂 )

STEP #2 – YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR IT

Stuff doesn’t just fall in your lap. You have to start planting the seed by asking for it. Most people don’t take the simple step and ask for what they want (& don’t forget to say please!)

STEP #3 – YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BADLY

If you just kinda, sorta, maybe want it – you aren’t going all in! You need to go all in! #nohalfassing

STEP #4 – YOU HAVE TO ACT FROM THE PLACE THAT WHATEVER YOU DESIRE IS HERE

You want to be a leader – act like it. NOW.

You want to be a cook – start cooking. NOW.

You want to star in a show – start shooting. NOW.

You want to be the best lover – start…… you know….  (Note: playing Thunder by Imagine Dragons does NOT make for good lovin’… just my tip for the day!)

STEP #5 – YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE IT

Self-worth, self-confidence and deserving what you desire rear their ugly heads again.

STEP #6 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE FAITH THAT YOU WILL RECEIVE IT

The only voice God respects is FAITH. BOOM! #micdrop

Desperation, Manipulation, Fear, Tears, Your Fancy Education – THEY DON’T WORK ON GOD!

Faith is also the only pleasure God gets from you – so have faith it’s headed your way.  <– HUGE statements (And if you don’t believe in God, your higher power, source, universe, etc.)

STEP #7 – YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO WAIT

This is, honestly, what kills most things…. love and otherwise… learn to be patient. The best things in life are worth waiting for!!

STEP #8 – YOU HAVE TO HAVE YOUR GIVING & RECEIVING IN FLOW

It’s a magical art… But You MUST GIVE first. You must plant first, then you will receive. Consistently.

“The seed that leaves your hand really never leaves your life – it simply leaves your hand and goes into YOUR own future where it MULTIPLIES.” – Dr. M. Murdock

Okay, you are getting what I’m putting down. The giving and receiving must be mutual and in flow and balance. If you only give, and don’t know how to receive this will cause you problems! As for giving, always give your first fruits…..  (OKAY, I just snorted my coffee through my nose laughing…..)

THE POINT OF THE SEED IS THE HARVEST.

I know this is like – duh – the most obvious thing, but I have been planting a F-TON of seeds and not expecting a harvest in my own life.

Isn’t that the most screwed up thing?!

Obviously, I still don’t believe I deserve it on some level.

#truthbomb

#selfworth

AND that explains why I can’t break into my next level on EVERYTHING IN LIFE…..

So, here we are…

In this mess.

Well, I am, and if I am, and we are all connected on some level, I know you are also in the same gardening mess I am in.

We have our gardens and fields trashed around as if a tornado just blew through.

So today, whether you plan on being a FANTASTIC LOVER, crushing your work goals, making more money than you ever dreamed, changing the world for the better, raising the best kids you know how to, or creating the best body you ev-a had….

Go All In WITH YOUR SEEDING and BRING THAT ENERGY TO THE TABLE (or bed) in all that you do!

Live YOUR Legacy.

xx L

 

 

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Coach.

The Secret Key To Having It All

The Secret Key to Having It All

My question to you: What if you believed you were already complete?

I mean REALLY believed it to the last cell in your baby toe?

What if everything you were after, health, wealth, love, were already here?

What if you learned one of the greatest secrets to allowing you to have it all?

I’m a constant seeker of figuring out the “how”.

Desperate for knowledge.

Read every book.

Listened to every speaker I can get my hands on.

Meditated on this.

Prayed on that.

No doubt, you have too.

We all want variations of health, wealth and love.

It’s our innate desire.

So, my question to you as you are on your quest: What if you believed you were really complete?

What if I told you that it’s actually not about “how” to get love, wealth & health?

What if I told you the secret to everything you ever wanted is not actually “out there”?

What if I told you that the secret to everything you ever wanted is already here and you don’t need to go looking for it?

What if I told you that you seriously have everything “inside” of you to be able to “have it all” on your terms?

And

What if I took it one step further and told you that everything, EVERYTHING,you desire is actually aligned with the Divine & your divine purpose?

You want to know what one of the biggest limiting beliefs is around wealth, health, & love is?

“I don’t deserve this.”

Lack of Self-Worth.

Self-Doubt.

Don’t worry.

I can only write about this because I’m the Queen of Self-Doubt and I still struggle with self-worth more often than I’d like to admit.

I’ve spent years YEARS trying to figure out the right formula for it all. The “how”.

I’m nowhere near perfect, and part of the joy of life is learning that you have to keep tapping into, tuning into yourself, and not feel selfish about your desires, or feel bad for having desires that aren’t maybe as noble as starting a school in Africa, or feeding millions of children.

The guilt and shame won’t help your efforts any.

I remember when I was a kid how GUILTY I felt at church when I had ZERO desire to ever be a full-time missionary! NO seriously.

