No one ever talks about what the H-E-DoubleHockeySticks happens after you reach your goals! We talk always about reaching our goals, and setting them, but what about after you actually accomplish them? Do you just roll over and die?
This is for anyone who has ever felt like they are in a constant state of “trying” to achieve their goals, setting new ones before finishing old ones, struggling in frustration. I have been on this hamster wheel for the last 16 years, and this year I learned the MIND-BLOWING SECRET!
Here’s the crazy part about reaching your goals. Once you have reached them, you then need to go through the whole process again and figure out what you want all over again, or push further, harder, deeper into what you really want your life to look like.
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Accomplishing goals once you have set them out for yourself is actually the easy part. The hard part is in being specific and actually figuring out WHAT THE HECK YOU WANT FROM YOUR LIFE!
Deep down we all know that we can achieve all our goals and that scares us. As my fav money guru, Napoleon Hill says, “What the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve!”
People say fear hold us back from going out and accomplishing our goals and dreams. But I think it’s that we just really haven’t figured out what the f*** we want! Once you do, the rest is action, mechanics, ‘the how’, the part that is left up to God. All we needed to do was decide and believe. We don’t even get that far sometimes or if we do, we play too small – we have cute baby dreams and even some of those we don’t really believe in!
I sit with clients all the time that don’t know what they want. They get swept up in the day-to-day and don’t make time to make their dreams a reality in their life.
This is not how I want to go out! No bloody way. (I’ve been listening to too many British podcasts lately!)
And I am DAMN SURE you don’t want to go out that way. Not really. You know deep down you are here for a reason, a purpose, and you may be sitting there and haven’t quite articulated it.
I think it’s time you articulated what you want from life. I’m A FIRM BELIEVER that YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL! You can have the family, romance, business, dream job, travel, experiences that you want to have without sacrificing you and your wants. If I didn’t believe this I probably would have given up LONG ago!
I think being FEARLESS is a bad thing. Bad word. Who wants to live without FEAR?! I sure don’t. People say “BE FEARLESS”, but you need fear! If you have no fear in your life then you have become complacent. You are comfortable. Comfort is not a place of growth. It’s stagnant. It’s ultimately death…. think about it. You are either growing or you are dying – which way are you headed? I think Tony Robbins always says that, sorry Lou Holtz! (Sometimes, okay most times, I have SOOOOO many gurus in my head, I’m not sure which one said what!)
Fear needs to be present. Fear needs to come along as your passenger, just don’t let it do the driving, as Elizabeth Gilbert says in my fav book, Big Magic (MUST READ!) You need to have that fear – just don’t let it stop you. I really do try to live by the motto, DO ONE THING EVERYDAY THAT SCARES YOU!
There are 2 kinds of people in the world.
The people that don’t even bothering setting goals and let life happen to them. I call them happy wanderers. These people are content with the status-quo. They seem to walk around the planet with not a care in the world. This isn’t me – if you haven’t figured that out yet! Hey, by the way, people like me are sometimes jealous of the happy wanderers – they seem so carefree and oblivious to what is going on in the world – by choice.
Then there are the people who are a cause in the world – by choice. They go make things happen. Their brains are always on. They are always looking at ways of expanding and how they can grow and help the world. They set goals, reach them, or come close to reaching them, and now they are on a new trajectory and need to re-establish new goals and keep leaning in and pushing forward.
I did reach many of the goals I set out for myself in 2016, and in 2017, and I’m back to square one it feels like. NOW WHAT?!
So I find myself sitting here as a new author, well into my blog, podcast, website and branding all done (finally 3.5 years later!) and wondering (once again) where I am going with all of this. I see the big picture at the back end, just not what’s from here to there.
FRUSTRATION.
I’m daily in tears. Usually around 4pm when I think my world is falling apart. I FEEL things may not be working out as planned or originally hoped for. That’s a feeling by the way, not what is actually going on. Feelings FEEL real to us, however, nothing that we can’t change with our thoughts.
These are the thoughts I have had. I want to pull my book off the shelf (the online shelf) and disappear it, even though it just came out. I want to quit everything and go get a 9-5 so my life will be easy. I want to simplify my life to be simple.
Then about 2 seconds into these thoughts, I laugh. I do. I will be crying and laughing at the same time. Maybe I just needed an emotional release – because let’s face it. I would last about 2 seconds at a day job before they’d fire the f*** out of me! Seriously, I’m about as employable as a squirrel.
I get into overwhelm. I feel like quitting my WHOLE life at times. I know other people feel the same way. My trick is that my moments of desperation, depression only last a few minutes, because I now have the tools to pull myself out of that funk, that I didn’t have years ago.
MINDSET IS KEY FOR ALL YOU GO-GETTERS & GOAL SETTERS! I’m writing my reality into existence. (PS my dear, this is how it starts! Daily discipline of writing out your goals and plans – if you don’t do your daily mindset work, you lost the game before you even begun! Read chapter 1 in my book. Mindset is KEY! And I can back this up with about 1000 other books and the Bible too my friends!)
FYI – I had a major breakthrough a few months back! One of my core beliefs is that I believe to be successful you need to work hard and struggle. The truth is you don’t need to. Whatever beliefs you have around making money or reaching your goals could be what is holding you back. You may need to re-program the hardwiring in your brain to think thoughts like, “It’s easy to reach my goals. It’s easy to make money. It’s easy to ….” Then slowly over time begin to BELIEVE your thoughts.
Why do we all make life such a struggle on top of the struggle? Why do we worry? Why do we let negative self-talk rule our day?
Just think that if it can be as easy as saying it will be that easy, then it will be easy. What if that was all it took?
Thoughts produce your actions which create your reality. (PS – THAT IS THE MIND-BLOWING SECRET!)
Have a great week beautiful people!
