How To Fly

“How do you keep your feet on the ground when you were born to fly?” – Sara Evans

I’m learning this. I have had my wing-trainers on, figuratively speaking, and have been a FIT (Flyer-In-Training) since I was 20. I know it takes pilots like 1,500 hours or something to become a professional pilot, however, I’m in hour 12,387 and I still have yet to leave the classroom or take off.

It’s like I’m missing the secret or I was sick they day the handed out the magic wings at school and have been left in the pixie dust ever since.

I was asked to give an empowering talk tomorrow for some amazing ladies. After doing my research, I realized that I know how to fly, but I’ve kept myself grounded for all these years.

Me. Myself. All my fault. All my responsibility.

I thought the secret to flying was persistence. I thought it was repetition. After all, it took Edison over 10,000 times to create the lightbulb, right?!

I have that! I have persistence and I work very hard! However, Edison and all the people flying around my head had something I didn’t.

It’s actually way easier than how crazy hard I’ve been making it out to be all these years.

It’s about trust.

It’s about trusting your gut.

It’s about trusting your instinct.

It’s about trusting your intuition.

It’s about TRUSTING YOURSELF!

ALWAYS!  FULLY! 100% COMPLETELY!

This means: DON’T LET THE OUTSIDE WORLD TELL YOU ANY DIFFERENT!

This means: DON’T LET WELL MEANING PARENTS, SPO– USE, KIDS, SISTERS, BROTHERS, COACHES, COUNSELLORS, BOSSES, CO-WORKERS, and FRIENDS TELL YOU ANY DIFFERENT!

This means: YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO NEEDS TO APPROVE AND TRUST AND BE IN LOVE WITH YOUR IDEAS for your business, for your body, for your life, for your money, for your investments, for your relationships, for your education, for your travels, for your home.

And trust me when I say this is HARD because the world will still throw out their opinions on your life, even when you have not requested they do so.

Are you trusting yourself or relying on others for their opinions about your life or your choices?

When I started writing my book, I had to trust myself without doubt. I was told by a few people not to do it for various reasons. One well-meaning friend told me that she wouldn’t be able to watch me ridiculed or criticized by other people in our industry. I haven’t had to deal with the ridicule or criticism yet but welcome it when it comes my way. I’m also super good with my book, because I didn’t write it for other professional advisors – I wrote it for people who didn’t know the first thing about money or financial planning and want to get their financial life in order – and after you read my book, you will realize, it’s really not a money book at all (spoiler alert!). And even if the whole world hates it, ‘my book is better than the book you haven’t written.’ (I heard that line yesterday and totally loved it!)

So how do you fly? You have to trust yourself beyond question, beyond all doubt. You have to trust yourself day in and day out and never give up on yourself and the ideas, dreams, and plans you have made for yourself.

Don’t give your personal power to the opinions of others – no matter how well-meaning. 

BOTTOM LINE: If you look at your life and your dreams right now, do you think that the only thing holding you back from letting those dreams, ideas, goals, plans take flight is TRUST IN YOURSELF?