And I even felt guilt when I told my grandparents that I didn’t want to be a pastor, (and HELL no, I even thought about being a pastor’s wife after bible college and that was NEVER going to fly with me….) and I sure didn’t want to be a poor missionary (I know not all missionaries are poor, but as a child, all I saw was mud huts and missionaries eating bugs – and of course I tried eating the fried bugs! They weren’t bad.)

My point here is, no matter how you were raised, no matter which church, or grandparents, or parents, or community group, I’m sure we’ve all felt guilty for not doing something, or not wanting to “follow the way” that others have set out for us.

With good reason. We have our own journey to experience.

Our problem when it comes to health, wealth & the love we desire is actually pretty simple.

We keep turning to the outside world for everything.

  • Advice on our hair.
  • Advice on our car.
  • Advice on our diet.
  • Advice on our colon.
  • Advice on our relationships.
  • Advice on how we should spend our money.
  • Advice on what school is the best.
  • Advice on what profession is best.
  • Advice, Advice, Advice…..

And it’s subtle. SUBTLE.

You get the advice from Facebook, TV, Friends, Family, Walking down the street – basically advice from your “monkey brain” that won’t shut up ever!

And it’s not bad or good advice – it’s just your gathering of information.

The problem with all this information is that it takes time to sort.

Like Laundry.

And if most of us can barely sort laundry, how are we supposed to process a world of information thrown at us?

This is were it becomes even more critical to go within.

To quiet the monkey brain, and listen to the heart, the soul.

The answers are always within.

The answers to your health, wealth & love are all inside you waiting.

This is about tapping into what you have been given as your birthright.

A soul that is connected to the infinite.

The problem is that we’ve stopped asking for help.

Why do we need help from our internal guidance system when we have Google?

The good life, the comfortable, leaves many of us spiritually castrated.

And if you think I’m trying to be funny. I’m not. It actually makes my heart sad when people give up.

We’ve lost our drive.

Our dreams have been crushed.

Life has got us down.

Things didn’t go as planned.

The should’ve, would’ve, could’ves’ have got the best of us.

And we are left empty.

Here’s something I want to say, and some will understand this, and it will trigger the rest.

It’s our responsibility to go deep.

To find that dream.

To follow that dream.

To re-sell ourselves on that dream everyday.

It’s not anyone else’s job – yet we make it everyone else’s problem.

I’m telling you that all the health you want, the wealth you want, and that dream relationship you want is actually already here inside you, you just have to tap in, get clear, and BE that first.

BE love first.

BE health first.

BE wealth first.

WTF is she talking about?

It’s hard, but not hard. And, yes, I mean that.

It involves expectations, but not holding on to them too tightly.

It involves setting intentions, but not being devastated when they don’t materialize.

The trick is in the BEing and the BElieving and your BEliefs.

BE first means that you are already embodying all that you want – KNOWING it’s here, KNOWING it’s not out there.

YOU CREATE IT!

You create it first inside you – then the outside world follows suit.

Think of when you were first in “love”.

That’s literally a feeling you created inside of you.

You created that whole experience.

And wasn’t it the best feeling in the whole world?

Same with health. Same with wealth.

The inside has to be RIGHT before the outside can manifest itself.

To BE LOVE first in all your relationships will manifest a LIFE OF LOVE.

To BE WEALTHY first inside will manifest real money throughout your life.

To BE HEALTHY first in thought and mind and soul will eventually manifest it’s self out.

and if you want LAUGHTER, BE the funniest person you know (even if it’s not true, I think I’m the funniest person I know, and hence, I have so much laughter and lightness most of the time in my life! I actually sit here and laugh at my own jokes – alone – at like 5am!)

This is how it works. It’s law.

It has to. This is how this whole GIG is set up.

NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING.

NOT LOVE, NOT MONEY, NOT A PERFECT HEALTHY BODY.

AND THAT’S BECA– USE YOU ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING – you just forgot that it was inside of you.

And it is waiting for you….

Patiently….

Waiting for your soul.

Wanting to — USE YOU to CHANNEL LOVE, HEALTH, & WEALTH  into this world and pour out that blessing to all those around you.

Your soul is waiting & wanting you…..

to come home to YOU.

Live YOUR Legacy!

xx L

 

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Coach.

How to Plug Your Energy Leaks

How to Kill Your Energy Vampires

Have you ever sprouted a leak?

I’m very sure I’ve sprouted many.

From tears to my rubber dingy and everything in between.

I feel some days I’m the queen of leaks.

I probably have leaky gut syndrome – don’t know what that is, mind you – but I saw a Facebook ad for it, and I assume Facebook knows me better than my own GP. I mean, seriously, all those algorithms and spying must be good for something.

Leaks everywhere!

It’s amazing how we even function as human beings most days!

And then there’s the worst kind of leak….

The ENERGY leak.

The ENERGY drains.

The ENERGY vampires.

