Do you really want to change the world? Make a difference?
I sure do.
I’ve pondered this up, down and sideways.
How does one do it?
And the answer I could come up with is one word:
Which I’m sure could come off as being/looking/acting/appearing “selfish” however, there is a positive & negative selfishness:
- One where you are out only for yourself. One where one one else matters.
- Then, there is the selfishness, where you selfishly take time for self-growth, self-care, self-love, self-forgiveness, self-management to be a better person for the world, your family and for yourself. It’s a win-win-win.
I’m totally all about being the second kind of selfish (obvi). Being the second is never truly selfish, it’s just taking the time you need to be a better person so you can do your job in this world, better. I revel in those moments as a natural introvert.
I was reading Danielle LaPorte’s new book, White Hot Truth, on gurus and famous people who changed the world. (And BOOM I was glued to the page in my research efforts on how to change the world…)
Every single person on the planet has major flaws and the beauty in so many ways is our imperfection, however, for some reason, these absolutely shocked me! I know I always put people of power on a pedestal, only because we as people expect more from our gurus, religious leaders, and politicians (okay, maybe not politicians!) It’s crazy. Really, it is crazy, because they are just people like us… and maybe even worse than the average human….
Are you ready for this? This actually blew my mind. I must really live in a bubble. Thought provoking? YES!! (Courtesy of Google & Danielle’s Book)
- Martin Luther King Jr. probably had many extramarital affairs.
- Gandhi had to prove his chastity by often sleeping next to naked girls, giving detailed sexual instructions, including his bizarre sexual practices, and setting up ashrams and sex experiments with girls and boys, even his grandniece.
- Socrates was short, fat, ugly, smelly old man. Never bathing. Would you take life advice from a short, fat, ugly, smelly old man?
- Mother Teresa had some serious shady care going on in her care, from reusing needles to washing soiled clothes and cooking utensils in the same water and rarely, if never, gave an account or transparency for the millions of dollars given to her or the charities she ran.
- Abraham Lincoln was racist and so was Winston Churchill – like…vocal and bad about it.
- George Washington scammed millions of dollars (in today’s dollars) through Congress as sitting president.
- Even the POPE himself (Pope Pius IX) kidnapped a Jewish child to raise as Catholic. (Kidnapping? Seriously? Say like 10,000 Hail Mary’s for that and go to jail….. Poor Edgardo….)
- Einstein was a philanderer and married his cousin Elsa, after cheating on & divorcing his first wife. (Can you imagine that? I’m leaving you for my cousin?!)
And yet, these people celebrated in history as heroes and made a significant impact on our world.
Doesn’t that give you hope? That in all our failing there’s still a chance for us, somewhat normal people, who don’t steal millions, kidnap children, disinfect our houses and take showers, to make a significant difference in our world?
Reflecting on another self-trait: self-forgiveness. When you love so much and want to make a difference, you’re gonna inevitably mess this shizza up, make mistakes (which just mean you are trying) and will need HUGE amounts of self-love and positive self-talk. (I know self-forgiveness has been a long, hard struggle in the past for me – but I’m seriously over it now… for a few hours at least….)
Here’s what I want you to take away from this:
The pressure to be perfect has to be released. You can be a walking disaster and still make a difference. Proof is in the pudding… we all sinners…da-da-da…
Here’s the other thing I want you to take away from this:
You need to foster your self. Foster the self-love, self-forgiveness, self-care, self-growth.
Put self-time ahead of some of the other ‘pressing’ things in your day. Create and follow self-practices that will allow you to achieve the desires that were put in your heart (also known as goals, dreams, aspirations, etc.).
If you can get down some or all of the ‘self’ stuff (the care, love, forgiveness, growth, etc.), then you have self-management in the bag and you can go on to change the world.
You can’t change the world from a place of self-loathing, self-hatred, self-exhaustion, or self-regression.
You can, however, make a difference with love and a vision, even with some serious mistakes on the way.
For me, that means waking up at 4:19am to write this. For me, for you, because it’s my self-love and because I have a message to share, and I did my purpose work….
And it is done now, so I can go shower and disinfect my house, and make sure my kids get to school on-time today….
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