This is a message for the CREATIVES & LEADERS only.
People are going to tell you what to do – ALL DAY LONG.
You can’t stop this.
Recently, I’ve been told, sometimes by well-meaning friends, family members and other times by acquaintances and even then sometimes by strangers, on:
- how I should run my business
- how I should write
- how I should look
- how I should do my hair
- how I should get new clients
- how I should market
- what I should or shouldn’t say
People literally DM or PM me on various social platforms, just wanting to share their opinions about my content! People I’ve never met email me and tell me what I should or shouldn’t say! I even had an 80-year-old lady phone me (who lives in another country) tell me I’m on holidays too much! WHAT?!?!?!
(CUE: Kacey Musgraves song “Follow Your Arrow” or “Cup of Tea“)
You can probably relate if you are consistently throwing yourself out there with your art – in whatever form.
So, this is a message for you – my soul clients, my soul sisters, the creatives, the leaders, the people who seriously what to make a change in this world….
LET THE OTHERS BUGGER OFF!
or at least in your brain, your thoughts.
Do you honestly think a true LEADER takes every opinion thrown at him/her?
No, he/she has a few – very few – selected TRUSTED advisers.
He/She tunes out the crowd, the nay-sayers, the “well-wishers”, the “good intentions”!
Think of any leader you know – do you think they go around asking for the opinions of everyone around them?
NO! They take a stand for what they believe in, and what they are doing, and GO FOR IT!
Here’s the thing, if I want to make change happen, I can’t be someone who takes an opinion just to make one person happy.
It keeps ME small.
It keeps me from creating and putting my work out into the world.
It keeps me stuck in people pleaser mode.
That’s what happens when you take OPO (other peoples opinions).
It becomes a drug.
You need to ask everyone what they think about your content, your business, your hair, your logo.
You need the approval of others to even function – its kinda like Facebook likes or Insta love hearts.
I usually ask about 2 people – who I trust and mentor with – about my content, and only about 1% of the time.
This may actually shock you – but I publish my content around 6am on a Tuesday morning and NO ONE proof reads it (I know you are horrified right now – GET THE GRAMMAR POLICE – oh, and those people always seem to PM me too!), no one reads it, no one gives me their opinions on how it sucks or how it’s good – because I REALLY DON’T CARE, in a nice way. (Also, no one seems to be awake when I’m writing at 4:30am!)
Do you get it yet?
There’s a reason its called art.
It flows from you.
The song, the script, the writing, the sculpture, the meal, the invention, the software, the content you create.
If it’s any good – it will have come “through you”.
And when it comes through you “in spirit” then it’s PERFECT.
No need to challenge the FLOW.
No need to question everything that flows from you.
That’s like questioning GOD and saying His work isn’t good enough!
Are you really going to challenge that?
The other thing, is that the people who have the guts to actually comment about my writing or content, in general terms, haven’t even picked up a pen or done a consistent job with the clicking of the keys.
Isn’t that always the case?
It’s like the people who give parenting advice and don’t have kids.
Don’t get me started.
But this isn’t about THOSE PEOPLE – because, let’s face it –
THOSE PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS EXIST!!
This is about you.
This is about me.
This is about the 1% of us humans who so badly have a message, art, MASSIVE amounts of LOVE they want to share with this world.
The second you begin to question yourself, your intentions, your goals – you get swayed, you get pulled away from your art!
You go from a place of strength to a place of weakness, only because you have allowed your intentions to be thwarted.
Your rope of integrity with yourself became frayed.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying be a jerk – I am however saying you need to be DILIGENT in tuning the crowd out – and guess what?!
99.99% of the people are the crowd.
Get specific on a few trusted advisers that you would literally follow off a bridge, and let the rest of the voices go.
In fact, can I tell you a secret.
I used to be FULL of OPINIONS and probably even speak them! I can honestly say, as a person who was scared to publish a book a few years ago and write my truth every week, I no longer find the need to comment on stuff, unless asked – and even then, I’m not an expert on you – nor will I ever be, so who am I to tell you how to run your business, dress, do your hair, decorate your home, or live your life??
I try to stay quiet.
I don’t feel I have much to add in the way of those things anymore.
They’ve become noise to me. They’ve become gossip.
I just want to get down to business and serve my people with my art.
There’s no point hashing it out, there’s no point dwelling on stuff you can’t change.
(Tell that to anyone who watches the news!)
It’s wasting my time.
I don’t take lightly to wasting my time and doing things out of alignment for me (such as watching the news!)
That’s wasting my MOST precious commodity – time.
So, yes, once again – I commit to my art above all.
Draw the line in the sand – knowing many people will comment, many people may not like me – AND THAT’S OKAY!
At the end of the day, you don’t have to answer to them.
And so I create a quote you can quote me on:
Don’t be like dust and settle for the opinions of others. – Lisa Elle
Figure out who you have to answer to within, and then with all your might, strength and power – go forward, a leader in your art.
And today, that means….
Live Your Legacy!
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