They come at you all day long, SUCKING THE LIFE OUT OF YOU!

Leaving you tired, exhausted, mind-numbed, grouchy, and the worst feeling – when you lose integrity with yourself.

Like all vampires, they need to be killed off, or they end up turning your life into a Twilight sequel, and as we all know, you never want to be the sequel to anything… (true story, just ask Ghostbusters Part 3… oh, you didn’t know there was a Part 3?! lol)

Time to sharpen your stake!

But, slow down there Tonto…. before we go kill the vampires, or hire the hottest plumber we can find to plug some of these leaks, we must first figure out where they are coming from.

For me, I’ve been identifying my energy leaks and ridding myself of them as fast as I can (meaning delegating most of them) and some of them, I can’t delegate away, I have to do them myself – so I’ve learned how I best handle them.

If you still don’t know (or can’t instantly identify) the energy leaks in your life, let me help you out with some things I find are energy leaks for myself…

  • a job/boss/company/clients that sucks the life out of you
  • not opening your snail mail and letting it pile up
  • not dealing with emails
  • not responding to voicemails
  • not paying your bills on time
  • certain people/relationships
  • bad food (aka. sugary/carby heaven…)
  • alcohol
  • drugs
  • certain airlines (YUP!)
  • certain hotel chains (YUP!)
  • old stanky underwear (we all have them! FOR GOD’S SAKE – THROW AWAY ALREADY!)
  • cleaning toilets
  • filing
  • watching the news
  • movies/tv that doesn’t uplift me
  • even, certain music drains my energy (and then lots that gives me energy)

I could obviously go on about everything I don’t like… and it’s true – if you don’t like it – it’s not going to give you energy, it will always take your energy away.

And this is a problem.

A BIG PROBLEM.

We need to either get rid of or re-frame our energy vampires.

One way I deal with all the YUCKY stuff of life, is that I tackle it immediately – first thing! (after I’ve dealt with myself first of course – read Chapter 1 of my book, STRUT!)

I rarely procrastinate on the messy stuff. Hard calls, having tough conversations, delivering negative news. I know I need to deal with that stuff right away, otherwise, I know I just let that stuff FESTER for days, and it’s not good for myself or the rest of the world.

Being the best you is the BEST gift you can give the world.

And you can’t do that if you are negative, and grouchy and feeling not-so-top-shelf.

Here’s the other thing that kills vampires…. SUNSHINE!

So, when I say SHINE and be YOU, I’m saying it not just because we (the rest of the world) need to see you shine, you need to SHINE to kill your own vampires too!

WHY DOES THIS EVEN MATTER?

What the heck does killing our energy vampires have to do with MONEY?

Ummm……..

EVERYTHING!!

OMG… you missed my preaching the last 140+ weeks didn’t you?!

MONEY is ENERGY!

And when your energy is being leaked, drained – so is your bank account!!

It goes hand in hand.

Your energy drain is actually costing you EVERYTHING!

Your dreams.

Your goals.

Your next vacation.

Your soul.

Your body.

Your relationships.

Your everything you ever wanted to get out of this life!

And I don’t know anyone that’s willing to pay that price…

You are too important.

Too beautiful a soul.

You have too much love to give.

You have too much to share with the world.

And when you keep allowing these energy leaks – you are left with nothing.

Nothing to give.

Nothing to share.

Empty.

If you can find one or two energy leaks this week and pass them off to someone else (who loves to do them!) or flat out quash them – and then do that every day a little – where would you be in one month from now? One year from now?

Start plugging the holes.

Start killing the things in life you don’t want to do.

Change your belief that “life has to be hard” or “I have to do such and such” – when that’s BS. No one is making you do anything.

Embrace new beliefs such as, “Life keeps getting better and better!” “Everything I do is FUN & EASY!”

Because when you stay in FLOW, ALIGNMENT, LIVE IN YOUR PURPOSE – magically energy vampires fall away into the night…

and

Life keeps getting better and better.

Live Your Legacy.

xx L

 

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Coach.

The Best Investment Ever

The Best Investment Ever

I’m going to give you an “insiders” tip today on the the best investment you can ever make with your time & money.

There is only one.

There can only EVER be one.

And that is, investing in Y-O-U.

And investing in YOU in a BIG way.

What does that mean?

It means that your desire, that thing deep down that keeps nudging you, needs to come out to shine.

It’s taken me years to really understand this.

We were taught to go to school, college, university, and then, yes, be a life long learner (obviously something I take to heart more than the average bear if you ever had the misfortune of having to decipher some of the letters behind my name!) and as if that’s what it really means to invest in yourself, but that’s not what it really means.

Then, of course, there’s the investing in your skin, hair, make-up, clothes, handbags, Louboutin’s & Manolo’s, (oh, and showering helps!) and again, yes, as that is a huge investment and important, but again, it’s not really what I’m talking about.

