Today I’ve literally written about 4 blogs (about 4000 words) to come up with this one.
I’ve had a hard week. Only because I’ve been hard on myself. This is all on me. I have no one else to blame.
I’ve learned some lessons too. I’ve gained some wisdom. And all’s not lost….
I feel sometimes (most times) I get conflicting advice, be it from business books or mentors, or society or mainstream media, whatever it is, I do listen, and I find sometimes I don’t really know which way is up with all these conflicting messages out there in the world.
So, I’m trusting my gut. I have to. I have no other options at this point.
I got tired of trying to play with the BIG BOYS and join their club and bending to their formulas, step-by-step “proven” systems on how to build a business, how to attract clients, and to be quite frank, none of it has worked for me.
That’s because I don’t resonate with inauthenticity. I resonate with heart-centered connections. Fake businesses with their silly ads that put a nice bow around everything and make it seem like life comes in a nice little box with a bow on top – does that really work? I mean it must, obvi, they are making more money than I, but does it really resonate, or is it just fear that people are buying into? I’m sure I can guess.
I don’t want to do fear-based business. (Yet, even my most recent business conference was all about “create fear-based ads and copy”!)
So, once again, I find myself as a lone trailblazer on this path.
And, damn straight that’s how it should be.
You are a trailblazer. No one can live your life for you.
You need to be a lone trailblazer – because anyone who’s in the loop knows that conforming to society doesn’t help anyone out in the long run.
You need to do things YOUR WAY.
With your money. Your business. Your relationships.
Now, you still need mentors/coaches/tools/systems and help, but ultimately, you are at the helm of steering this ship.
We should be doing what is right for us, what works for us, not what works for your neighbour.
If that means investing most of your money in yourself or your business, then do that.
I think this is what I hate so much about the financial industry. There are so many people that think financial planning fits in a box or a step-by-step process.
In fact, anybody that knows me well knows I put the LIONS SHARE of my money into my business, and then after that is done, then I make sure that I’m properly insured, saving, etc. But my investing in myself, in my business, in my purpose (which for me is around transforming the financial industry, but could be anything I deem it to be!) has to come first.
And my point here is that whatever your purpose is should be your biggest investment.
Now, I’m not telling you to be stupid with your money, but at some point, you have to stop listening to the NAYSAYERS and trust your gut.
You know intuitively what is going to drive you and your life’s work forward.
By the way, the NAYSAYERS are alive and well and always ready to give their opinions on your business. Tune them out. Sometimes people don’t need to know everything that is going on.
After a total meltdown this week, I stumbled upon yet more wisdom.
Wisdom is knowing when to speak up. Wisdom is knowing when to shut your mouth. Wisdom is knowing that not everybody is ready to hear your message. Wisdom is knowing that you need to guard your dreams/goals/plans and only share them with your true cheerleaders, and the rest on a “need-to-know” basis.
I also wrote out my MANIFESTO!
I think I’ll attach it because, why not. I’m happy to share this with everyone, maybe in hopes that someone wants to join the movement I’m creating (cause I could really use some help right about now – if you want to be a financial advisor, make money by helping me attract new clients/online affiliates, exciting JV opportunities, etc. I’m hiring people who resonate with my message! If it’s not your gig, then all good!)
In my manifesto, I wrote some of my values (and by the way, I did get this idea from one of my mentors, Kat Loterzo, just in case you were wondering).
IT’S BIG & IT’S BOLD.
One that resonates with me on a deep level that I will take with me through my life’s work and while I’m creating this billion-dollar business:
Intuition before Logic
I need not say more.