You also have your body, exercise, physical health, food & diet – also super important, but again not really where I’m going with this.

There’s an investment more important than all of the “stuff” we do in our day to day lives. No doubt one of the most overlooked and undervalued parts of us, and no with no help from the majority of society, except of course for Thoracic Surgeons.

It’s your heart.

Following Your Heart.

The Life Source.

And the only reason that may sound cheesy or totally lame to you is because we, in a nutshell, are taught that it’s a fairy dream to follow your heart, and only hard work and persistence will get us to where we are going – but that will never get you going to where you want to go if you don’t have some heart in it.

The thing is that YOUR LIFE will never work if you aren’t following your heart.

#truestory

#bottomline

Your life will never work if you aren’t listening to your heart.

Your investments, your relationships, your education, your look, your style, your money, your home, your body, your mind will PUSH AGAINST you if you aren’t first following your heart.

Putting your heart first is not a good or bad thing. It’s life giving. It’s where abundance, peace, happiness, health come from and anything else you desire comes from.

And here’s what the good book has to say about that…

The heart is to be guarded because it is the source of life.

or said another way,

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”

or said another way again,

ABOVE all else, guard your heart – because EVERYTHING you do FLOWS from it!

Said three different ways, all from the same book – 3 different versions of it (Prov.4:23)… best selling book of all time. #neednotsaymore

Your Heart?!

I get why true wisdom lies with the heart, because it is more powerful, and overrides the brain every time. We feel with our hearts, we think with our minds. Hearts are rarely rational, but they will lead you to your dream life every time! (And what more is life than your reality, your dream anyways?!)

I also don’t think this text means to guard your heart from things like “LOVE” or the pain love can cause (’cause if you haven’t figured it out yet, all relationships end at some point and there’s going to be some pain – but so worth it!)

I think it means guard your heart once you follow it.

There are always going to be people quick to judge, slow to listen.

Truly supportive people will usually be harder to find, so guard your heart from the words, relationships, negativity that can hinder your mind-game, pull you out of alignment with your true purpose. Meaning, you may have to ignore certain voices you hear. (What’s true for someone else isn’t necessarily true for you.)

On the topic of money: Do what you love, follow your heart, the money will follow. I mean, assuming you are actually treating what you love as a business and taking appropriate actions toward it. 😉

BEST INVESTMENT EVER = FOLLOW YOUR HEART

How do you follow your heart?

It sounds wishy-washy-woo-woo, but you CAN’T LIVE YOUR PURPOSE DRIVEN/DREAM LIFE WITHOUT IT!

  • Sit in quiet meditation.
  • Things will come to your throughout your day when you least expect them.
  • You will get nudges.
  • Pray.
  • Write.
  • Stretch.
  • Run.
  • Drive around.
  • Listen to Your Favorite Music.
  • Tune into YOU.

Your heart will speak to you. Your heart wants to connect with you. It’s your soul. It wants to use you as a channel, a conduit to the life around you.

I believe our biggest problem is that humans in general terms don’t sit in stillness and listen to the silent rhythm of life stirring inside us.

If you aren’t meditating or spending quiet time listening, maybe it’s time to invest the time in you, your heart, your mind, your soul, your body.

You can’t go wrong following your heart, because if you believe that everything works together for your highest good, then the good, bad, & ugly that may follow from following your heart, is meant to be perfection.

As it all is always.

Perfect.

xx

 

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Coach.

Why You Aren’t Manifesting Your Big Dreams

Why You Aren't Manifesting Your Big Dreams

I decided life was good.

It was good. It IS good.

And when you get to the place where you have a majority of all your needs met, life is good for most of us.

I was listening or reading, and I can’t even remember where from (because I seem to be reading like 5 books and listening to 2 – so it’s a mumble jumble mess in my brain sometimes! 🙂 ) when I was asked this question:

“Okay, now that you’ve traveled the world 5-star (of course), own 12 dream houses around the world, own 31 fancy cars (one for each day of the month with coordinated designer outfits and shoes – obs), now what?”

In other words, once you have all the money you could possibly ever want, then what? Then what is going to drive you? What is going to inspire you to wake up everyday?

(Another reason I dislike the word retirement because it conjures up visions of me knitting in a rocking chair and complaining at the 5 o’clock news, hitting my fist onto my TV tray or shaking it at the TV…and that depresses me to point where I don’t even care about retirement #truthspoken)

And, yes, I don’t have a car for everyday of the month (but I do have shoes for 6 months of the year if that counts!), but I have great imagination and visualization skills, and I get to this depressing point every time I do any of these stupid manifesting exercises where you have to visualize what you want out of life. (I’ve done this one lots and come out more miserable than before going in half the time!)

I say ‘stupid’ lovingly – but to me, a person who honestly isn’t motivated by money (although loves it!) it’s hard to care about manifesting a ton of sh*t that I’m not really interested in (aka. 12 houses/31 cars when that just seems like a ton of work to boot!) – (On a side note, I’m about 99% sure that I had royalty in a past life – LOL, so none of this over-the-top stuff really excites me at all. I’m a pretty happy camper, even in a tent – as long as there’s coffee and wifi….oh… and a 5-star tent…)

Actually, I know lots of people where money isn’t the true motivator. And when money isn’t your actual deep motivator, you have to go deeper.

WAY DEEPER.

Because…

This always goes back to living out your WHY.

What is it I want to do?

What is it I’m here to do?

What is it I LOVE to do?

What do I want to do even if I have all the money in the world?

What VISION/DREAM/GOAL DO I WANT TO SEE THOUGH TO THE END?

Depression always sets in when you don’t know your why or are not living out the full self-expression of your soul.

It’s probably as simple and as difficult as that.

Finding your why and living in it fully is the best way to get out of a slump and put some pep into your step.

Sometimes easier said than done.

This I know.

And I’m a pretty self-expressed person (ask my girlfriends!) and yet I sometimes get stuck manifesting the BIG DREAMS!

This is why I get stuck – and maybe you too…..

The reason you aren’t manifesting your BIG DREAMS is probably one of two reasons:

  • you don’t really want what you want badly enough and/or
  • you don’t have enough clarity/emotion/feeling/excitement around your vision to carry it out

So I sit here, in my fancy dining room this morning, in my comfy life and think what’s the point?!

What’s the point of messing up my comfort zone?

What’s the point when LIFE IS GOOD, BUT NOT GREAT?

Is this all there is?

YES! This is all there is (at this moment) because this is all you’ve created thus far.

This place you are reading this – LOOK AROUND – you created it.

Your soul knows you are a powerful creator and you can create more.

But I think this is what happens to most of us… we hit the “COMFY LIFE ZONE”.

Once you hit “COMFY LIFE ZONE” (which I would say is most of middle America and hence why Netflix does so well) it takes a lot to step out of that and go PLAY A BIGGER GAME than the one you are currently playing.

And I do know this:

My WHY has to be bigger than my comfy life.

I will say and most people who know me (and if you’ve been following me for the last 145 weeks or so….) you probably know that I do know my why, and I do.

But there are days when I’m happy to take the back seat and let “COMFY LIFE” be the driver. Those are usually fun days.

Brain goes off.

Scandal goes on.

Chocolate goes in.

(Or I do the Olivia Pope diet of Red Wine & Popcorn…)

The problem for me (and when I say me, I mean you are probably going to resonate with this too, ’cause we all the same deep down) –

I haven’t, continually (continually being the key word), reached harmony between me, myself and my WHY.

This is important for anything you want in your life, my loves…. listen up…

You have to create the feelings within yourself first before they can show up in your reality, in your outside world.

Only if harmony is within will you find it outside of you.

Everything you want has to come from you first –

NOTHING COMES FROM OUTSIDE OF YOU.

God planted it in you. There’s nothing to find ‘OUT THERE’!

It’s all ‘IN HERE’!

TAP IN:

  • to your brilliance within
  • to your power within
  • to your flow within
  • to your dreams within
  • to your happiness within
  • to your world within

Once you really get this, and really understand the power of this – you will be able to fully step into whatever reality you choose for yourself.

And if that isn’t the cat’s meow, then I’m at a loss for words…

xx

 

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PPS. I love how it takes me 1000 words to get to a point where I’m at a loss for words….. HAPPY MONEY LOVES!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coach.

Choosing New Beliefs

Choosing New Beliefs

New Beliefs.

Here are a few of mine from this week!

These ones caught me off guard – in the sense that I’ve never heard them before (or I get to hear them in a new light) and I am now choosing to write them on my soul as new beliefs to hold – after all, we all get to choose our beliefs, right?!

This first one was from a James Altucher blog and then re-stated by Katrina Ruth in one of her blog’s:

“Every action comes from LOVE or FEAR.”  

Boom! Wow, I wrote something similar in my book about the 2 questions you need to ask yourself as you go through life, but this kinda hits home. When you say or do something, what is the real REAL reason for doing so? You know the truth always. And fear can be good or bad fear, so it’s up to you to tune in and figure out what’s true for you. Sometimes you have to face your fears, and doing so is out of love. But let’s be real, most times we act out of fear it’s not in our best interest.

Second thing was from Dr. Joe Vitale, although, I’ve also heard it back 20 years ago from T. Harv Eker.

“Money loves speed.”

Taking fast action on the ideas that come into your head or the opportunities that come into your life – priceless! – especially when it comes to the law of attraction and creating wealth and providence naturally follows. It’s basically following your gut, your intuition and let’s be real again, that sounds kinda zany and most people will look at you like your are crazy, but you’re not here to care what other people think anyways – follow that idea down the path – run with it!

The third thing I read this week that I honestly never heard before, and to be fair, I haven’t even tested this one out, nor have I researched it, but my intuition kind said, “oh that makes sense.”

This one was also from Dr. Joe Vitale.

“You created this moment from what you thought and felt three days ago. What you are thinking and feeling right now will create your next moments.” 

At first, I was like no way – three days is a long time, but then…

Yup.

That’s one of those soul truths that you kinda just get to know deep down on a soul level.

No explanation needed.

Beliefs.

New beliefs.

Being allowed to choose new beliefs.

One of the best gifts given to humanity.

Live Your Legacy!

xx

 

 

 

Coach.

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When A Closed Mind Is Necessary

When a closed mind is necessary….You need to read this!

One of my favorite things to do in the whole wide world is Philosophy & Coffee. If I could sit around all day and BS, debate for the sake of debating and have my mind challenged, no agenda – I would love this! (Anyone free this morning?! 🙂 )

This probably comes from my childhood, sitting around the farm table on a Saturday morning with Opa, Oma and a big pot of coffee, talking about everything under the sun. Looking back, this is no doubt where my open mind and curiosity came from.

Something I repeat to myself daily, as part of my life mantra, core belief that I choose to hold, is that ‘I have an open mind‘.

And thus far, I believe it has served me well.

Having and keeping an open mind, I believe offers this:

  • true love
  • understanding of others

And if that short list doesn’t sell you on why you should keep mostly an open mind, then you will choose being ‘right’ over probably having JOY in your life. (<– & that rabbit hole is for another day!)

BUT, I want to share with you today about when it is necessary to have a closed mind.

Because, like most things in life, there isn’t just one way to BE.

There are times that call for closed-mindedness. 

Yesterday, I was driving and listening to one of my fav’s from 1910. Yes, the year 1910. Good ol’ Wallace D. Wattles.

The Science of Getting Rich.

I’ve listened and read it many many times over. Like anything, you always get new and different messages from the same material when you study it.

This was no different.

He brought up really good points on why one would at times need to keep a closed mind.

This really challenged me!

And then I realized this….

I’m keeping a closed mind to having anything but an open mind.

The ultimate in irony. A true paradox.

I feel I have to be RIGHT about having an open mind and that people with closed minds come across….

unkind –

to say the least. I’m sure I can come up with a lot of other words for what I think of true closed-minded people!

Seriously, I personally find it hard to relate to people who have to be right all the time and don’t even entertain new ideas or thoughts or world views.

However, I was really confronted with this whole open/closed mind thing yesterday when Wattles was talking about manifesting your one true desire, accomplishing your BIG goals.

The place where closed-mindedness comes into play is when you are following the deep desires of your heart, and set out big plans or goals. The BIG Vision of what you want to create and bring into the world.

In the beginning, sure, it takes an open heart to be able to figure out your desires, goals and how you want your life to look but once you have that figured out, put on some blinders and ear plugs.

Being closed minded means you need to drown out the NOISE of the world pulling you in different directions with conflicting advice.

Some examples:

  • Diets: Eat this, don’t eat this. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Business: Sell this way, don’t market that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Money: Invest this way, don’t spend your money that way. Do this, don’t do that.
  • Relationships: Love this way, don’t say that. Do this, don’t do that.

You will get a million different opinions from a million different people. EVERY TIME.

If you are seeking a quorum, or mentally tallying votes on what to do in a certain situation, or figuring out who’s doing what – DON’T.

You may be doing it subconsciously on some level.

(I tally votes in my head on how people choose their diets and exercise… ALL THE TIME! Vegan, Keto, Frenchfrychocolatarian (it’s probably a thing!), Macro-nutrients, intermittent fasting, yoga, Pilates, cross-fit…..)

We all do. Follow the crowd, that is. Want to fit in, that is. Want to be accepted and loved.

When you are in hot pursuit of your goal, that’s when you really want to focus in.

  • Focus in on 1 or 2 mentors.
  • Focus in on 1 or 2 good books.
  • Focus in on what feels right.
  • Focus in on what is placed on your heart.
  • Focus in on the big vision.

This is how all great things have been accomplished.

  • not listening to the crowd
  • not reading contradicting materials
  • not seeking out opinions of others
  • not following 100 different mentors all with different messages

Now, let’s me be truthful here. I’m so bad at this.

I love learning.

If you are a learner and you have natural curiousity, you will most likely have the same problem that I have encountered.

My biggest problem is that I do listen to everyone and what everyone is telling me (aka. gurus, mentors, books (I read a LOT), family, friends, etc.) for the most part ALL contradicts each other.

So I’m left in a MUDDLE of THOUGHTS and no real direction on what is right for me. (And this is fine in the beginning and necessary to learn, but after a while, it gets old!)

I felt that way before I wrote my book STRUT: How to Kick Financial ASSets in Sexy Shoes!

Writing out all my financial beliefs and thoughts on money was one way I clarified to myself what I really believed.

Funny how writing and journaling always seem to bring clarity!

Oh, and with this closed-mindedness, you don’t need to actually be a rude jerk, you can just smile and nod when you are getting advice or just kindly say, “No, that’s not for me right now.” Maybe revisit it in the future.

Something that isn’t for you right now, or for this season in your life, could possibly be something AMAZING for your life later on.

Kinda like how I hated Math and English (barely passed) in high school, and had to beg my English 101 teacher in University to pass me, almost to the point where my professor would have me swear on a Bible that I would never write anything……. and then who became the Financial Planner (by the way, I got an A+ in university math!) and then became a writer a decade later?

Timing.

Tuning In.

Knowing what you want to accomplish.

Being a little picky and closed-mindedness will go a long way in accomplishing that specific vision you have.

Thomas did it.

Albert did it.

Nikola did it.

Every great thing you’ve ever seen was first completed in someone’s mind.

How clear is your vision? What are you setting out to accomplish?

Bottom Line: The clearer your vision, the less open-mindedness you will have – which is what needs to happen for you to bring that vision to reality.

For me, that means:

  • I need to say a few more NO’s.
  • I need to focus on my 2 current mentors for my business.
  • I need to (for the meantime) stop reading conflicting business advice.
  • I need to stop listening to all the advice thrown my way from the loving peanut gallery – ’cause the opinions (on all parts of your life) are readily available every time you pick up the phone.

If you want to keep spinning your wheels, stay in confusion with your vision or your life in general, entertain and follow all the thoughts that enter your mind.

No truer words have been spoken.

xx

 

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Coach.

Life Is Calling…..

Life Is Calling Blog

If I’m honest with you, I’m sitting here this morning with total fear.

‘What ifs’ have got me by the short & curlies. (Can a lady even say that?!?! LOL)

Life is calling me.

And sometimes I hang up on it. I don’t return its emails. And even, heaven forbid, sometimes, I don’t even text back. (GASP!)

I actually got like 6 different downloads pouring out of me this morning (I’m tuned in & dialed in this morning!), but the one I’m choosing is the one I need to hear. (I’ll write the rest this week for you!)

This is the one I’m struggling with.

And no doubt, 99% of the planet…

Living Life to THE FULL.

I’m still not allowing it all in.

You’re still not allowing it all in.

Not allowing yourself to live life to the full….

This means that you have a main block in one of three areas: HEALTH, WEALTH, or LOVE

And here’s the truth…

If you have a blockage in one area, you have a blockage in ALL areas because they are all connected.

They say you can’t have it all – but that’s not a belief I choose to hold. (Don’t forget you get to pick and choose the beliefs you hold!)

To my core, to every last cell in my body, I do believe that I CAN HAVE IT ALL!

The HEALTH of my dreams.

The WEALTH of my dreams.

The RELATIONSHIPS of my dreams (dream friends, dream clients, family, love – it all.)

Where are you DAMNED up?

Seriously, if your life, your blood, your breath moves like a powerful RIVER within you, then where is the damn-dam?

It’s stuck somewhere within.

You know this on a deep level.

Sure, life may seem good.

And it is! No doubt!

However, why is it not GREAT?!

Why haven’t you stepped into your power?

(We talked about this Friday Night on my Facebook Live – you can look it up on my Facebook page…. it did include a GT!)

Then you know that power has to come from within, it’s not something that is external. It’s not something that you can go looking for outside of you, or something you can ever force or force upon another person.

Power must and always comes from within.

When you are dammed up, stuck, stagnant in life, you know that you are certainly not in your power, and you are certainly not living life to the FULL (which by the way is something every one of us is called to!)

We are called to live in total HEALTH, ABUNDANCE & LOVE!

But we can’t have the healthy body, the money, or the love we desire if we don’t allow FLOW in our life.

See what I said there? “ALLOW”

Meaning, it’s already there, it’s just something we need to “LET IN”!

We need to give ourselves PERMISSION.

I think I read Brené Brown would write herself PERMISSION slips to be able to allow her to do great things.

I think it’s the same for most of us.

We are still waiting for some magic fairy, or magic partner, or God outside us to give us permission to be GREAT, to allow perfect FLOW in our lives and to use our power within, and how crazy is that?

God is within us. Meaning all the power is within us, and that you already have all the power, strength, knowledge, tools WITHIN you to live the GREAT LIFE.

So, we live GOOD lives. We established that. Most of us do live a very good life.

But it’s not GREAT.

Good is comfortable.

I was telling a friend how freakin’ comfortable my life is.

And it is….

I have manifested the current life I live – no doubt.

I am a powerful manifestor. (HINT: SO ARE YOU!)

I manifested this life before I was 30. And had everything I ever wanted by 30.

(Read my book STRUT if you want to know more about that!)

But here’s the thing, as it is with goals & life, don’t you really want to live out this life with no regrets and make it GREAT?

There will always be the next level.

Next level HEALTH

Next level WEALTH

Next level LOVE

ALWAYS….

(and for LOVE, I’m talking all your relationships, in case you are curious.. I’m talking about taking all your relationships to that next level of love!)

I’m one of those people who had a big goal and accomplished it.

Actually, I’ve done that a few times.

It’s an amazing high, and then, you typically crash after… I did.

I’ve crashed a lot after reaching goals. I crashed around 33. I crashed after my book launched. I crashed after I launched my company. I always seem to crash after running the half-marathons (Literally!) I probably crashed after every time I completed more letters behind my name. I crash often.

(Especially after losing 5 pounds, I totally reward myself with a new 5 pounds! HA!)

The only reason I crash is because I didn’t believe that I could HAVE IT ALL back then, and when you accomplish something great, it typically disappears or leaves you if you haven’t created the belief system around it to hold the space for your great accomplishments. It’s self sabotage at its best.

So, this is what I want to leave you with today…

Life is CALLING YOU to be GREAT and to LIVE to the FULL. (I’m pretty sure even Jesus says this a few times!)

Do you believe that you can live life to the full and have total HEALTH, WEALTH & LOVE in your life?

What if you let go? What if you allowed the dam to break? What if you stopped holding on so tight?

What if you actually believed that you were allowed to have it all?

After all,

LIFE IS CALLING!

Live YOUR Legacy!!

xx

 

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Coach.

Inspire

Inspire Blog

I just deleted the whole page.

It sucked.

You know when you are doing the work and you aren’t feeling it. There’s no inspiration.

And that’s okay – cause I will say 99% of the work we do is just that… work. And that’s okay.

It takes the 99% to get the 1%.

What is the 1%?

It’s when you are living, working, breathing IN SPIRIT. 

Inspiration is wrought with all the markings of BEING IN LOVE – like when your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty – when you can barely catch your breath. (Like watching Virtue & Moir Ice Dance….holy inspiration!)

You know when you are ‘in spirit’ doing work and when you are not.

And like I said, it won’t happen every second, but if you are 100% work and 0% inspiration, then that’s going to cause your heart to fail, literally. It will wreak havoc in your life from not being able to fully express yourself. It will manifest itself as dis-ease within your body.

Why are you hiding from it?

Why are you hiding your work from the world? From me?

What if he didn’t sing your favorite song? What if she didn’t write your favorite book? What if you left the world with your gold still in you – Olympic or otherwise?

I get it.

You are scared.

Cause’ it’s scary. It sucks having to put it all out on the line. Vulnerability.

And half the time you will fail.

You’ll fail in love. You’ll fail in business. Your invention will suck. You’ll make mistakes and trip up.

But then……

There will come a time when you won’t fail. You won’t be the class clown. You won’t be looked upon as a failure.

There will come a time when you SUCCEED – you crush it, you rock it – you damn well have the world on a string.

And it’s not even so much what you get in that moment – cause you will ‘get’ to be proud of yourself (best feeling ever), but even more so, it’s what you end up giving to the WORLD….

You GIVE INSPIRATION!

You BREATHE INSPIRATION!

You BRING FORTH the craziest of feelings, shiniest of lights, the deepest sense of purpose, the greatest joy.

You will have given your gift to the world. You will inspire others at their deepest cellular level, the kind where you know your souls are connected and you can overcome any obstacle.

You will breathe LIFE into another.

Literally.

This then becomes the question to ask yourself in all things:

Are you breathing LIFE into others?

or

Are you taking it from them?

Surround yourself with LIFE breathers.

Distance yourself from the “suckers”.

LIFE breathers are all around you.

They show up in your life to inspire to bring you that second wind when you need it – cause if you are doing anything worthwhile it will turn up the ground of your soul and show up as every emotion under the sun – yes, the dirt and crap will come rising up from the depths of your soul…. that’s the growth part.

That’s why the spirit comes to dwell within – so that you can renew, restore, refresh your soil to grow up & out, and to find that light & share it.

Have you ever noticed when you get inspiration that nothing else matters? That the problems you were facing seem to dissipate? Get the feeling that anything is possible?

Anything is possible!

Sit with that for a min.

Anything is possible! What a gift to live in that space, and you have to protect that energy – protect that vibe – cause the suckers come out of nowhere and blow that light so fast… (and by suckers, I usually mean your negative self-talk – although, there are people that seem to have a knack for that too!)

When you live FULLY in that space of your deepest spirit you leave me touched, moved & full of possibility.

You leave me with my heart racing, sweaty palms, and the energy to continue on.

To those that have laid it all out on the field, the ice, the ground, the sky, the stage, the paper, the body, the canvas, the lab, the heart – thank you for being your spirit self-expressed – you have given me breath.

You have inspired me to do the same.

xx

 

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